i tend to date multiple people at the same time, but i would never get married anyway, so this question is kind of lost on me. i don't understand why anyone gets married in the first place, i can tackle monogamy later.
Poll: Your stance on monogamy?
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Hmmm. Personally, I would prefer to stay with one partner. It seems... More special. But if my partner, and we're pretending I actually have a girlfriend for now, decided she wanted to sleep with a guy, quite honestly, I would be okay with it. As long as she stayed emotionally loyal to me, I would be okay with it. Not thrilled, obviously. But I wouldn't be angry, and if she decided she wanted to continue the affair, I would be okay with it and support her with it.
I still think that monogamy is a better option, but I can understand other peoples points of view.
I still think that monogamy is a better option, but I can understand other peoples points of view.
It's right, because it feels right. In all the world, I would give anything for just one partner/spouse/whatever-the-hell-you-wanna-call-it. I resent promiscuous people for taking what I desire most and treating it like so much garbage. ¬_¬
I think that marriage should come down to personal choice. What happens between consenting adults should not be for the government to meddle in.
I would practice it as long as each party was comfortable about adding another person to the marriage. I've read a story once about a gay couple and a lesbian couple marrying each other then considering them all to be married to each other. They were all fine with it, why should other people not be?
To say one "-gamous" arrangement is preferable to another is to assume information one does not have. Namely, what the people involved want.
That is to say, what the people who would be included in the biggest relationship would want. Only with that can a decision be made.
EDIT: Lack of sleep makes my word choice go funny.
That is to say, what the people who would be included in the biggest relationship would want. Only with that can a decision be made.
EDIT: Lack of sleep makes my word choice go funny.
But that's where it's awesome 'cause you can have mega ultra huggle tiem with more that one person! Isn't that better?
I'm going to go with, each individual has their right to choose how their relationships form. If you feel uncomfortable in a polyamorous relation, then don't get involved in one, and make it clear to your partner that you don't want one.
If you are comfortable, than so long as all others involved are like minded, go for it. Consenting adults shouldn't be limited by obsolete traditions in their decisions, but neither should they feel the need to break those traditions just for revolution's sake.
If you are comfortable, than so long as all others involved are like minded, go for it. Consenting adults shouldn't be limited by obsolete traditions in their decisions, but neither should they feel the need to break those traditions just for revolution's sake.
To all the people who say monogamy is right because it feels right, let me ask: have any of you dated or engaged multiple partners openly? We've been conditioned in society to be ashamed of such things, but I fail to see any documentation in any religious or political text where it says you must only love one other person. If it weren't for humanity's possessive nature, where we say "He's MINE!" or "She's MINE!", then polygamy wouldn't be so frowned upon. If you love two different people for separate reasons but love them equally, then is it really fair to anyone that you'd abandon one of them for another?
Alright I am in no way a biologist or anything this is just stuff I have read/learned and understand to be true.
1: Genetically All animals (Humans included) are genetically programmed to reproduce. Some animals have either decided or perhaps have decided on their own that only 1 mate for life is needed. However most animals are programmed differently, Males are supposed to go around and mate with females because they want their genetics to be passed on. Females are programmed to only want to mate with the best males. And by best I mean the most suited to make offspring that will survive and become the best. Like if a dragon can't breath fire and all of a sudden one can, every female is gonna say "I want my kids to do that because I wont have to cook for them!" If you catch my drift there.
2) I think that humans can be Monogamous. It very much depends on the couple however. If everyone does feel the love for everyone else it can work. I'm not saying however that some guy says "I can have multiple wives because my religion, creed, beliefs say I can!" is right. It has to be acceptable to all parties in the relationship in order for it to work.
As for would I practice? As of this point no. I have only found 1 that I need to keep me happy and I doubt I would need any more than that.
1: Genetically All animals (Humans included) are genetically programmed to reproduce. Some animals have either decided or perhaps have decided on their own that only 1 mate for life is needed. However most animals are programmed differently, Males are supposed to go around and mate with females because they want their genetics to be passed on. Females are programmed to only want to mate with the best males. And by best I mean the most suited to make offspring that will survive and become the best. Like if a dragon can't breath fire and all of a sudden one can, every female is gonna say "I want my kids to do that because I wont have to cook for them!" If you catch my drift there.
2) I think that humans can be Monogamous. It very much depends on the couple however. If everyone does feel the love for everyone else it can work. I'm not saying however that some guy says "I can have multiple wives because my religion, creed, beliefs say I can!" is right. It has to be acceptable to all parties in the relationship in order for it to work.
As for would I practice? As of this point no. I have only found 1 that I need to keep me happy and I doubt I would need any more than that.
For me, monogamous relationships feel right simply because they do. Granted, I've never been in a relationship, so I can't really base it on anything. I just get the feeling that polygamous relationships could end badly due to feelings of jealousy and whatnot.
"Goes against our base instincts" is a pretty bad reasoning for polygamy, not to say there are no reasons for polygamy. I personally am a monogamist, not because I believe it is morally right or correct, but because that's how I function romantically. If people want to be poly, that's their decision, but communication is always important, no matter how the relationship is structured.