Rejection by women
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I have a werid history when it comes to this stuff. I've only seriously gone after two girls and got let down really (almost insultingly at least w/ second girl) easily. Both chose another guy over me cause I was too shy. W/ the first girl we kinda just stopped talking. But running into her in college (still dating the same guy) she acts really funny around me like stares at me when we cross paths and our mutual friend tells me she doesn't like the fact I started clubbing and grind dancing with random girls (which isn't a big deal anyway) so i dunno wat's going on there. The second girl was just nuts and begged me to be friends cause she liked me a lot and I hardly knew her which also makes no sense...girls ingeneral dont no offense lol
I've no rejection stories, mainly because I've never gone far enough for rejection to be a possibility.
It means you're a nice guy, and all that that entails. She's already figured you out. Deep down, women want their men to have some mystery to them; to keep them guessing. A lot of guys think showering a girl with compliments is the way to go, but it's not. That just shows the girl she can have you if she wants. She needs to think she has to work to get you. Just as a cat loses interest in a string if it's dropped in front of them, a woman will tend to lose interest in a guy who says "Here I am." Dance a bit just out of her reach. You'll get her interest, and she'll want to see if she can get you.
That's what I've read in "The Game" anyway. I haven't nailed that down myself, but I have plenty of experience to know showering them with compliments only lands you squarely in the "nice guy" category.
It's hard, but keep trying. The people who succeed the most in life are the ones who've also tried the most and failed the most. Most self-made millionaires have had a dozen jobs before they found the right thing for them. Someone once said "If you want to have more success in life, you need to double your failure rate."
That's what I've read in "The Game" anyway. I haven't nailed that down myself, but I have plenty of experience to know showering them with compliments only lands you squarely in the "nice guy" category.
It's hard, but keep trying. The people who succeed the most in life are the ones who've also tried the most and failed the most. Most self-made millionaires have had a dozen jobs before they found the right thing for them. Someone once said "If you want to have more success in life, you need to double your failure rate."
I think the most hardcore rejection I've ever gotten was when I tried to get this girl I liked a little present for her birthday. I had been talking to her for the past few months and we'd hung out quite a bit. I sent her gift in the mail, so it would be waiting for her on her birthday. It wasn't too much, just a little trinket. She sent it back with a note saying she didn't feel comfortable accepting a gift from me. I called and asked why but she wouldn't give me a reason. Damn, it was bad. I've been rejected before but holy crap that hurt.
You quite impressive claims for a man that has no evidence. Just because I don't chase women around doesn't mean that I'm asexual. It just means I don't chase women around. I'll find the right one when I'm readyLordCuthberton said:
Really? Nowadays I come across as either misanthropic or misogynistic with what I say to people. I never shower anyone with compliments. I think the odd few compliments are a good thing to give, because I am very unlikely to get anywhere with my natural personality.goldenheart323 said:That's what I've read in "The Game" anyway. I haven't nailed that down myself, but I have plenty of experience to know showering them with compliments only lands you squarely in the "nice guy" category.
Even when I was still interested in romance and other such headaches, I never asked anyone out. I always knew what the answer would be, so there wasn't really much point.
The closest I have ever actually come to rejection, though, was a friend of mine suddenly deciding I needed a girlfriend, and subsequently asking someone we had known for about fifteen minutes if she would go out with me.
Her response?
"But he's ugly!"
She was entirely serious.
I have never laughed so hard in my entire life.
The closest I have ever actually come to rejection, though, was a friend of mine suddenly deciding I needed a girlfriend, and subsequently asking someone we had known for about fifteen minutes if she would go out with me.
Her response?
"But he's ugly!"
She was entirely serious.
I have never laughed so hard in my entire life.
You have much to teach us.archvile93 said:
Moving on. Some things should be taken at face value. She thinks of you as a friend, and that should be okay, to at least some small extent.
I don't ask girls out much, I usually play the waiting game, with some success as well, so I don't get shot down, I do the shooting.