Though I understand your point on the first problem, I still can't agree. But that goes into further family issues I rather not go into and my ability to go with the flow.moment_fast said:Honestly, your Dad is just looking out for your best interests. If it is your dream to be a game designer and you know fully what being a game designer is about, have looked into it and aren't under the impression that you will be sitting in an office coming up with cool ideas for games and/or cool mechanics for games, then go for it. You'll regret not having gone after what you want to do if you end up stuck in a cubical working 9-5 shifts doing boring work that you don't enjoy for the rest of your life. As cliche as it is, life is short and you will spend most of your life working, so you may as well spend your time doing something you are passionate about instead of taking the secure way which ends up being easy, boring, and not fulfilling at all. There is a reason why there is a stereotype about boring jobs where people sit at a desk all day doing work they don't understand.Elfgore said:I almost stormed out of my Dad's house last week because the ass pissed me off.
Summary: I've wanted to be a game designer for the past 6 years, even with poor math skills. Set my self up for a school with good program, guy at the game design major tells me "it isn't going to happen". So a month before school starts I switched colleges and am probably going for a business or history major. My Dad gave me a lecture on how it was just the guy's "opinion" and how I should "go for my dream". I pretty much said I didn't want to be 22, a college dropout, living with my mother, working a dead end job, and owing 80k. I rather go a safe easy way. He claims he lives a life of regret because he didn't follow his dreams, yet I never have heard him complain about his job once in the 10 years he has worked there, and how he was "let down" by me and angry at my mother for agreeing with me. Downright pissed me off.
I feel in a couple of years I may be just like King Michael and complete cut my Dad out of my life. Guy is a greedy, selfish, asshole that only cares about himself. Bastard will pay for an airline ticket for his new wife and her daughter but won't give his own son gas money after he just turned 16 with no job. He filled my tank and told me "I better have a job by the time it is empty." I understand self reliance, but come on! Jobs just don't fall out of the damn sky, especially for a unskilled 16 year old. The worst thing is, the guy makes over 6 figures so he could easily give me gas money until I got a job but nope, better find a job in a month or no driving.
If you can't tell I kinda just vented a little about my father, maybe not psycho but annoying, asshole, and selfish come to mind. Man, I feel good right now!
As for the gas thing, it's not about the money. I am sure your dad could spend all of his cash giving you gas money to drive around to anywhere you want without much of an issue, but there are two reasons that he isn't. 1. In collage, there is no way that you will be driving unless your manage to get a job, and there is a good chance that you won't be able to/want to due to having to focus on school. He is trying to get you use to the fact that you don't get freebies in life away from home. 2. The fact that him giving you money would take away from the lesson in responsibility that he is trying to teach you. While it may be hard for you to get a job and have a company hire you, he is trying to make it so that you are that much more motivated to get the job, meaning that you will most likely do a better job writing your resume and spend more time sending it to as many locations as you can. I'm sure that getting a job is not the first thing that any of us would want to do as teens and that is why he is pushing you so hard.
All and all your father is just trying to get you ready for how things are in the future, and he doesn't want you to end up growing up to be someone who is working a job they hate, or end up with the belief that things will just fall into place for them.
Now the second one I can respond to in full. The reason it pissed me off was he just gave me a month to find a job. If he would have said "Hey as long as you are actually making an effort to find a job then I will help you". I understand perfectly that nothing falls into your hands. I paid for every piece of tech I own. My TV, PS3, Laptop, DS, and iphone by working my last two years of high school. I wanted a job so bad as soon as I could drive, because I wanted all of this stuff. I'm now planning on attending college and working, while paying for my own gas money on a daily 50 minute drive. The funny thing is, I moved into my mother's before I ran out of gas and she gave me gas money until I got a job. So I needed no help in learning responsibility of money. When I was planning on moving away for college, I would be paying for everything I needed, which I had plenty of money saved up in the bank for. Maybe it's because my older sister is bad with money he thinks I must be too.