I really don't have an issue with PDA. I suppose it can be annoying if it's full on contact, but I rarely see that happen. Most other PDA I don't really care about. I have better things to spend my time worrying about.
Public Displays of Affection
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I can take PDA to a point, and I try to be respectful of other people's limits in my own displays. If my boyfriend and I are out doing stuff, generally we'll be holding hands or walking with our arms around each other. Sometimes, I'll lean up for a cheek or (quick) lips kiss, or nuzzle him a little. We're a very touchy-feely cuddly couple, and for the most part people think it's adorable.
I'll admit to having done much more than that in public before (although never to the point of having full-on sex, that's just uncool).
I'll admit to having done much more than that in public before (although never to the point of having full-on sex, that's just uncool).
I think that in public places (like parks, side-walks, etc) people should just try and keep it in their pants (and no, I don't mean to both undo your flies and do it through your pants!). I'm fine with anything as long as it isn't sex (or masturbation). I may not enjoy people sucking face like the other person stole their filling, but what I enjoy isn't important, because it is none of my business. The only reason I'm opposed to public displays of sticking each other is because normally there are children in those public places, and children shouldn't have to see that if the parents don't want them to.Cavatica said:
Although if you really can't help yourself, at least find a somewhat private place to do it, like in the park, behind a tree, in the shade, away from the main thoroughfare/play-sets. If you know the 'shaded, secluded park areas' I'm talking about, then I don't think I need to explain further, and if you don't ... then I've got nothing, maybe you should go to more parks.
EDIT: Oh yeah, I forgot the reason I quoted you! I'm a virgin, and I consider myself fairly lenient about this stuff.
Hand-holding and a brief kiss are fine, I'm very uncomfortable with anything more and I'm *massively* uncomfortable with PDAs in a place where you can't easily leave, i.e. a party where everyone is sitting around the fire at night and some people are talking and two people are sucking face and groping. If I just drove two hours out of my way to be at an event, it sucks to have to turn around and go home simply because a couple can't take it back to their damn tent.
Hah kissing hardcore kissing, sucking face its all good to me and i do it with my girl. Groping too...actually she gropes my ass and my d*%& alot more than i do her boobs or ass. X_X
But i dont mind it i mean whyu would i. Im thinking when it gets a bit warmer down here to do a quick shag in the park
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I also dont mind people doing PDA (lol its now a term huh) i find it amusing and besides...good on them. I can see how sometimes single people get annoyed by that but hey...once you guys get a parthner then you will probably do something similar.
But i dont mind it i mean whyu would i. Im thinking when it gets a bit warmer down here to do a quick shag in the park
pPI also dont mind people doing PDA (lol its now a term huh) i find it amusing and besides...good on them. I can see how sometimes single people get annoyed by that but hey...once you guys get a parthner then you will probably do something similar.
There are two options:
1. You make out in public. You're comfortable with that. Other people aren't comfortable with it. Overall comfort factor: low
2. You don't make out in public. You're comfortable with that. Other people are comfortable with it. Overall comfort factor: high
Is your saliva so important to your significant other that you would ask strangers to alter their fundamental social standards? If yes, fine, but remember that you're kind of a dick.
1. You make out in public. You're comfortable with that. Other people aren't comfortable with it. Overall comfort factor: low
2. You don't make out in public. You're comfortable with that. Other people are comfortable with it. Overall comfort factor: high
Is your saliva so important to your significant other that you would ask strangers to alter their fundamental social standards? If yes, fine, but remember that you're kind of a dick.
If I want to kiss my girlfriend in public, I'm damn well going to kiss her. We hold hands, and I often walk with my arm around her waist. When I say 'kiss', I mean a kiss on the cheek, or perhaps a peck on the lips. It's affectionate, not explicit. Oh, and let's not forget: Nothing says "I love you" like a firm, open-palm slap on the behind.
If it bothers you, that honestly amuses me. Go ahead and ask me to stop. I will reply with a hearty laugh and a "No". To be honest, I've never seen anyone react in any way to anything we've done. Nobody has said anything to us about our PDA, and it's never been anything particularly raunchy so there's never been an issue.
Personally, I don't really care what you do in public as long as you're not breaking a law. If you're doing it in public, you don't mind people seeing. If you're showing off (not like I've ever really noticed anyone showing off since middle school), you're not scoring or losing any points of favor with me.
One note though:
If you ever touch me or hug me or call me "Bro" and I have not given you some form of invitation to do so, I WILL hurt you. Nobody shows PDA to me without my consent. Nobody. Naturally, my girlfriend never has to ask permission to show her affection, and the same goes for my immediate family. However, no stranger, friend or acquaintance gets to come within a foot of my person without my approval.
If it bothers you, that honestly amuses me. Go ahead and ask me to stop. I will reply with a hearty laugh and a "No". To be honest, I've never seen anyone react in any way to anything we've done. Nobody has said anything to us about our PDA, and it's never been anything particularly raunchy so there's never been an issue.
Personally, I don't really care what you do in public as long as you're not breaking a law. If you're doing it in public, you don't mind people seeing. If you're showing off (not like I've ever really noticed anyone showing off since middle school), you're not scoring or losing any points of favor with me.
One note though:
If you ever touch me or hug me or call me "Bro" and I have not given you some form of invitation to do so, I WILL hurt you. Nobody shows PDA to me without my consent. Nobody. Naturally, my girlfriend never has to ask permission to show her affection, and the same goes for my immediate family. However, no stranger, friend or acquaintance gets to come within a foot of my person without my approval.
Personally I couldn't care less what other do in public, it's there own business and therefore is no concern of mine.
I've seen a man getting his dick sucked at Palm Beach, a kind of multi-pool indoor waterpark type thing, I've also seen men and women walk around the same place in the nude, so anything short of fucking in public probably won't bother me, and hell maybe even that wouldn't bother me.
I see a hint of angst here and there.. hmm... so LONELY! :3
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I don't have a problem with PDA's. Probably get to the snogging stage and it's a little unnerving sometimes, but hey WHY ARE YOU WATCHING? You can look away at any time.
My Girlfriend and I don't go over the top in public, but hey, why should we care? We don't do it to spite you
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I don't have a problem with PDA's. Probably get to the snogging stage and it's a little unnerving sometimes, but hey WHY ARE YOU WATCHING?
You can look away at any time. My Girlfriend and I don't go over the top in public, but hey, why should we care? We don't do it to spite you
Well, given I've shagged in a public park with no more than a waist-high wall separating us from all the people who'd come to see the new Christmas lights around twenty metres away, I have no problems with public displays of affection. You're not being forced to look, after all.
This is pretty much how I fell about it too.crop52 said:
Seeing people happy together makes me happy, that's how this whole empathy thing is supposed to work, the cutest thing in the world is seeing an old couple holding hands or having a quick kiss, it makes me happy to be alive.
Today me and my girlfriend left each others company and wont see each other for a sizable period of time, when at the ferry terminal she started crying (if you were leaving me you would be crying too) surely it would of been more awkward for people around us if I hadn't hugged her and given her a kiss.
PDA is sweet as long as it is affectionate.
Another thing, when in public I do tend to slap my girlfriends rear parts, not for any sexual reason but just to see if I can embarrass her, would this count as PDA?
For those who say you're not being forced to look... I'm always certain that's not always the case as some examples would suffice.
I worry what I'd do if I caught a couple like you and your girl. Honestly, if you'd told me that you got sent to jail for a month due to public indecency, I'd laugh at you and say it'd serve you right.
This I can tell you right now is my biggest worry and nightmare. A paranoid concern you could say that one day I'll be out minding my own business and I'll accidentally spy a couple rutting around outside, where anyone can just walk over and see. All these people wanting to do public things. And I bet you didn't give a damn about whether you got caught because all you wanted was to get your rocks off. And this notion infuriates me.lithium.jelly said:
I worry what I'd do if I caught a couple like you and your girl. Honestly, if you'd told me that you got sent to jail for a month due to public indecency, I'd laugh at you and say it'd serve you right.
Why does it worry you so? If you happen to catch sight of a couple shagging will you suddenly go blind? More importantly, why the hell is sex and/or nudity considered "indecent" in the first place? It's a perfectly natural thing for two primates to engage in. I think all the weight it's afforded is ridiculous.game-lover said:
We're not inconsiderate, if we were disturbing anyone, we'd say "sorry" and move to another spot elsewhere. I have been "caught" before, and all I got was a smile and a thumbs-up.
You're a very angry person, aren't you?RAKtheUndead said:
OT: I hold hands, kiss (on the cheek or mouth), cuddle, etc with my boyfriend in public, but we're aware of what is and isn't appropriate. IMO, people who can't handle it should move. Why shouldn't I be allowed to express love for someone in public (in an appropriate fashion) because it infringes in their delicate sensibilities?
The anti-pda people are out there. They really should learn to mind their own business.
Now I am not French, but I think they have the right attitude to love and romance in public. Why the hell not kiss, hug etc?
It revolts some people out, but that is their problem. I will not hold back with my beautiful bride, and I tell people off when they try to control us.
Also, trying to limit public displays of affection, is that really the best thing for a society to do? Shouldn't we be concentrating on other things? The government, the law, it should stay out of the bedroom and away from happy couples.
Now I am not French, but I think they have the right attitude to love and romance in public. Why the hell not kiss, hug etc?
It revolts some people out, but that is their problem. I will not hold back with my beautiful bride, and I tell people off when they try to control us.
Also, trying to limit public displays of affection, is that really the best thing for a society to do? Shouldn't we be concentrating on other things? The government, the law, it should stay out of the bedroom and away from happy couples.