Relationships and life.

[jboking]

Well here is a protip - stop being fat.

I'm going to have to go ahead and stop this idea right here. I've had 3 girlfriends, two of them in my last year of high school. I'm fat.

Both of these girls were way out of my league. Skinny, attractive, beautiful women. I didn't change the way I look, and to be honest, I'm a damn trog. It may sound cliche, but the right girls are looking for more important things.

OP: I seriously have no advice for you other than this: Develop strong self-esteem in whatever way you can(that MAY be losing weight if you don't feel comfortable with your body) and let it show. Girls will take notice, trust me.

 

[UsefulPlayer 1]

I was a skinny loser introverted minority. But when High School came around I decided to change things; I lifted weighted weights to get buff, I became more engaged with others and activities, and now 2 years later I'm a Asian teenager who has lots of friends, is somewhat buff and is going on dates with the girl of my life. Change is good

haha, sounds like my high school story. Still working on getting buff and going out with the girl of my dreams (we're good friends), but I'm getting there. Maybe before year's end I'll grow up a little more and then maybe she'll see me in a different light. But if not, that's ok, I really like the relationship we have now anyway. Besides, there was that other girl I took to the dance....

Anyhow, I know how you feel, I thought that way for a time. But I can't help but say it's the kinda thing you have to trudge through and keep your chin up. It's the kinda thing you just have to keep going at and maybe someday you'll might meet somebody. But I can almost guarantee you make some great friends along the way. I mean take for instance the girl of my dreams--friend, wouldn't trade that for anything.

 

[quiet_samurai]

First off, I want to apologize for wasting your time if none of this makes sense to you, the reader. I don't post much stuff. I just need to get some opinions and I find it quite difficult to articulate how I feel about this subject to friends or family. Your comments are always greatly appreciated.

Anyway, to tell you a little about myself, I am a pretty fat and ugly senior in high school. I have never had a girlfriend nor does it look that likely that I will in some time. In most other aspects of my life I feel confident in my capability. Just not this one.

I never really attempted to get a girlfriend until a year ago. Where I met a girl and I actually thought it was possible that she liked me and all that jazz (I even wrote her poems, yes it is stupid/creepy now that I look back on it, though she did like them). Only to find out she only thought of me as a "nice, funny guy"...

Now days, I am bitter towards the success of my friends and their relationships with their girlfriends. I feel cynical and cold. I have come to realization that no matter what I do/say I will always be the "fat funny guy". I find no point in "being nice" to these girls, for I will be the same thing to them no matter how I act. Right now I feel like this life I'm living in is just a joke and I'm the only one laughing...I don't want to laugh anymore.

It sounds like you have the personality part down, which in all honesty is the more difficult thing to manage. But the physical aspect, being fat and ugly are totally managable dude. These peblems are totally in the realm of your control and can be changed if you have the "go get em" attitude. It won't be an instant gratification, but then most things in life that matter never really are. I have a couple of really gopod looking dude friends that can't get a date because of their personality, and others who wouldn'tbe considered good looking at all who do get girls.

You just have to change your lifestyle, it's simpler then it sounds.
Try it.

 

[Dogstile]

Yeah you can change your citizenship, but if your born Jamaican then you will always be known as such, no amount of changing citizenship will change that.

So it's okay to make fun of Jamaicans who won't change their citizenship for being from Jamaica?

No its not, but i'm saying that its worse to do that then to call someone a slut, and it really doesn't matter if they change their citizenship, it really doesn't.

 

[similar.squirrel]

Don't be like that. Weight loss is possible, for a start. And girls can see past The Ugly. I'm proof of that. Just..If you do meet a girl, tone down the self-hatred. I'm trying to do so, because I think it's hurting her.

Edit: This thread is actually.. Hm. It's making me think. You guys are Profound.

Anyway. I'm not very high on this abstract scale of looks, yet I have an amazing girlfriend. My best friend is frustratingly Adonis-like and he has never had a steady girlfriend. His social skills, clarity of speech, likeability, accent and everything else is enviable.
It's puzzling. And goes to show that people just..They fall for others, and it's not logical.
He hasn't gotten lucky yet, but he will.

This doesn't mean that looks don't count [heck, even I've dumped someone because I wasn't physically attracted], but those are alterable to an extent. And having a good personality makes it easier. Some people don't even have that. Ponder that, if you will.

 

[Dogstile]

Yeah you can change your citizenship, but if your born Jamaican then you will always be known as such, no amount of changing citizenship will change that.

So it's okay to make fun of Jamaicans who won't change their citizenship for being from Jamaica?

No its not,

What happened to your logic that the reason it's not okay to make fun of something is because it's "something they cannot choose nor change"?

Cut out the part of the post where i explain that, now you're just being overly childish

screw this, i never said it was ok, i just said one was more acceptable than the other

 

[Dogstile]

Yeah you can change your citizenship, but if your born Jamaican then you will always be known as such, no amount of changing citizenship will change that.

So it's okay to make fun of Jamaicans who won't change their citizenship for being from Jamaica?

No its not,

What happened to your logic that the reason it's not okay to make fun of something is because it's "something they cannot choose nor change"?

Cut out the part of the post where i explain that, now you're just being overly childish

The part I cut out had nothing to do with the question I asked--it doesn't explain anything, it brings up the irrelevant issue of making fun of where a person is born when the question was about making fun of where a person decides to call home AFTER they've been born.

screw this, i never said it was ok, i just said one was more acceptable than the other

I don't see how that changes anything.

What happened to your logic that the reason it's not okay to make fun of something is because it's "something they cannot choose nor change"?

screw this, i never said it was ok, i just said one was more acceptable than the other

Work it out? Seriously, its not that hard.