Poll: Your True Gender [Expanded]

[Daedalus1942]

Im male.. But one of my GF's friends is a shemale..

Or a dude with breasts if you like.. He is gonna remove his penis soon and make a "vagina" out of it too though..

I dont mind, he/she is a great person, and that is all that matters..

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Then She is not a shemale... that is a derogitory term and is usually only applied to the porn industry. She is a male to female transsexual like myself.
-Tabs<3-

Derogatory? Heavens no. It's just a name that describes a person with parts male parts female. Ergo, She (female) Male (male, duh). It's not derogatory, it's about how the name is used (and as far as I'm aware it's pretty much how I just described) not how you personally take it.

I'm sorry but the word you seem to be hunting for there is Intersex.
I have NEVER met another transsexual or intersexed individual in my life that appreciates that term being used to describe them.
Your facts are wrong, I'm sorry.
Shemale is a derogitory term for pre operative transsexuals. It is mainly used in the porn industry and by people who are ignorant to the proper acceptable terms.
-Tabs<3-

Then you and all the people you know are getting offended over nothing. Nothing.
http://www.google.com.au/search?hl=en&source=hp&q=define:shemale&btnG=Google+Search&meta=&aq=f&oq=

Does it say anywhere that you are supposed to get offended by that word?
It's like me being offended every-time someone calls me 'white boy' in a non derogatory manner. Sure it's been used to insult white guys from time to time, but all it means is that I'm a white boy (which last time I checked, I was). I certainly don't take it any other way than a description of me (albeit a little rough around the edges but nothing to get upset over) unless there is negative inflection in the person's tone of voice.

Why must people insist on making words mean things that they simply don't without the required negative inflection?
Why do people take negative face value instead of contextual?
What has happened to reason and meaning in spoken English -- I ask -- what?

we are not getting offended over "nothing".
the word shemale is VERY often used as a derogitory term for transwomen like myself in a transphobic manner by ignorant people.
i'm sick of this conversation. I'm not going to be told i'm wrong by someone who clearly knows nothing on the subject.
Telll you what... find a male to female transsexual and call her a shemale, see then what happens.

If you did that to me I would slap you, and i'm sure the rest of the transfeminine community would agree with my supposed offense over "nothing" -.-
-Tabs<3-

 

[Andantil]

looks like the population of the escapist is overwhelmingly male. I am not surprised.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

Male. only without the body hair... *shifty eyes*

There,there. I can give you some of my manliness. *Rips chesthair off and offers it to you*

But I'm a man who is way too hairy <.<

And I'm a man who doesn't want to be hairy. Keep your chest hair to yourself mister!

 

[Mr. Socky]

I'm definitely a guy. I involuntarily throw up at the mention of Twilight, and since I just mentioned it, I'm going to go throw up.

 

[Daedalus1942]

Same as hermaphrodite is usually offensive to the intersex community.

Okay, I can kinda deal with the pointless negative inflection on Shemale, but 'hermaphrodite' is offensive how now? It's a word derived from Greek mythos (Hermes and Aphrodite, to be particular) and it literally means To posses the characteristics of both a male and a female at the same time. It has been used for centuries to describe genetic 'intersex' things (generic particle, don't start on me using the word things) in the natural world. Snails for example are Hermaphroditic, that is to say that they posses both male and female genitalia, ergo what you'd call intersex (if I'm not mistaken).
Please explain why the 'intersex' community hates a word that has been in use for so long and is possibly the most benign, unbiased* descriptor ever used for them?

*Even 'intersex' holds some bias as a word used in commonplace instead of a word deemed to be offensive (for no apparent reason) and henceforth is more biased than hermaphroditic.

Well, my understanding is simply that it's inaccurate. I didn't mean to say "hate" but I suppose "offensive" implies that... so maybe I was a bit inaccurate on my part! Sorry! My knowledge is primarily from intersex friends, educators & literature from intersex education organizations. Might not be true for you, your community or intersex friends!

You are totally correct that snails are hermaphrodites... which speaks to why many members of the intersex community don't use it to describe themselves. It's very rare, if not entirely unheard of, for a human to have both male and female genitals fully formed and in working order, like a snail or like the child of Hermes & Aphrodite! Someone who is intersex usually has a variation of some combination but almost never what one (rightly, biologically & mythologically) would recognize as hermaphroditic. It's just biologically, medically and physically inaccurate. Hopefully not something that needs arguing. I was just trying to help someone who seemed to want to be an ally to start learning good beginner ways to act as an ally! I say hooray to that and no offense intended! Hopefully no hard feelings!

According to Gina Wilson of the Organisation Intersex International, there has never been a true hermaphrodite (that is able to procreate with ones self due to male and female genitalia fully functional and developed) recorded in the history of the human race.
Intersex individual are intersexed, they're not hermaphrodites, they aren't even pseudo-hermaphrodites, just intersexed.
That being said there are many hermaphroditic species in the animal kingdom. No human has ever been recorded as a true hermaphrodite though. intersex people were originally classed as hermaphrodites but it was an incorrect term and was popular around the 80's.
that word has since been discarded in favour of Is or intersex, and I have several Is friends who are perfectly fine with that classification.
-Tabs<3-

 

[no_more_usernames]

Im a man and happy being one, but i am also very effeminate so... yeah im girlish but i wouldnt want to "biologically" be a girl ^.^

 

[Lerxst]

Gender or sex? The two aren't exactly alike.

If I weren't married and didn't actually outright "like" woman, most people would have me figured for gay.

Liking classical music, not eating meat and meditating daily aren't exactly "manly" things to admit to... I probably lean more towards the female side of gender than I do the male side, despite being of male sex.

 

[Murais]

I'm definitely a man. I'm not a chest-thumping macho man (can be at times), but I'm a man. I've got a soft and sensitive side, and on more than one occasion I've had a female friend tell me that I "just feel like one of the girls". Which actually enrages me to no end. Mostly because I'm a heterosexual man.


Soooo... I'm a man with feminine tendencies? I'm not really sure, to be honest.

 

[Tanner The Monotone]

Male. only without the body hair... *shifty eyes*

That just means you probably won't go bald, so be happy about that.

 

[Nimcha]

I feel like a woman, and looking down my shirt I think my body reflects that.

 

[sheogoraththemad]

*looks in his pants* yep I am a man

 

[eljawa]

I'm the only one that picked "Other" so far

Anyway, I picked other because I am a male and I'm comfertable being a male, but I have always thought of the "Man!" type person as not me.

I'm pretty feminine in my opinion, I'd don't mean I get along with them better, because I don't get along with many people, I just prefer Tomboyish girls that take charge in a relationship, most stereotypical "Guy" types I just can't stand, I prefer to not be put in the group of MAN

I also can appreciate a guy and I think I could even date/love a guy, I have never taking that Bi-sexual route, but i'm open-minded about it. I however love being a male and wouldn't change it...So therefore I choose *OTher*

I also have a girlish quality in appearance and little to no body hair...

I feel the same way as you (not to the same extent....) maybe to a lesser degree

but i voted male. Imma guy, even if i dont watch football and dont enjoy all manly things. I think the term for it is "metrosexual"...or rather I would be if I had more money to care about my fashion sense with

I've had a female friend tell me that I "just feel like one of the girls".

Been there too...

 

[quantum mechanic]

A little fuzzy on orientation, but definitely female.

 

[Sebenko]

I've got a wang. I quite like having a wang.

Yeah, I think I'm male. Good enough for me.

 

[Blunderman]

If you're asking my biological gender, then I'm a veritable man, through and through.

However, if you're asking my identity, I'd have to say I'm a mix of both, since qualities are often stereotyped as either "male" or "female" and I cherish many qualities that most would call female, as I find them superior to the male counterparts.

Of course, the male/female dichotomy outside biology is a gross simplification and almost an insult to the subject matter (i.e. human beings capable of critical thinking and as such understanding the difference between absolute and statistic).

Incidentally, it's somewhat disheartening to see so many posts on this forum regarding gender and sexuality. Why is this so important? All these topics concern nothing but semantics and compartmentalisation baptised in bigotry or some version of hate.

I can't believe people care so much about something that has not even the slightest bit of relevance to their own lives.

 

[Nimcha]

I can't believe people care so much about something that has not even the slightest bit of relevance to their own lives.

But wouldn't you say forums like these are the perfect place to discuss those things?

 

[Aisaku]

*points to avatar*

I'm all for all expressions of gender... as for myself I'm somewhere in-between.

 

[PhiMed]

What gender, you ask?

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Totally kidding, by the way.

 

[GeorgW]

I'm a man, but I'm actually quite surprised at the poll. I always thought we were really equally matched between men and women around here, but maybe it's just the more avid posters.