Relationships... online?

[Azure Sky]

I guess so. I stand by My original post though. I guess to expand it too its maximum, My opinion is (and will always be):

"If there is no Physical contact between the two parties, it isnt a "Relationship", It's a friendship with the illusion of intimacy"[/I]

I can't disagree as a whole, and I actually agree with that quote.
Everyone is different I suppose, guess it's a case of 'to each his own'

 

[Dectomax]

Haha Online relationships are 50/50.

I speak from experience, I met a girl and we talked alot, as in over 8 hours everyday for about a month, and when she finally popped the question it went well, for a while, every couple of weeks she'd have a fit becuase of the distance (112 miles - although i did spend a stupid amount of money to travel and see her, twice for a week each time). I Think they can work out well, aslong as both of you have trust nd put the effort in. I lasted 5 months with this girl until I found out she was a lying cheating..(for the consideration of the younger members I'll use a less offensive word)...Cow....It kinda was a little "Annoying". You have to be careful, becuase in all honesty people are different in real life.

Yes, they can work out, but it's hard and unless you both really want it, it's not going to work.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[armaina]

"If there is no Physical contact between the two parties, it isnt a "Relationship", It's a friendship with the illusion of intimacy"[/I]

So, you don't believe in emotional intimacy I take it? Because I do. Then again, I can't even begin a physical relationship until the emotional aspect has been met. Good thing I'm not looking anymore.

 

[NotAPie]

Very rarely will it ever work out.
That is just what I think though.
Edit: By the way, yeah I've been in an online relationship, I'm just going to say I'm never ever going to do that again.

 

[Gryphonsflight]

I always things that this sort of topic is interesting. I know someone that started a relationship online, took it slow and they are engaged now. The current relationship statistic is one in four begin in a digital medium now, be it facebook, A dating website or a random chat-room.

Personally, I would prefer to meet someone before I start a relationship... but who knows. They say there's someone out there for everyone, and it must be easier to find them in Europe from a dating website than to randomly date every girl in that particular region of the world.

To respond to someones comment earlier, what is a relationship but a closer friendship?

 

[Azure Sky]

"If there is no Physical contact between the two parties, it isnt a "Relationship", It's a friendship with the illusion of intimacy"[/I]

So, you don't believe in emotional intimacy I take it? Because I do. Then again, I can't even begin a physical relationship until the emotional aspect has been met. Good thing I'm not looking anymore.

I was thinking that as well, but I had to stop and think carefully about it.
While achieving both is all well and good, would it be possible to have one without the other?

 

[Insanum]

"If there is no Physical contact between the two parties, it isnt a "Relationship", It's a friendship with the illusion of intimacy"[/I]

So, you don't believe in emotional intimacy I take it? Because I do. Then again, I can't even begin a physical relationship until the emotional aspect has been met. Good thing I'm not looking anymore.

The thing is, If i was to meet a girl in the flesh first, I'd make my decision as to if i want to date her in the first few minutes of conversation. Physical appearance, conversational skills, Etc are all factors.

People say im vain the fact i think that physical appearance matters. The people that call me vain happen to have a face that only a mother can love, And weigh as much as a small car.

Now before any physical intimacy you do have to have an emotional connection (if your in a relationship), but then again, if your in an "online only" "relationship", there wouldnt be any Physical intimacy.

 

[Ulquiorra4sama]

I'm in one right now. Due to the relationship reaching all the way to the other side of the planet we've never met in person, but we've exchanged photos and talked on the phone (calls like that cost a lot, but it's worth it) and i can honestly say i have never met a girl in real life that i have so much in common with and who i can be perfectly honest with.

 

[Spygon]

I don't count it as a real relationship if there is a slim chance of two people ever meeting regularly. If you have someone to confide in online that's great but it can never be a functioning, real-life, romantic relationship.

I would have said the same last year but this year since i met this girl i have had one of the most happy love filled intense relationships of my life.

Well I'm obviously not going to dispute your feelings because they're your own, I just have doubts in general. Do you have any prospect of meeting her or anything? I personally think the physical side of a relationship is important too. Does that not bother you?
I'm just curious, you don't have to go into it.

I have met her a few times as i agree the physical side of a relationship is important too.It does bother me from time to time that she is so far away but then i couldnt see my life without her now.

 

[jopomeister]

I have met what are now some of my best friends over the internet, but I've never really called them friends till meeting them physically.

 

[Fraught]

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

No.

This will demonstrate why. [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.85690-Esoteric-Operating-Systems-The-History-of-OS-360-and-its-successors]

I was waiting for your reply, RAK, though I'm a tad bit confused at the relevance.

 

[Nickisimo]

All my experiences have been terrible, and I have plenty of horrific stories from friends/family as well. It's just that the Internet is such a breeding ground for liars and creeps. I firmly believe that physical chemistry HAS to exist and there's no way to know if it will based solely on online conversations.

You might make good friends online, but that's where it should stop.

The trick to meeting local people is alcohol.

 

[armaina]

I was thinking that as well, but I had to stop and think carefully about it.
While achieving both is all well and good, would it be possible to have one without the other?

Yes, yes it is, especially the physical part. There are a lot of people in this world that can separate sex from emotion. However, I am not one of those people. But I know a lot of men can, and the last thing I wanted was to be in a relationship that was all about sex and nothing else.

The thing is, If i was to meet a girl in the flesh first, I'd make my decision as to if i want to date her in the first few minutes of conversation. Physical appearance, conversational skills, Etc are all factors.

People say im vain the fact i think that physical appearance matters. The people that call me vain happen to have a face that only a mother can love, And weigh as much as a small car.

Now before any physical intimacy you do have to have an emotional connection (if your in a relationship), but then again, if your in an "online only" "relationship", there wouldnt be any Physical intimacy.

Maybe because it is impossible for me to find appearance sexually attractive, emotional connection to me is everything and is directly connected to my sexual attraction to a person. But at least for me, this mode of thought eliminates people such as yourself (no offense) that aren't willing to go through a few months, possibly a year or so, of getting to know each other before anything really 'happens'. Not to say your mode of thought is bad, but it if works for you, no sense in forcing any other method upon yourself.

My boyfriend and I were a couple online for 3 years before we met each other in person, and it's been able to continue just as strong ever since. So for us, it worked out perfectly, but it certainly isn't something for everyone. Most people are too impatient/skeptical to wait for 3 years before any face to face contact. However, I disagree that during those 3 years that our relationship 'didn't count' just due to lack of physical contact.

 

[Paksenarrion]

I'm reminded of Napoleon's brother Kip, and his online relationship which led to a wedding with a stallion in it.

 

[Insanum]

The thing is, If i was to meet a girl in the flesh first, I'd make my decision as to if i want to date her in the first few minutes of conversation. Physical appearance, conversational skills, Etc are all factors.

People say im vain the fact i think that physical appearance matters. The people that call me vain happen to have a face that only a mother can love, And weigh as much as a small car.

Now before any physical intimacy you do have to have an emotional connection (if your in a relationship), but then again, if your in an "online only" "relationship", there wouldnt be any Physical intimacy.

Maybe because it is impossible for me to find appearance sexually attractive, emotional connection to me is everything and is directly connected to my sexual attraction to a person. But at least for me, this mode of thought eliminates people such as yourself (no offense) that aren't willing to go through a few months, possibly a year or so, of getting to know each other before anything really 'happens'. Not to say your mode of thought is bad, but it if works for you, no sense in forcing any other method upon yourself.

My boyfriend and I were a couple online for 3 years before we met each other in person, and it's been able to continue just as strong ever since. So for us, it worked out perfectly. But it certainly isn't something for everyone. Most people are too impatient/skeptical to wait for 3 years before any face to face contact.

The thing is, I cant find people attractive without seeing what they look like, And i agree that a good emtional contact is nessicary for a healthy relationship.

Im just far too skeptical against online relationships.

 

[Dexiro]

When I'm not in one i say it's a bad idea, but when it happens it happens.

I'd just recommend that you stay away from relationships that aren't feasible. If it's rally long distance (even international) and neither of you can afford regular visits, if at all, then it's a bad idea.
At the moment I'm with someone who lives just a train ride away. It's a long distance but i can at least afford regular trips.

At least for me i couldn't keep up a relationship for too long without actually meeting them in person.

 

[Eggsnham]

I try to avoid these, unless I know the person in real life and live near them.