Everything you said basically summed up all that was going through my mind when I saw this thread and the responses. I am actually quite disturbed by the number of people saying they would "kill it". Assuming it's ok to kill HIM just because he's disabled. My family unfortunately went though this sort of thing before. My nephew was a surprise so we didn't know he had this problem until a few days after he was born. Then it was only a matter of keeping him comfortable and happy until he passed on 4 months later.j-e-f-f-e-r-s said:You may as well try and get a few months of love and memories in there before the little bugger passes on.
I think what a lot of people aren't taking into account is that if you don't know about your child's disability before he/she is born then ending his/her life is no longer an option. This is still your child and you will do everything you can to help them survive. It's just our natural instinct. Now, if you knew before hand that your child would be born without most of his brain and wouldn't live past a year then abortion MAY be an option. But it is a much tougher decision than most people seem to realize. Abortion has it's risks to the health of the mother as well. I suppose the question is more "what would you do if you had to choose between aborting your child with a risk to the mother's health and having your child for a few precious months even if your heart is broken at the end?" From experience I can tell you that those will be the happiest and most heart wrenching months of your life. But you will have the memories and will always love that child even after they have passed.
I wouldn't trade those 4 months of love and bonding I had with my nephew for the world, even if it meant taking away the pain and sadness our family went through and is still going through. And I am glad we didn't know about his condition before he was born.