Poll: Your stance on monogamy?

[Angryman101]

Monogamous relationships are great if they work for you, and so are polygamous relationships. Humans have an evolved psyche that let's us move past the base animal instincts (to an extent) of just humping and dumping; but if that way of life works for you, then that's fine. People should do what makes them happy in this context, as long as they're open and conscientious about it with their lovers.

 

[Haz88]

Remembering something from sociology 101. Monogamy is an instutuion in pretty much all societies today, so it's natural for most on here to feel that monogamy is the right thing.
For me monogamy works, but I have been with different partners, so the best I can say is: Let your hormones run wild until you want to settle, as long as you don't hurt anyone unnecessarily.

 

[Giest4life]

Monogamy is the last vestiges of a dying human race--the race of the "last men," as Nietzsche called them. There is nothing good, noble, and praiseworthy about monogamy. Just as there is nothing special with polygamy.

If we were meant to be monogamous we wouldn't have any desire to cheat.

Simple as.

Penguins don't cheat, in-fact most of the time when one's partner dies. It will simply never mate again. Some die soon after, thoughts are from grief. Wanna know why? Because they were born to be monogamous.

Be careful with that, sir. When you say "we" how sure are you that you speak for 100% of the human populace, the dead, the living, and those that are not yet conceived? I'd be careful with generalizations like that....

 

[Tharwen]

We've evolved to develop long-standing and deep relationships with exactly one other person. Part of that mindset is that the relationship lasts as long as only two people are involved. Otherwise they can't maintain it and it becomes very superficial.

As for your second question, I assume that I'd be a part of the society that accepted polygamy in the first (second?) place, so yes.

 

[Mcupobob]

Pffhh You can date/marry whoever you want how many want as long as its consensual. For me, I think one girl is enough drama for me.

 

[TyphoidMary]

If we weren't told our whole lives that we would find that "One special person for us" then I think more people would be more okay with a lot of things they aren't now. But that's mildly off topic.

Monogamy can work if both parties are committed to it, but it is difficult as hell sometimes. Not because of the desire to cheat, that may be low to nonexistent, but because it is really hard to like (or love) one person all the time, especially living with them.

If you want to be monogamous, be so. If you would prefer to fuck anything that stops moving long enough, have at (as long as it's with other consenting adults).

 

[AngelOfBlueRoses]

I've never liked the idea of polygamy, and not because of any religious views or societal views. Perhaps it's because I have a rather naive yet high outlook on love; I'll share my love and passion with one person and that one person only. Inb4 somebody laughs at me. I do have a lover. I have a lover of 2 and a half years and it's still going strong. Once, I did ask for permission from her to hook up with a guy and she agreed. The guy and I didn't make it very far because... it just felt so guilty. I didn't enjoy it at all. Well, I did enjoy it. I just had to stop before any guilty feelings, despite having permission, overwhelmed me. Wow, that sounds dirty.

To sum it up: Monogamy, to me, just feels... right. No other way to say it.

Edited: Just felt like mentioning that if you can make polygamy work, more power to you, I guess. Sleep around, for all I care. That's your right as a human being. I'll stick to my one, truly passionate love.

 

[Ravek]

It's wrong, it goes against our base animal instincts

No it doesn't. Read up on evolutionary biology and game theory.

 

[Yuno Gasai]

I am a monogamous person by nature.

I accept polygamous people, and can understand their point of view - but I do not share it.

I wish to share myself with one person, and one person alone. It just feels right.

 

[ZephrC]

It's neither right or wrong, and it's stupid to pretend sex and how many people you have it with is some kind of great moral dilemma. I prefer monogamy myself, but that has more in common with preferring mint chocolate chip ice cream than it does with preferring not to kill people.

I say as long as you're not directly and quantifiablly hurting someone it's nobody's business but your own.

And that goes for a lot of other things besides sex as well.

 

[TaboriHK]

I know a legit polyamorist that changed my perspective on this entirely. Is her way for everyone? Absolutely not. To each his own. But some people do have needs that can't be met by just one person. People are strange and interesting creatures.

 

[Iron Lightning]

As long as it doesn't harm anyone, I couldn't really care what people choose to do.

 

[Zeromaeus]

Monogamy and polygamy work on a general case by case basis. It really depends on the mindset of the people involved. Most people are raised to think that they have to be bound to a single person and that's what they believe. Some people are psychologically different and don't have a problem with either sharing a partner or having multiple partners or even sharing a partner and having multiple partners. Polygamy isn't wrong in the same sense that monogamy isn't wrong. Hell, as long as all of the individuals are happy, it shouldn't matter.
Me, myself? I'm a one-woman sort of guy, short and simple.

 

[Scars Unseen]

I personally have enough trouble tolerating the one woman that I'm with at times. Having to deal with the unpredictable mood swings of multiple women at a time would drive me batty. That said, I don't support society placing artificial constraints on individuals when no one is being harmed, so I guess my answer is "I really don't give a shit."

Apologies to the, in my experience, rare women out there that are well balanced individuals. I know you have to put up with a bunch of bullshit from us too.

 

[ayailla]

I'm a mushy person. If I'm in love, I can't think about anybody else, so Monogamy makes sense and feels right to me. I know my own feelings, and know that if I start thinking about somebody else in that way, I'm not as in love with my partner as I thought, so I shouldn't be with them anymore.

That's just me, though. Some people feel differently, and I accept that, however I would want my partner to feel the same as me, which, fortunately, he does. ^_^

 

[CoL0sS]

I dunno I'm really a one-woman type of guy, but I think it's ok as long as all parties involved are happy. To me it would feel like cheating.