Sexual Preference = Racism?

[Thanatos5150]

You being more attracted to white women than you are black women is no more racist than, say, preferring red-heads over blondes.It's just what looks attractive to you.

Personally, I prefer Caucasian, pale brunettes (With red hair colour), but have dated and slept with black people, Asian people, blonde people, natural redheads, et cetera. It's no big deal.
(For the record, I'm a white guy with black hair).

 

[Sethzard]

Well, I dated a really cute black girl so I have no idea. I really have no preference. My friends joke that I have dated every race, so next will be albino. Is albino white?

Technically albino is a lack of pigment, so it's no color at all.

But now I'm genuinely curious about if there are any albino "black" people out there.

That is impossible, they lack the pigment melanin, and that pigment not only gives us skin colour, but also protection from UV light

 

[Azriel Nightshade]

Being someone who is easily turned on by any shade of person,and ether gender,I do find it a bit weird that someone can't find someone else of a different color attractive.No big deal though.(Insert "Diff'rent Strokes" theme song)

Side-note:I do find it amusing how racists have managed to be so appalling that they have made the idea of not being attracted to someone of a different color socially questionable.

 

[MiserableOldGit]

Thats not racist - sexual preference is like food - some folk stick with pie and mash and never go near the chilli. More chilli fer the rest of us, I 'spose...

 

[CK76]

Well documented (by someone I assume) my affinity for red hair. So happens those ladies are generally of Scottish, Irish or English ancestry. I have no issue with women of other varieties, but cannot help it that red hair is automatic plus for me since adolescence.

 

[Kunzer]

My view on this issue is that your on-and-off girlfriend has a flawed frame of reference.

Specifically, she relates love to an employment opportunity. This means one of two things:

Either she is a woman of ill repute and doesn't fancy the idea of herself or other women being turned down by prospective customers,

Or, she simply fails to grasp the concept that romantic attraction rarely affords logical explanation.

Regardless, as you yourself stated, your furthering of this conversation will do nothing but harm your relationship, however tenuous, with her.

I can relate to you entirely on the topic of conversations and closure, but it just isn't worth it

It is especially fruitless when attempting to discuss a topic logically with someone who fails to grasp and/or refutes sound logic.

Bottom line, how you feel is how you feel, and there is no reason for you to change that. I'd avoid future discussions regarding the issue, were I you.

 

[RobCoxxy]

Your on/off girlfriend? She's wrong.

Typical bloody woman!*

*Sexism for ironic humour only.

 

[Sparrow]

There's a blue cube and a red cube. I like the look of the red cube. That doesn't mean I don't like the look of the blue cube, I'm just more drawn to the red cube. Does this make me blueist?

Your on/off girlfriend? She's wrong.

Typical bloody woman!*

*Sexism for ironic humour only.

Also, I like this guy.

 

[Jroo wuz heer]

Well, I dated a really cute black girl so I have no idea. I really have no preference. My friends joke that I have dated every race, so next will be albino. Is albino white?

Technically albino is a lack of pigment, so it's no color at all.

But now I'm genuinely curious about if there are any albino "black" people out there.

michael jackson

 

[DeepComet5581]

That's a stupid argument...

You can't really help who you're attracted to.

And for the most part, guys are attracted to girls from the same race anyways, so it's kind of just calling all guys racist or something along those lines if you were to say it's racism to not be attracted to someone of a different race.

I counter that.

I am a quintessential white male, but find black women more attractive.

As long as the attraction to people of a certain skin colour doesn't affect ones judgement, what exactly is the problem?

 

[Shock and Awe]

Like others have already said, you can't call someone a male chauvinist because he is gay. Personally I am more often attracted to white girls, though thats not to say there aren't some black girls that I find attractive, but I really don't care to go into it.

 

[Broady Brio]

Really? It's a preference. Like saying you prefer beef than to chicken, it's whats called Preference.

 

[afaceforradio]

Sexually preferring a certain type is nothing like when people apply for a job. You see someone across the bar, the attraction is there or it isn't. An employer has to find out about the person before deciding whether they want the person in their company.

I am not attracted to black/asian men, but I do find myself attracted to Caucasian, European or Hispanic men, but I'm not racist because of the two I'm not attracted to, no.

 

[Mechsoap]

sexual attraction is more a instinct and not really a thing you can force upon

 

[darkonnis]

You like who you like, saying you arent attracted to someone because of the colour of their skin is no biggy. You could compare it to saying that as a bloke you dont find other men attractive, doesnt make you a homophobe does it? It would be a different scenario if you said outright that you disliked black people, no matter how well you knew them you would always dislike them (not talking about attraction to them). but seeing as that isn't the case it seems to me she is just looking or an argument. What are you supposed to do? like everyone equaly? talk about ideal world and all that

 

[Cornellious]

The problem is in western culture the model of beauty is that of the European woman. Light skin, delicate features, slim build, etc. From a very early age we are bombarded with this image, that this type of woman is the most beautiful.

If you watch any sort of hollywood movie, even if there is a black female lead, they will have these sorts of features if they are meant to be pretty. Actors like Halle Berry get alot of these roles because they have dark skin, but the sort of features that are epitomized in our culture.

It isn't just black women either. For instance many Pacific Islanders have features that differ too greatly then the one mentioned earlier, while many other cultures are much closer to that which I mentioned earlier.

Aside from the argument above I feel there is room for the argument that even without this media influence people are generally more attracted to their own race.

Whether this makes you racist or not is up to you. I highly doubt there is any way to change this sort of sexual preference so racist or not (however minor) will likely remain the same.

 

[p3t3r]

ya i agree with you sexual attraction isn't necessarily racism. there is only a handful of people around here that aren't white. But DO NOT try and explain this to a black girl that is coming on to you or your friend.

 

[Treblaine]

I was having a discussion with my on-and-off girlfriend. We're currently off because she's going to be in another state for at least a year, and we don't want to deal with the long-distance relationship because we've both had bad experiences with them.

But anyway, I mentioned that I'm not initially sexually attracted to black women, but after getting to know someone better, I can be attracted to anyone. She accuses me of blatantly being racist and equates it to if I were an employer, I wouldn't give a black person the same chance as someone of any other race. I tried to explain my point, but because this was a conversation over the internet, neither of us could convey the true meaning of our words.

There's much from the conversation that I've left out here. I could go into further details upon request. I just don't see how my initial sexual attraction is the same as me being a racist, and this didn't seem to me to be a very big issue, but one of my major flaws is that I can't let a conversation just end, because I feel it has to have some sort of resolution.

I know this is hardly the kind of conversation to have at four in the morning, and I probably shouldn't have said anything. I just fear I may have lost my greatest friend forever.

I know we're probably both blowing the whole thing way out of proportion, but what are your views on the subject?

In this interconnected world the only reason distinct races even still exist... is because of that kind of "racism".

If races intermarried and had kids then their races would cease to exist, their genes would just blend into creating FAR more variety in facial features, body type and genotype.

Admittedly, that kind of society would actually be a very good thing as basically you have the OPPOSITE of inbreeding, you have "hybrid fitness". See these distinct racial groups have many beneficial genes but also have accumulated some less than useful ones (East Asian alcohol breakdown pathway weakness for one), from the way genes pair up you tend to get the best of both worlds.

There are many practical reasons to be not so keen about choosing a black partner, the fear of racism ITSELF. I understand African Americans are VERY proud of their race and may feel threatened by some non-black guy "stealing" "their" woman. if it is a serious relationship no one wants to feel unwelcome in their spouse's own family and at the same time may not want to deprive them of their family in avoiding them.

I don't think comparing to discriminating your sexual partner can be compared with employment discrimination.

NO ONE CAN TELL YOU who you can or cannot be with. To say otherwise is tantamount to rape.

 

[Phenakist]

How can personal preference be called racist? Surely if preference has to be politically correct then it wouldn't be preference, it would simply be getting told what to think. Personally I wouldn't go out with someone from a non white race, I simply don't find that attractive, and lets face it, nobody can turn round and say "Stop being a racist douche and fall in love with people you don't find attractive" because it simply isn't racist.

If you want racist, try putting a patriotic American and a muslim together.