Seriously, why do some guys pull this shit?
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There sure are a lot of people taking the "no car" comment and running with it as if that makes the OP a gold digger, as a whole entire other thread based on the "no car" comment is suggesting.
She's using the lack of a car as one of several measures of this guy's shit-togetherness. Not all people who don't have cars are losers, true, but in the context of everything else we know about this guy the lack of a car suggests that he is not a driven (ack! unintentional pun!) individual, which doesn't look good on his BF application.
She's using the lack of a car as one of several measures of this guy's shit-togetherness. Not all people who don't have cars are losers, true, but in the context of everything else we know about this guy the lack of a car suggests that he is not a driven (ack! unintentional pun!) individual, which doesn't look good on his BF application.
That's a thing? How can that possibly end well for anyone?asam92 said:
It's not exclusive to men, but to answer your question, because he's socially inept, he doesn't know how else to endear himself to people besides garnering sympathy.
And from what you've told me he probably doesn't have many friends, so the fact that you even talk to him probably seems like a big deal. Tell him to back off and move on.
And this is off topic, but why do the facts that he doesn't have a car or a job impact your opinion of him?.
And from what you've told me he probably doesn't have many friends, so the fact that you even talk to him probably seems like a big deal. Tell him to back off and move on.
And this is off topic, but why do the facts that he doesn't have a car or a job impact your opinion of him?.
He most likely does feel something for you but hasn't taken the time to build any sort of deeper understanding of who you are... I wouldn't waste my time and energy. "Doesn't have a car" seems a bit out of the blue to throw in there but either way just distance yourself
Women do it a lot more. I did act like that once but not that bad... and it was when she was single, bitching about being alone, then I confessed, she turns me down then goes to another guy. Thats kind of how this guy feels. Tell him to stop or you're cutting off communications with him.Rin Little said:
You miss the point.TheDooD said:
An alpha male can get strung along sure enough, but an alpha male wont spend his time bitching, whining and being a little tosser about it.
An alpha male doesn't let shit like this get to him.
The titular antihero of this thread is by no stretch of definition alpha. He is beta as fuck.
I commented on the "no car" thing because it seemed out of place. It came across as the original poster doing everything she could to try and make us instantly hate someone we don't actually know. We're not told if there is any reason why he doesn't have a car or any context given behind it.McMullen said:
He just fails in general, it would seem. Why are you even talking to him at all is a better question. Are you even friends? If so, obviously he wants you and is jealous. Also, there are two sides to every story. Have you been doing anything that would make him think you're into him? If you're leading him on, stop. In fact, it sounds like you don't even like this person as a friend, just break off contact period. The only reason I can see you wanting to be his friend is to make yourself feel better, knowing someone is hopelessly obsessed with you. This post seems rhetorical in nature and mostly pointless. You must have it really hard having guys wanting to be with you and throwing themselves at you. White people problems.
Don't know about that, may be if you are in the us, because you can get arrested for so much as coughing on someone. But I put it there because a friend of mine got treatment like that and he really deserved it, he was trying to break up a girl from her boyfriend and he lied about the girl beeing unfaithful or something, it got the girl in real trouble, and I think he didn't even do it because he liked her but because he just wanted to see if he could do it. He called some of us over to brag and if he returned from meeting the girl it was fucking hilarious and no one got arrested becuse beeing an asshole is not protected by law.Father Time said:
Why are you even talking to the guy who doesn't make the cut?
Maybe deep down you like the attention he pours upon you, so you are subtly encouraging him while at the same time keeping him at a distance. Maybe this attention from two males is something you like because you are fat and ugly with an acne problem and you've never seen anything like this before. Maybe you created this posts as a way of bragging about your social situation that in the first time in forever has taken a pathetically small turn for the better.
But I agree with you the whiny guy without the job and without the car doesn't deserve the time of day from you. The only reasonable solution is to tell him to get lost. There is no middle ground.
Maybe deep down you like the attention he pours upon you, so you are subtly encouraging him while at the same time keeping him at a distance. Maybe this attention from two males is something you like because you are fat and ugly with an acne problem and you've never seen anything like this before. Maybe you created this posts as a way of bragging about your social situation that in the first time in forever has taken a pathetically small turn for the better.
But I agree with you the whiny guy without the job and without the car doesn't deserve the time of day from you. The only reasonable solution is to tell him to get lost. There is no middle ground.
This sounds to me rather like a guy who doesn't understand much about social interaction. Some people are like that. Be it by birth or by upbringing, social queues and unwritten rules of conduct that most anyone else would take for granted pass this fellow by. It certainly doesn't make how he is acting right or even pleasant to be around, but it may give you a better understanding of why he acts the way he does. Hopefully in time he will learn how to appropriately get along with others but until then you may want to steer clear of him if you don't want to be too involved his learning.
that seems a bit far fetched doesnt it? I mean automatically implying the female in the situation is just doing it for her own evil gain.....I mean seriously theres been tones of threads like this here with the roles reversed....Fearzone said:
Well I'm guessing he had a crush on you for some time and he felt like spilling the beans before it's too late.Rin Little said:
Which is something all the dating experts like to suggest, and is completely and utterly wrong, I also had to learn that with trial by fire.
I just hope you gave him a clear answer on the matter, because considering that whole car comment... he's really better off elsewhere.
I'm not entirely sure how much "steam" this thread has left in it, or how much you want it to.Rin Little said:
But I'd probably Edit your first post to specify ages, as originally I had assumed you were probably teenagers (generally as that's when such awkwardness seems to mostly occur) and even after you clarified you were 22, I assumed he was the same age as you.
Not having a real job/car at 17-18? Perfectly acceptable, how many people do?.
Not having a real job/car at 22ish? Maybe he's a student or having trouble with the current economic environment?
Not having a real job/car at 30? Oh dear.
As for "advice" - as several others have suggested, tell him that your "friendship" isn't working out (whether or not you view it as such, he probably does) and that you don't wish to speak to him any longer. Delete his contact details/accounts off everything you own and is required, tell your friends you don't wish to attend anything he's invited to (doesn't sound like it'll be an issue). If he tries contacting you, ignore it for a say a week, if he's STILL pestering you, tell him you'll get a restraining order. If he still continues then the solution is obvious.
Also, a bit out there, but how long have you known each other? I'm guessing given the 8 year age gap you're not childhood friends and probably just met him working at a part-time job during school or something. If you do know his parents at all, it perhaps couldn't hurt informing them of what a douche their son is being.
My thoughts anyway.