Seriously, why do some guys pull this shit?

[Vanguard_Ex]

Yeah man everyone sucks but you. Realizing that is a huge step towards maturity.

That's precisely what I said. Not 'I hate most of other guys and here are legitimate reasons why', simply 'Everyone sucks but me'. Great job encapsulating that, but I guess leaving the rest of my post in would have been contradictory to your barely legitimate point.

 

[TheGreatAndPowerfulZOG]

I don't know baby, but let me show you how a woman should be treated

jk,jk

 

[KaiusCormere]

So long story short, I've recently started dating a guy who I met and he's awesome. We always enjoy spending time together, we're getting to be very close and we have a lot in common. Everything's going great...

But one of my guy friends is straight-up being an outright ass almost. When I first mentioned that I was dating someone new his first reaction was "I'm happy that you're happy, but I know that I could make you happy too" and launches into this whole sob story about why no one hangs out with him. I'm not very close with this guy at all, but he's constantly telling me how attracted he is to me and all this other shit and he barely even knows me because any time I saw him in person he just sat in a corner and didn't talk to anyone. Just a little bit ago when he was talking to me on IM he mentioned that he was feeling really horny... Why the fuck would I want to know that?! Seriously, this guy doesn't know shit about me and yet he's making all these comments as if he could convince me to dump my boyfriend and instead date him when he doesn't have a real job and no car and constantly whines about crap...

Why do guys pull this shit?!

Edit: Yea I know not all guys are like this, just when some of them do I'm completely unable to grasp as to why they think crap like this will work in their favor.

The guy is probably lonely, depressed, and desperate, as well as socially inept. You don't have to and shouldn't bother "fixing" him. But if you really don't understand WHY he does it, it's because you've never been hopelessly, desperately wanting someone you can't have. I don't think it's a reason to hate on the guy, but you don't have to deal with his issues.

SO, just forget him and cut off from him completely. It's really not worth dealing with the awkwardness that would result from trying to hang out and betting on him trying to control himself from creeping you out.

 

[idodo35]

he just said "im horny"? out of nowere?
he has some serios issues

 

[SovietSecrets]

He was a lonely guy that got fixated on dating you apparently. Its not that hard to figure out really. Been there once, got over it. Learned my lesson and back to normality.

 

[EeveeElectro]

I know that feel, sis.
Thinking about it, how many movies are there where if a guy likes a girls and she's clearly not interested, if he persists, she'll eventually fall for him? Doesn't work like that in real life.
they're like, "aw come on, dump your good looking, gentlemanly, funny boyfriend for me and we'll paint my Warhammer figures together." No offence to any warhammer fans of course. Just using this as an example...
I'm gonna guess this guy is one of those "OMG she shuch a *****!1!! friend zoned! *****! Why won't she go out with me, I'm a nice guy!"
If I were in your shoes, I'd give him a bit of advice and tell him to stop being so desperate as it really freaks girls out. Blocking him is a good idea, although that would add to his bad social skills, I reckon...

 

[TheDarkestDerp]

Because sympathy is easier to earn than respect, and when you don't even respect yourself, self-deprecation tends to be the closest thing you have to flirting. At least that's all I've ever been able to glean from this kind of behaviour.

 

[Robert Ewing]

Sounds to me that the guy who is giving you a hard time might of thought there was a little something between you. Not strictly speaking romance, but a bond. But if he's acting like that, I'd have a serious think about what to do about him...

 

[Jonluw]

Well, the guy sounds like a moron and a bit of a dick.
It seems you're not completely blameless in this either though. You seem to think that he should be able to infer the nature of your relationship from the way you treat him.
For a normal person, that might work fine; but with people like this guy you need to speak in clear. You can't expect him to read even the most obvious subtext. You might even end up unwittingly leading him on.
Chances are he doesn't even realize he's bothering you. He might just think you're a pretty reserved person since you don't really reply to his IMs.
You need to meet him face to face, and explain to him with absolute sincerity and clarity that you aren't attracted to him in the slightest and there will never, ever be anything between the two of you, and then cut off all communication.
At this point, there is no reason to attempt to stay friends.
But know that if he grows up a bit afterwards and approaches you again after some months/years with the intention of friendship, you shouldn't shoot him down right away. Try to see if he really sees the error of his ways and honestly just wants to be friends again.

 

[Gothproxy]

Sounds like a lonely man, or a serial rapist. If you don't accept him things may get very ugly.

Assumptions like that are part of why some socially awkward teenage males are so afraid of interaction with the opposite sex; they're afraid that simply looking at a woman, let alone talking to them, will result in them being accused of being a stalker or some such. For that reason I used to have such trouble making eye contact with women that, ironically, they thought I was creepier for it.

If you're a woman, you should know that your assumption really doesn't help the situation. Try not assuming that men are all creeps. Most just don't know how to talk to you. Partly because they're afraid you think they're creeps.

WHOA WHOA WHOA!!! I did NOT write ANYTHING about serial rapist or anything like that!!!! You have absolutely NO right to change what was written to suit your tastes and then try to pass it off as a quote by that person. Figure out where you went wrong with your 'quote' before things get nasty.

Below is my original reply word for word:

Because, generalization aside and for lack of a better term, guys are dumb. That's not to say that all of them are, nor is it to say that all girls are not. But trying to understand WHY a guy/girl does something stupid like this is about pointless as trying to understand Lady Gaga's fashion sense. Men don't understand women and women don't understand men. They also (both sexes)don't seem to understand themselves either else why continue to do stupid stuff...meh.

Just tell the boy who got stupid that he's a douchebag and that he can be your friend again when he grows up.

Or something along those lines.

 

[McMullen]

Sounds like a lonely man, or a serial rapist. If you don't accept him things may get very ugly.

Assumptions like that are part of why some socially awkward teenage males are so afraid of interaction with the opposite sex; they're afraid that simply looking at a woman, let alone talking to them, will result in them being accused of being a stalker or some such. For that reason I used to have such trouble making eye contact with women that, ironically, they thought I was creepier for it.

If you're a woman, you should know that your assumption really doesn't help the situation. Try not assuming that men are all creeps. Most just don't know how to talk to you. Partly because they're afraid you think they're creeps.

WHOA WHOA WHOA!!! I did NOT write ANYTHING about serial rapist or anything like that!!!! You have absolutely NO right to change what was written to suit your tastes and then try to pass it off as a quote by that person. Figure out where you went wrong with your 'quote' before things get nasty.

The hell?! I'm sorry, I meant to quote the post above yours but somehow got the quote tags mixed up.

 

[LilithSlave]

Wait. . . Amy, is that you? I'm sorry! I just really like you! Can't blame a guy for trying right .

I don't know baby, but let me show you how a woman should be treated

jk,jk

I like posts like these. They keep threads humorous and nice.

I'm sorry, but I just don't take to discussions about dating on the internet all that well. I dunno, I just don't take to them too well when they happen with strangers on the internet. And prefer a good nice joke like this.

I'm sorry, but topics like dating and relationships are probably one of the worst and most annoying things to discuss online. Some people say it's religion, but that's poppycock. It's the dating type stuff that gets really annoying online. And I would never seek advice for something like that online.

 

[McMullen]

Snip

Sounds like a lonely man, or a serial rapist. If you don't accept him things may get very ugly.

Or I am completely wrong and he is just a loser and you will be perfectly fine so long as seeing an occasional peeping tom doesn't bother you to terribly much..

I'd say you're completely wrong.

Assumptions like that are part of why some socially awkward teenage males are so afraid of interaction with the opposite sex; they're afraid that simply looking at a woman, let alone talking to them, will result in them being accused of being a stalker or some such. For that reason I used to have such trouble making eye contact with women that, ironically, they thought I was creepier for it.

If you're a woman, you should know that your assumption really doesn't help the situation. Try not assuming that men are all creeps. Most just don't know how to talk to you. Partly because they're afraid you think they're creeps.

 

[xXGeckoXx]

So long story short, I've recently started dating a guy who I met and he's awesome. We always enjoy spending time together, we're getting to be very close and we have a lot in common. Everything's going great...

But one of my guy friends is straight-up being an outright ass almost. When I first mentioned that I was dating someone new his first reaction was "I'm happy that you're happy, but I know that I could make you happy too" and launches into this whole sob story about why no one hangs out with him. I'm not very close with this guy at all, but he's constantly telling me how attracted he is to me and all this other shit and he barely even knows me because any time I saw him in person he just sat in a corner and didn't talk to anyone. Just a little bit ago when he was talking to me on IM he mentioned that he was feeling really horny... Why the fuck would I want to know that?! Seriously, this guy doesn't know shit about me and yet he's making all these comments as if he could convince me to dump my boyfriend and instead date him when he doesn't have a real job and no car and constantly whines about crap...

Why do guys pull this shit?!

Edit: Yea I know not all guys are like this, just when some of them do I'm completely unable to grasp as to why they think crap like this will work in their favor.

I knew a chick EXACTLY like this so it's definitely not a man problem, also I attribute this more with women because any man who does this shit loses man status in my eyes.

I call it a people problem. It's just people who are too sensitive and force it on other people, it's like that guy who always shows he is insulted if he does not get a hello from somebody and worse he goes up to that person and goes "derp i was really insulted you did not say hi when we passed in the corridor."

 

[cthulhuspawn82]

I assume this guy is an overweight/unattractive nerd type. I'm in the same boat, by my life is great, and I don't have the same problems that this guy does. You just have to learn to accept reality and make your life good regardless. A man with no hands will never be a great pianist, a man with no legs will never win an Olympic gold medal, and a dude like this will never have a girlfriend. He just needs to learn to live with it. Let him know that there are actually a lot of happy people who go their entire lives without ever finding anyone. He doesn't need a girl to be happy. In fact, the more time you spend alone, the more you really start to like it.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I assume this guy is an overweight/unattractive nerd type. I'm in the same boat, by my life is great, and I don't have the same problems that this guy does. You just have to learn to accept reality and make your life good regardless. A man with no hands will never be a great pianist, a man with no legs will never win an Olympic gold medal, and a dude like this will never have a girlfriend. He just needs to learn to live with it. Let him know that there are actually a lot of happy people who go their entire lives without ever finding anyone. He doesn't need a girl to be happy. In fact, the more time you spend alone, the more you really start to like it.

This is a good post. I'm sure most won't agree with the sentiment...

There is a million great ways to spend your time. So I've never understood why people get whiny and mopy over being single. Take up some sports, play some music, read some books, watch some films...be an interesting person.

 

[Owen Robertson]

[sub]I fucking love that song. Why must it be so catchy?


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Today's been a great day. I got to use the phrase(s) "Good day sir. I SAID GOOD DAY!" and now someone gets a No Scrubs reference? I think today would be a great day to die.

 

[Gothproxy]

he just said "im horny"? out of nowere?
he has some serios issues

What's wrong with that? We all say some pretty (weird, interesting, stupid) things from out of nowhere at times. And if we don't we should. I mean, why be all politically "HOLY POOP MY BUTT IS ON FIRE!!! (Should NOT have eaten that chilli for lunch.)" correct at all times. Boring if you ask me.