CpT_x_Killsteal said:
I can just imagine someone clicking on this from the front page expecting something completely different.
So, porn causing unrealistic expectations for both men and women is something we've heard much about. We've heard all about the effects it has on different types of people, from false expectations of orgasms, genitalia, flexibility, looks, etc.
However. What is not often mentioned when discussing this, is porn not involving actual human beings. Would animated porn create even more horrendously unrealistic expectations? Would people find it ridiculous and not generate unrealistic expectations? Does it encourage becoming a NEET and buying a Sakura body pillow? Will my future girlfriend expect tentacles to sprout from my back? Will she dump me when I do not meet this expectation? These are the important questions that the main stream refuse to answer, so I must turn to you, Escapists.
Well, to be honest I consider it a non-issue. Porn by it's very nature is a form of entertainment and the people hiring and casting for these things are of course creating an idealistic illusion in many cases. Part of why Porn is 'adult entertainment' is the understanding and perspective to know that it's not real and expect the same in real life. This is one of the reasons why "porn" is off limits to children, it isn't just about witnessing the sex act itself, but how the youth can confuse fantasy and reality especially when part of the fantasy is to try and pass it off as something that could be real, get where I'm coming from?
When it comes to animated pornography I see that as a non-issue because the sheer unreality of looking at animated artworks, much like those that are drawn, adds another layer to things making it harder for people to confuse this with reality. After all even a teenager understands you can draw anything you want with enough talent.
Of course the other point that comes into a lot of this is social class and location. What's a realistic expectation depends on who you are as much as the rest of society and how the world is. As a general rule for most of us normal types towards the bottom of the pyramid it's uncommon to find a really "hot" lover or mate. Looks are a social advantage and those who are good looking actually tend to gravitate towards the upper social brackets. Exceptions exist of course, but that's the general rule. After all when you think about it there are a LOT of porn stars, models, actresses, call girls, etc... out there. Most of them are however making a living off their looks, getting together with people that look for them, or getting involved seriously with people who have money, talent, or both. You'll also notice that the average looks of the population tends to vary depending on where you are, you go to say tourist areas and you'll notice a higher population of "the beautiful people" than elsewhere because those running the businesses there tend to hire appealing people to act as the face of their business. Areas of Vegas, Orlando, etc.. if you really look you'll notice plenty of average and below average looking people, but have a much easier time finding pretty faces among the residents and employees. Not to mention that while it's not guaranteed when two "beautiful people" have offspring it does increase the chances of the offspring hitting the "genetic lottery" so to speak. It can be somewhat odd but the funny thing is that some of these soap operas and such set in say Beverly Hills aren't being entirely unrealistic in having very good looking casts because that's where the money is and that is where a lot of these people congregate. On the other hand for the masses of plebes living in other places things aren't anything like that, since we mostly look for exceptions, and generally see ourselves dealing with normal or ugly looking people by these standards simply because they are the ones who haven't moved on to one of those other areas.
To put this into perspective, let's say your some jock with a million dollar a year trust fund living out on the west coast among various gated communities and the like. Your likely to be surrounded by beautiful women (or men if that's your thing) and can simply "score" with someone that looks like a model pretty easily, indeed you might really have such people throwing themselves at you, because your in good shape, and have enough money to provide for whomever your with very well. What's more your in an area where attractive people congregate specifically to try and score success with their looks. Likewise, you take a thousand dollars to Vegas you can probably score with a beautiful person easily, and it might even be one of those same porn stars we're talking about (some even offer to make private movies with people in general). Finding beautiful people is not difficult if you put in the effort, or have been blessed with the right benefits.
That said, as I pointed out, most kids don't have a firm grasp on this kind of reality despite what they might think, so of course them seeing porn is not usually wise. Unrealistic expectations on the other hand is also very subjective, and it's one of the reasons why I don't take a lot of the "SJW" stuff seriously. I do not begrudge people for having more, and better, opportunities than I do. Part of growing up for the average person is simply understanding that your reality is winding up with an average or ugly person, and being happy that you find someone you like and complement, that comes with time. For the most part those who complain about "unrealistic expectations" seem to be jealous over the fact that some people do get it all while they do not. To be honest I'd guess that you could probably consider 10% of the population (1 out of 10) people to be among "the beautiful people", it's just that they tend to congregate in very specific areas in large numbers so aren't seen as much through general society (though it does happen) giving the impression that really nice looks are a lot more rare than they actually are. You aren't going to get the "Baywatch" experience on your average public beach, but on certain private beaches? You'd probably be pleasantly surprised of course but, that isn't "for you" as one of the normal people so to speak.
To put it further into the grounds of personal experience, let's say you go to Foxwoods or Mohegan Sun where I used to work. Compare the waitresses and such that are assigned to the publically accessible casinos, even the high roller sections, to say the ones that are assigned if you reserve a private table, or wind up gambling at the top of the Pequot tower, or drinking in one of the private hotel bars also off ground level or so on. Ditto for porter services and other stuff, or say the beach crowd at a public beach like Ocean Beach, to some of the private beaches, or even move out of my old area of SE Connecticut to the wealthier parts of the state in a general sense.
