Relationship Dilemma - FINAL UPDATE. IF YOU POSTED HERE BEFORE, PLEASE VIEW MY LATEST POST

[Dead Eye II]

Oh fuck me. I've made a terrible mistake haven't I?

When she started crying, she blamed her self and that is exactly, word for word what I said to her.

Being nice sucks doesn't it?
Well the guy in my situation was terribly manipulative and had anger issues and I'm almost positive he was a pathological liar, so I was apologizing fro things that weren't even my fault a lot. It happens, and I'm not saying to not apologize to your future sweetheart, but when they're a codependent mess don't fuel the flames. It may have gotten a bit harder, but just be aware of the manipulation (and she's probably not even doing it on purpose).

Just remember, don't take the blame, and don't deflect blame from her. But always be polite

I know, its just in my nature to be nurturing to a crying person and that usually ends up with me taking the blame and really need to stop doing that. This is the reason I'm not a socialite and I spend most of my time by myself.

dude i was like you once, but its always good to be a little cold hearted at times. i was seeing a girl who would cry about the littlest things and yeah she smuthered the HELL out of me but i just came clean with her and told her how i feel and that i didnt want to take the realtionship any further and yeah she called me every name under the sun (seriously you think it chances are she probably called me it) but i seen her a few months later and she said that she was glad i told her how i felt about the situation we where in

but all i can really say is good luck man......your gona need it

 

[grimsprice]

Spoiler

Thanks to everyone for your helpful responses. I put the original post in Spoilers for people who haven't read this yet who might be able to help.

[spoiler/]Recently, I've started talking to a girl whom I've grown quite fond of. We met on a chat room about a week ago and have been talking ever since almost daily.

Now, I know what you're thinking, "Julian! How could you? I expected better from you. You met her on the internet! She's probably a guy!"

To that I say, first off let me finish Mr. Mcshitface and second, there is absolutely no possible way that she's a guy. A guy wouldn't put this much effort for this long on just a prank. Besides, I've talked to her on the phone and we've met in person. (it was a local chat room)

Anyway, after talking to her for a while, I've grown quite a liking to her. She's almost the exact thing I was dreaming of when I thought of a perfect girlfriend. She's into videogames, she likes the same music as I do, she reads manga, she's sweet and she's Japanese/American (I like Asian women). She's actually one of the nicest girls I've ever met in my life.

The other day, things got sort of serious when she told me she liked me. A lot. I could tell the sincerity in her voice. And that's what made it so much harder when I discovered her one, tiny little difference from me in the form of this text. After talking to her, I said something (I can't remember) followed by "Oh my God" to which she replied:

[spoiler/]"Could you do me a favor. Please say Gosh instead of God. I mean...you aren't really talking to God."

God. Fucking. Damnit.

That's right Escapist. Through several other questions and by her responses, I learned that this seemingly perfect girl is a bible thumping, Obama hating, gay bashing, Evangelical Christian. Her beliefs go exactly the opposite of mine and now I don't know what to do.

She really is one of the sweetest and most compassionate girls I've ever met, but to hear all this just is crazy to me (but I guess there's always a catch).

I don't know what to do. She goes against all my own personal morals and beliefs yet I have a soft spot for her. It also doesn't help that she told me I'm the first guy she's ever had feelings for and that she thinks she's falling for me.

What should I do?

If you feel the need to, PM me about the situation.[/spoiler]

Now, UPDATE - I'm freaking the fuck out right now. I thought I just might be able to make this work out between us despite our differences, yet something just happened that makes me want to drop her from my life completely. Note, that I've only been in one relationship before and that this may be normal but I honestly don't think it is.

This girl is batshit crazy over me.

I never thought it would be possible. After all my wishing for a girl to love me and for me to love, I get the craziest one of all.

Last night, I was at my father's house. Its in an isolated area outside of town and I don't get any cell phone service. No big deal, but when I came back this morning, my phone got 6, count them, 6 text messages, 4 missed phone calls and 1 message from, you guessed it, this girl.

This may be normal to an extent, but not for me. I was only out of contact with her for 13 hours, yet she's got messages everywhere asking where I am.

I even have Yahoo Messenger, AIM and iMac chat, and all of those are riddled with messages from her asking where I am and why I haven't called her. She's fucking nuts.

Now I [i/]really[/i] don't know what to do. We live in the same town. She knows my name. She knows my face. And she's completely bonkers over me and I never felt the same about her.

What do I do?

[/spoiler]

Well, i suggest you just ask her why she sent you so many messages. Talk to her about it. That will be the determining factor for "bat shit crazy".

She said that she was worried about me even though I told her I would be out of cell phone reception. She said she knew but she was still worried.

Obsessed much. Yeah, i'd tell her you get uncomfortable around clingy people.

 

[CloggedDonkey]

I haven't been in a serous relationship before, but I have been in a similar delema. A girl I liked, after learning that she had a fondness for me, turned out to be batshit.
Just did what I did and fake a suicide. That's not a joke. From what you posted I think you should pay of your family to say you killed yourself because of something unrelated. Shes crazy, or at least obsessive, and I don't think that anyone wants to be with a crazy,religious,stalker.

 

[Pegghead]

She sounds like a nice girl. Just put your differences aide if you truly enjoy her. Frankly relgious or ethical beliefs shouldn't play a part in relationships.

 

[ars_morendi]

hit that with all the pelvic thrust you can possibly muster and then tell her you think she's a psycho and to stay away from you. Belive me all these other pussies giving you terrible advice probably get laid less often than richard simmons and really, it's not like there's any chance for a serious relationship or even friendship here. Do for yourself and make the most out of an awkward situation. Stop caring about someones feelings whom with you have no common ground and don't even really respect. Hoo-Hah.

 

[SimuLord]

I find that when I try and muscle by the whole 'religious/political' discrepancy, it just comes back later and ends any relationship that might happen.

I'd leave it, it'll just cause you trouble in the end.

You must not let yourself be blinded by love.

I was going to say something, but lo and behold, ninja'd in the very first reply. Well-played, Escapist!

 

[Radelaide]

Run like the fucking wind, Bullseye!



Seriously, if this girl is that backwards-mad over you and she's the complete opposite of what you're looking for, tell her that you'd rather be friends and see how that goes. If that doesn't work, block all her communication and if she sees you in the street and comes up and harasses you, walk away and call the police.

 

[similar.squirrel]

Easy. Pretend to be bisexual and take an open-minded friend along for the ride. She'll go right off you, if what you said about her views is true.

 

[DigitalSushi]

This girl is batshit crazy over me.

I never thought it would be possible. After all my wishing for a girl to love me and for me to love, I get the craziest one of all.

Last night, I was at my father's house. Its in an isolated area outside of town and I don't get any cell phone service. No big deal, but when I came back this morning, my phone got 6, count them, 6 text messages, 4 missed phone calls and 1 message from, you guessed it, this girl.

This may be normal to an extent, but not for me. I was only out of contact with her for 13 hours, yet she's got messages everywhere asking where I am.

Thats perfectly normal, I say carry on seeing her because it will toughen you up for the ultra crazy manipulative bitches out there.

That and psychotic women are fantastic in bed.

Edit; ok that sounded odd.

 

[SimuLord]

That and psychotic women are fantastic in bed.

Edit; ok that sounded odd.

It may sound odd, but god help me it's true.

I'll drink to that. The crazier she is, the better she's gonna be in the sack.

 

[Mekado]

That and psychotic women are fantastic in bed.

Edit; ok that sounded odd.

It may sound odd, but god help me it's true.

I'll drink to that. The crazier she is, the better she's gonna be in the sack.

Yeah i'll add one to that, as sad as it is, the crazier they are, the better is is...horizontally

 

[seious]

look man she doesnt sound likes shes worth the trouble my advice would be to stay away from her she sounds like trouble thiers plenty more fish in the sea hopefully not as racist or crazy

hey but look on the bright side least shes not in your closet smelling your clothes speaking of which *looks in own closet* good my clothes are fine for now

 

[seious]

That and psychotic women are fantastic in bed.

Edit; ok that sounded odd.

It may sound odd, but god help me it's true.

I'll drink to that. The crazier she is, the better she's gonna be in the sack.

Yeah i'll add one to that, as sad as it is, the crazier they are, the better is is...horizontally

i wanna buy you all beers for banging a crazy woman but if you dint no beer

 

[seious]

I haven't been in a serous relationship before, but I have been in a similar delema. A girl I liked, after learning that she had a fondness for me, turned out to be batshit.
Just did what I did and fake a suicide. That's not a joke. From what you posted I think you should pay of your family to say you killed yourself because of something unrelated. Shes crazy, or at least obsessive, and I don't think that anyone wants to be with a crazy,religious,stalker.

wow she must have been bad how did you avoid her after that i mean faking sucide is pushing a bit eh?

 

[VinnyKings]

Sinners are Winners man. Convince her that sinning is what makes us human and that the seven deadly sins aren't really that deadly. And if that really doesn't work just ditch her or as pimppeter2 says hit it and quit it.

ATHEIST FTW... that is all

 

[seious]

Spoiler

Thanks to everyone for your helpful responses. I put the original post in Spoilers for people who haven't read this yet who might be able to help.

[spoiler/]Recently, I've started talking to a girl whom I've grown quite fond of. We met on a chat room about a week ago and have been talking ever since almost daily.

Now, I know what you're thinking, "Julian! How could you? I expected better from you. You met her on the internet! She's probably a guy!"

To that I say, first off let me finish Mr. Mcshitface and second, there is absolutely no possible way that she's a guy. A guy wouldn't put this much effort for this long on just a prank. Besides, I've talked to her on the phone and we've met in person. (it was a local chat room)

Anyway, after talking to her for a while, I've grown quite a liking to her. She's almost the exact thing I was dreaming of when I thought of a perfect girlfriend. She's into videogames, she likes the same music as I do, she reads manga, she's sweet and she's Japanese/American (I like Asian women). She's actually one of the nicest girls I've ever met in my life.

The other day, things got sort of serious when she told me she liked me. A lot. I could tell the sincerity in her voice. And that's what made it so much harder when I discovered her one, tiny little difference from me in the form of this text. After talking to her, I said something (I can't remember) followed by "Oh my God" to which she replied:

[spoiler/]"Could you do me a favor. Please say Gosh instead of God. I mean...you aren't really talking to God."

God. Fucking. Damnit.

That's right Escapist. Through several other questions and by her responses, I learned that this seemingly perfect girl is a bible thumping, Obama hating, gay bashing, Evangelical Christian. Her beliefs go exactly the opposite of mine and now I don't know what to do.

She really is one of the sweetest and most compassionate girls I've ever met, but to hear all this just is crazy to me (but I guess there's always a catch).

I don't know what to do. She goes against all my own personal morals and beliefs yet I have a soft spot for her. It also doesn't help that she told me I'm the first guy she's ever had feelings for and that she thinks she's falling for me.

What should I do?

If you feel the need to, PM me about the situation.[/spoiler]

Now, UPDATE - I'm freaking the fuck out right now. I thought I just might be able to make this work out between us despite our differences, yet something just happened that makes me want to drop her from my life completely. Note, that I've only been in one relationship before and that this may be normal but I honestly don't think it is.

This girl is batshit crazy over me.

I never thought it would be possible. After all my wishing for a girl to love me and for me to love, I get the craziest one of all.

Last night, I was at my father's house. Its in an isolated area outside of town and I don't get any cell phone service. No big deal, but when I came back this morning, my phone got 6, count them, 6 text messages, 4 missed phone calls and 1 message from, you guessed it, this girl.

This may be normal to an extent, but not for me. I was only out of contact with her for 13 hours, yet she's got messages everywhere asking where I am.

I even have Yahoo Messenger, AIM and iMac chat, and all of those are riddled with messages from her asking where I am and why I haven't called her. She's fucking nuts.

Now I [i/]really[/i] don't know what to do. We live in the same town. She knows my name. She knows my face. And she's completely bonkers over me and I never felt the same about her.

What do I do?

[/spoiler]

Well, i suggest you just ask her why she sent you so many messages. Talk to her about it. That will be the determining factor for "bat shit crazy".

She said that she was worried about me even though I told her I would be out of cell phone reception. She said she knew but she was still worried.

maybe she just cares i mean it obvious she likes you alot she cares and you do aswell maybe forget what i said past quote and try make it work

 

[DemonicVixen]

Erm, if i was to say i do that also would i get killed?

Maybe she was worried about you... ok i have a reason for being worried about the guy i love... but even then... Maybe she thought you were blowing her off. Ok, its obsessive in an extreme form. My ex used to do that to me all the time. Still does on MSN but i promised we would stay friends if he stopped harrasing me (which he still does occasionally). Constantly txting, asking me if i loved him, why we didn't continue, why i won't ditch my current boyfriend and go back to him. Its a never ending cycle that only i can break by blocking him but i don't think its entirely fair to do that. I did try getting him a girlfriend and it worked but the other day he messed it up because he didn't answer her when sent him several messages having seen him online. He never answered me either. She decided he came across as messing around with her so she said she wasn't going to continue the 'relationship'.

All i can suggest is, tell her you don't want to feel hounded by her. Explain the situation and if it happens again, she's obsessive and to dominating so get rid of her.

 

[fgdfgdgd]

dude, you don't know how common the whole 'wake upto 16 messages from a girl' thing is, you're actually lucky you didn't have death/suicide threats from said gril because you -finger quote- left her -finger quote-