Punishing a Teenager

[TehCookie]

Every family has some sort of unruly teenager, but my cousin has been giving the entire family hell, and no one knows how to deal with her. Everyone in the family just wants to strangle her and lock her up somewhere but she threatens to call the police for child abuse or assault. She is familiar with the police since they did give her a ride to school everyday before she was old enough to drop out, and if she doesn't like how things are going in her house she calls up a friend to pick her up (and even if you take her cell phone because she would just use the home phone). For some reason though, she keeps coming back and her parents can't lock her out unless they disown her, and most parents love their kids so they don't want to do that. furthermore shes an alcoholic and drinks all her parents booze (which is probably why she comes back) and is a druggie (but doesn't use hardcore drugs mainly weed).

Her mom was similar when she was younger so she lets her do whatever she wants even though she is constantly disrespected, hoping one day she she'll have an epiphany.

I say send her to juvie but anyone else have better ideas for getting someone like her under control, or know some law loophole that would let you punish her?

 

[SnootyEnglishman]

How old is this girl? If she's older than 16 call the cops and have her taken to jail.

 

[WestMountain]

She needs better parents that can set restrictions and ground her etc

 

[Latinidiot]

If a child is unruly, taqke away what they like. In this case, the roof above her head.

 

[Ironic Pirate]

Lock the doors and only let her in and out (last one may not be legal) when you want to. Also, leave fake credit cards lying around, in case she trys to buy anything.

 

[electric_warrior]

my sister's identical, always spitting at people, swearing (i mean proper swearing, ****, fuck etc. she's like the girl from the exorcist) and shouting. my mum keeps finding drugs and little bags of tablets in her room, and she's been arrested twice and detained overnight (she was involved in a drugs bust at a friends house). she stopped going to school completely and now is only doing 4 gcses.
Her tactic is to argue and argue and argue until my mum gives in, this can result in 4+ hours of screaming that has in the past gone on as late as 5am.
I hate her more than I have words for, seriously its gotten to the point where I actually cannot comprehend the idea of giving a shit about your siblings.

Whether your cousins quite as bad as my sister I don't know, but I always maintained that throwing her out would have been the best course of action. My mum refused, and now she has a violently abusive, drug taking failure on her hands. And she will always be on her hands.
Unconditional love my fucking ass, it's bullshit

What it is, is that my sister was always mediocre in school and everything else she did and I always got a grades and sports awards. my mum was the same so she always made excuses for her bad behaviour until it got completely out of hand. by that time she was 13 and she didn't take proper action until she was 15, by which time it was too late and social services refused to take her away or intervene in any meaningful way.

I don't blame my parents as such, I turned out pretty well if i don't say so myself, I just think my sister is bad. She was always bad, she used to pull my cats whiskers out when she 9 and always argued like she does, it's just that now she's drunk, foul mouthed, abusive, violent and has the stamina to keep going for what can feel like days as well as being a petulant brat.

But anyway, yeah, throw the ***** out.

 

[Aur0ra145]

If she's like that at 16, it's too late for parental discipline. They failed. Kick her out and cut communication. Maybe she'll overdose in a gutter somewhere and make the world a better place.

Exactly my thoughts. Pretty much if she's already 16, then it's too late for any sort of intervention.

 

[Archereus]

Well that is kind of tough. Understanding how much cant be done though. But she is old enough to drop out of school which means she is also old enough to be kicked out. Tell your parents to turn it into a legal matter. Make a restriction from entering their property until she is willing to sign a form saying she is willing to conform to the rules of her parent's house.

Sure it will be hard to work but it will put her into place, she cant do much if she is homeless.

 

[HSIAMetalKing]

Sounds like someone needs to establish some boundaries.

 

[Artina89]

Kick her out of the house and let her live on her own. Let her see how hard it is maybe then she will appreciate what she gets.

I mean it worked on my brother.

I agree. If her parents kick her out, then she will have to fend for herself. That should give her the "epiphany" her parents want. If she doesn't have any consequences for her actions then she will just carry on the way she is.

 

[Jark212]

Send her to a boarding school in Utah, worked with my sister...

 

[Jackalb]

Smash a chair over their head.

 

[NIHILHATE]

Smoking Weed does NOT make someone a druggie. It's not a drug, it's a feckin' herb, it's no more of a drug than coffee. Just thought I'd clear that up.

 

[Mookie_Magnus]

Have her put into an institution, or a rehabilitation clinic for the alcohol and drugs. That would fix her right up...

Depending on how old this girl is, she needs to be kicked out of the house. If she's not in school or working, and she's not doing anything but making everyone else miserable, boot her out.

 

[Primate]

Well that is kind of tough. Understanding how much cant be done though. But she is old enough to drop out of school which means she is also old enough to be kicked out. Tell your parents to turn it into a legal matter. Make a restriction from entering their property until she is willing to sign a form saying she is willing to conform to the rules of her parent's house.

Sure it will be hard to work but it will put her into place, she cant do much if she is homeless.

As "evil" as your plan may sound, i may have to agree with you sir
I wish no parrent would have to come to that, but if it does, the parrents whom have already failed at parrenting this child, need to be able to take that step if they themselves believe it will help her..
things wary from person to person =)

 

[Deleted]

If you are her age, then beat the shit out of her. That's not child abuse that's just being taught a lesson.

My sister would sometimes try to go gangsta on my mother knowing that she's weaker, so I teach her that if she tries to act like a ***** she will get beaten to tears.

Anyone who thinks this is wrong was probably raised with one sibling in a nice quiet family so they should talk.

 

[no one really]

My sister was like that.
Now, she is 17, have a 1 year old baby, I'm getting picked on for beeing an uncle while 16 years old and half of the family (my father's part) denies contact with me, my sister and my mother.

WATCH OUT!

 

[WestMountain]

Kick her out of the house and let her live on her own. Let her see how hard it is maybe then she will appreciate what she gets.

I mean it worked on my brother.

I agree. If her parents kick her out, then she will have to fend for herself. That should give her the "epiphany" her parents want. If she doesn't have any consequences for her actions then she will just carry on the way she is.

But isn't the parents guilty to take care of her and can be arrested for kicking her out?

EDIT: Oh didn't see that she were over 18, kick the witch out then!