Psst he is in the friend zone

[GeeksUtopia]

Yes oh my god it's another friendzone post. I was with my friends (which all my friends are women, don't know how that happened, but ) So as I was with them, all of them were talking about how they just broke up with one douche and how the next one was a douche +1, so I am thinking, "well you get what you choose, and I see where this is going." So by the time the conversation was drawing to an end they all wondered where the hell can they find a good guy for once. Me angered by hearing this all the time finally snapped and shouted, "IN THE F***ING FRIENDZONE WHERE YA LEFT THEM TO DIE!!!" And in unison they said nah. And I asked them why not, and asked about the other guy friends they knew. Some answers I got back was that some of the other guys weren't as good looking or they were a little off, but at the same time they were their best friends. So in their defense I asked if they were always their for them, and if they were as nice to you as a true gentleman should. They all said yes. Yet they still denied them. So women why did y'all invent the friendzone? Cause as a man I would like to know the purpose, cause obviously it's not a circle of men who are potential dates.

 

[GeeksUtopia]

Well actually I have a gf already, these are friends I got along with ever since I was in elementary with the childish thought that cartoons and toys were freaking amazing

 

[DirtyJunkieScum]

What the hell do you mean "why did y'all invent the friendzone?" They like these guys but don't fancy them. Is it that hard to understand?

 

[General Twinkletoes]

Because they're your friends doesn't mean they have to go out with you. Friend zone is dumb.

 

[Vault101]

So women why did y'all invent the friendzone? .

cause were evil bitches involved in a global feminist conspiracy

OBVIOUSLY

 

[scorptatious]

So women why did y'all invent the friendzone? .

cause were evil bitches involved in a global feminist conspiracy

OBVIOUSLY

Kenji will be interested to hear about this.

 

[Keoul]

What the hell do you mean "why did y'all invent the friendzone?" They like these guys but don't fancy them. Is it that hard to understand?

I suppose what he's saying is that although women complain that there is "no good guys out there" there's actually plenty, it's just that they put them in the friend zone.
The moment women stop calling all guys assholes and going on about how there isn't any good guys out there is the moment the friendzone ceases to exist.

 

[Keoul]

Oh so it never existed.

Damn man you seem severely against the whole concept of the friendzone.
What I'm saying, is that the friendzone exists because girls continuously say how there are no good guys out there when the people who do meet all their specifications are ignored.

Not meeting their specifications isn't the only reason guys are "friend zoned". The girl could actually be in love with him but refuses to date him because she doesn't want to ruin their friendship.

But again if girls(not saying all of them just the ones that complain) didn't constantly go out with "bad boys" and then go on about how all guys are the same all guys are assholes maybe the chaps in the friendzone would just accept that the girl just isn't into him.

TL;DR If girls stop complaining then guys wouldn't have pointed out their hypocrisy in the friendzone thus it would have never existed.

 

[Keoul]

Well it is bullshit really

Cmon, give some reasons

You are a mind reader? Clearly they don't meet their specifications if they are refusing to date them. The examples in the OP were really bloody obviously not people who met their specifications.

So they're good enough to be best friends (therefore nice guys) but not good enough to date?

I'm doubtful that really happens much if at all.

Cause in this day and age girls totally ask guys out all the time. Either the guy asks them out or they're too shy to do it because of reasons stated above, yes there are exceptions but those are rare.

Or he could accept it anyway. It's irrelevant what she does. She shouldn't need to tell him, he should be able to figure it out on his own. If it's too much to expect him to figure out on his own then he's probably too young to date. It's a reasonable expectation of any adult to be able to figure it out on their own.

They have accepted it. They will not get a chance with the girl. But they are nice guys, they are best friends with the girl. The hypocrisy(I guess this should be irony) is that they will constantly say they're just looking for "a nice guy" but they'll always ignore the one closest to them.

There is no hypocrisy.

Fiddlesticks you may be right. Irony maybe? Saying they want a nice guy when really they want a hot guy with ripped muscles?

Also incase we get into an argument about what "nice" means

Niceof a person) Pleasant in manner; good-natured; kind: "he's a really nice guy".

 

[Keoul]

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Welp I give up
If you don't think the friendzone exists go right on ahead. Looks like you won't budge. I just ask you be less aggressive to people who do >>

Maybe you're desperate for a date, but as someone who isn't, presumably because standards for who you want to date are higher than 'nice'.

 

[Vegosiux]

The two are not mutually exclusive. Also if they're saying they want a nice guy that doesn't mean it is their full criteria. If I break up with a girl who cheated on me and say "I want a girl who doesn't cheat on me" that does not mean it is my full criteria and that I'll take any girl who wouldn't cheat on me.

Yes, but it kinf od implies, even if unintentionally, that it's on the top of you priority list, that's the thing. If you single out one thing, it's normal for others to assume you consider it more relevant, more important.

 

[b3nn3tt]

I asked them why not, and asked about the other guy friends they knew. Some answers I got back was that some of the other guys weren't as good looking or they were a little off, but at the same time they were their best friends. So in their defense I asked if they were always their for them, and if they were as nice to you as a true gentleman should. They all said yes. Yet they still denied them. So women why did y'all invent the friendzone? Cause as a man I would like to know the purpose, cause obviously it's not a circle of men who are potential dates.

I really had to pick up on this section I'm afraid. The qualities that people look for in friends are not necessarily the same qualities that they look for in romantic partners. Further to that, I sincerely doubt that simply being 'nice' is sufficient enough incentive to date someone. If your friends aren't interested in pursuing a romance with their male friends, it is because they aren't attracted to them, simple as that. Also, this sentence:

Cause as a man I would like to know the purpose, cause obviously it's not a circle of men who are potential dates.

worries me. This gives the reather unpleasant implication that the only reason you are friends with women is because you see them as potential dates. I don't know if that's how you meant it, but that's how it sounds. People are not, generally, only friends with those they would consider having a relationship with.