Relationships are tough.

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rddj623

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Aylaine said:
"half of relationship problems is one person not really understanding the other person to address problems/issues that come along as the relationship progresses".
Very true. Honesty and understanding are integral to a successful relationship. :)

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I would totally say that is a problem. Not that it's one that makes your relationship bad, just makes it harder since you can't see each other as often as you'd like.
 

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Vent? Oh man, you opened the box. But I'll save my grumblings for someone else..
 

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Yeah well, so is life, I reckon.

I've never been in a relationship, and part of me is quite glad. I fail at life enough without the additional cares of being in a relationship. I would vaguely consider being single forever if I didn't know that I'll probably never get a job, and therefore will likely require a partner to support me financially.
 

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Pokenator said:
The title of this thread pretty much sums up my feelings for relationships in general, you guys might be hunky dory now but you are only a few months in, from my observations, it is usually after the year mark that the sugar coats begin to crumble. My friends that are in serious relationships fall into two categories: 1) Those that complain endlessly about them and 2) Those who enjoy them but the friend has been so consumed that they completely disregard all of their other friends and have often completely changed as a person to imitate said partner. However, people have different personalities and many people really seem to need another person beyond their friends for company or to 'care' for them, so I guess I can't really judge as we are all individuals with different social requirements.
I'll assign myself into category 3 if you don't mind.

I'm currently in a long distance relationship and have been for about a year and a half now and I'm very happy with her, but I managed to cause a falling out with one of my best friends, because they both would 'discuss' about spending time with me behind my back and when I would be alone with one or the other, I'd vent my frustration a little, he caught a bit of my frustration when he scrolled back on one of my conversations with her and I haven't heard from him since. It's got me really bummed out as of late even though I try my best to not let it get to me. Though my I think I'm starting to lose the little bit of sanity I have left because of my lack of social behavior since.
Human behaviour is so varied that there are probably a million different categories, I was just stating the two I am most familiar with among my own friendship circles. Good luck with your situation however, I hope things work out.
 

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well I am currently in a relationship, so far so good. No problems with my friend's relationships either, as far as I know.
 

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AstylahAthrys said:
I got off a bad relationship about a year ago and I've been single since. He was extremely mentally abusive and it took me ages for me to get the will to end it myself. Now I'm scared to date because even though I logically know not all men are evil pricks, I never want to be treated like that again. So now I can't bring myself to date anyone, even this one guy I would really like to ask out because I don't want it all to go to hell like the last one did.
Trust is a ***** isn't it. Once lost tis hard to gain again. I had a girlfriend who broke my heart and only after all that went down did I realize that it had been pretty abusive the whole way through. Thankfully my current girlfriend had a similar experience so we can relate to each other on that level. Still hard sometimes though, even though I know she's nothing like my ex.
 
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I'm too busy being super awesome to bother with anyone else. If they wanna tag along, then cool - but otherwise this chick rides solo.



...Ok, I just hate most of the people I meet.
 

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A lot (Well, some) of my friends come to me for advice about their relationships, follow it and it works pretty well. This occurs even though most (Read: All) of my relationships have ended in epic failure. Apparently bad at taking my own advice.
 

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superbatranger said:
As am I. It kinda feels odd seeing all those couples walking around, especially when most of them are your friends. Makes me wonder if I'd ever find anyone. Just a downside of being really shy in real life. But that's how things are.
I felt like that for so long. Seeing all my friends dating was rough. :)
 

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I started a relationship, and she moved away temporarily just when it was starting to get good. We still talk, and we're going to try again when she gets back, but it sucks big time. I've been kinda mopey about the whole thing for the last week since she left, but we didn't want to try the whole long-distance thing since those fail to work.

So yeah, relationships are tough, but for the record, life goes on.
 

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I have yet to get into a relationship. It feels sad for me, but now I've realized the mistakes I've made in my life and I'm ready to learn better. I'm a physics major, I'm used to steep learning curves.
 
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rddj623 said:
superbatranger said:
As am I. It kinda feels odd seeing all those couples walking around, especially when most of them are your friends. Makes me wonder if I'd ever find anyone. Just a downside of being really shy in real life. But that's how things are.
I felt like that for so long. Seeing all my friends dating was rough. :)
It is rough. Sometimes I wonder why I haven't found anyone yet, and about what could be wrong with me. Then I remember that this is life, and it's not perfect.
 

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Relationships are tough. Yes, they are. I'm single. My now ex boyfriend left on the 20th. Just tonight, I had a few revelations, and reminded myself to let go of old cheese (bonus points if you get the reference). I feel the best I've felt since the afternoon of the 19th when he said he was coming over. For once, I'm okay being single.
 

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Well I'm single and currently depressed about it, its just that I'm a fish out of water in the current town I live in, there are just very few people I would actually want to date in my town.
 

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Gotham Soul said:
Single, and happy. Which is good, because I don't know if I would have time to be in a relationship with a girl when I'm busy wrestling alligators, punching kangaroos, eating crayons, flying without wings, drop kicking babies, throwing cars and catching butterflies.
All that and still single, it's amazing :p

OT: Yeah I'm single right now so not many problems lol
 

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Single and happy, really.

There are a few people I'd consider living with or otherwise spend much time around as a boyfriend, but I'm still too cautious about my independence. I've been in 2 relationships so far and while both were fairly amusing, they weren't really worth it.

I've got a dominating streak to my personality, and I'm an individualist and an anarchist, so I'd rather not overwhelm and control someone I care about. And at the same time, I'm not willing to surrender much of my individuality to someone else for the sake of "relationship", because I wouldn't be having fun if I weren't me.

So I stopped caring about dating for the most part. I do not plan to get married and the idea of it abhors me, I don't care about social values or "continuing my line". The only long term relationship I could live with would involve another person with very similar personality to my own. Someone who neither wants to control nor to be controlled, and is beyond the general stereotypical values one can expect to come up in most relationships.

Meh, whatever.

P.S. More on the whole controlling thing, I truly do find manipulative relationships of most kinds disgusting. When a guy whines that his girlfriend is trying to change him, or the girl whines that the guy is trying to change her (and I'm familiar with both of these situations), it's just pathetic. Drop the whole relationship and fuck compromise of that kind. Guys, don't become your girlfriends' bitches. Girls, don't become your boyfriends', well, bitches.

Edit: Same goes for homosexual relationships, although despite considering myself pansexual (it's like bisexual, but with even less limitations. I believe so called "love" can exist and relationships can happen between any members of any sapient species with consent.) I haven't yet been in one.

Although I'd imagine it's much simpler in regards to some aspects.