Poll: Would you rather be with a Sadist or a Masochist?

[cobra_ky]

Preferably both, since I'm both to varying (not extreme) degrees. (ideally what I want is a fair fight.) If i had to choose, though, I'd definitely pick masochist. I'm kind of a wuss anyway and I wouldn't have to worry about hurting her nearly as much.

 

[swolf]

I'm not big into it but I enjoy a lil bit with my wife. I enjoy biting, getting bitten, scratching, etc but not much more than that.

 

[cuddly_tomato]

This is the Escapist, and thus there are limits to what can be discussed here, so I am not sure how this one will go down... *Ahem*

Ex-masochist, that crap is waaaay too addictive though. The more you get into it the harder it is to get back out.

Pain can be addicting? I see...

Sure it can. Ask any cutter.

 

[p3t3r]

i think i would rather be a sadist

 

[shini]

Sadist. I loathe to feel pain, but have nothing against inflicting it on others if they want it. Moreover someone trusting me enough for that would be a huge turn on.

 

[cuddly_tomato]

Anyway about the pins, I'm sure that's only BDSM fantasy with the exception of very rare cases

*ahem*

The pins was one of the milder examples that came to mind from what I might say "history" if I was at a confession, which I am not, so I will just say that trust me, these things do go on.

From a purely psychological perspective:-

It is a lot more common than you might think. The thing about it is that it tends to be addictive and it tends to feed itself. Once you get to a certain stage with it you become extremely desensitized to actual pain and/or psychological torture during the act. You know when you see stuff on various sites and wonder "how the hell can that person tolerate that?!", it is because your brain enters an almost tranced/narcotized state when you enter the 'zone' as it were, and the brutality actually feels different.

A hopelessly inadequate analogy would be comparing the pain of a bad tooth and the pain you feel after a heavy exercise session. Due to the chemicals flowing through your blood and brain, one sense of pain becomes something you can end up craving, while the other is something you'll do anything to avoid.

Hmm, seems I'm not as aware of BDSM culture as I had thought.

I'd explain it more, but I doubt many here want to hear it.

Besides, there is loads of it about on the internet for those who are genuinely interested. Just watch out for the 95% of sites which are a complete waste of time because they are less about culture and more about finding innovative ways to milk peeps for money.

 

[DominoRBG]

Not gonna lie, I'd rather be the one dealing out the pain rather than receiving it.

 

[Vault Citizen]

I'd probably go with sadist as I'm not that great with pain (which raises the question of why I have tatoos) but I wouldn't go very far with it as with my ex it just got wierd at times.

 

[Jamash]

I'm not going to indulge my masochistic side by directly discussing BSDM with a 15 year old boy over the internet, not while Chris Hansen and his ilk are still at large!

 

[Eldarion]

A masochist: Someone who takes pleasure in having pain inflicted on them (it doesn't necessarily have to be physical pain, can be mental stuff like humiliation).

A sadist: Someone who takes pleasure in inflicting pain on others (once again, not just physical pain).

If these are the definitions, I pick a Sadist girlfriend.

 

[Treefingers]

Neither.

 

[Zannah]

I guess I'd rather be with a sadist (oh wait, technically I am)

 

[cuddly_tomato]

I'm not going to indulge my masochistic side by directly discussing BSDM with a 15 year old boy over the internet, not while Chris Hansen and his ilk are still at large!

It's ok in public, you aren't a perv then.

It is like flashers vs streakers. Show your tackle to two ladies coming out of bingo and you are a perv. Take your kit off and run across Old Trafford during a Man vs Arsenal game, exposing your todger to millions, and you are just having a laugh.