hyperhammy said:
That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?
1.1 Yes and I have many times. I've often sleep next to several other guys when there was only one bed when we've been in sleeping bags and roadtripping or LAN-ing or something. Actually in retrospect I've also done a lot of platonic bed sharing with friends even recently.
I had a mate who practically lived at my house 2/3 days on university holdays, (he was trying to avoid his father as much as possible and I was bored). After a couple of nights of sleeping on my uncomfortable couch I offered to share my double queen size with him. Basically we shared the same bed and blankets for almost a month without anything gay or awkward. Later on in the year I would crash at his house in the city on ocaision when it was too late for me (or I was too drunk) to go home. That said I got a lot of good natured crap from my other housemates that he was my boyfriend, made more hillarious/awkward by the fact he broke up with his girlfriend a few weeks earlier.
I have a tiny room now at my new accomadation so one at least three ocaisons I've shared my double bed with visiting friends (male and female) platonically in the last year. On plenty of ocaisons I've shared a bed drunkenly at house parties with a mate, male or female. One my 21st I got high (an incredibly rare occurence) late after most people had gone home with two of my best friends, we then all passed out on my bed. Also one time while camping I shared a swag, two sleeping bags (unzipped and used like blankets and spooned a good friend to avoid dying (maybe hyberbole, but meh) of hypothermia in the snow.
Bare in mind I am a straight male, I just don't have any homophobic hang-ups about this sort of thing.
2. Yes and no, I don't like to talk about past sex partners or encounters I feel it's not anyone but our business. But I will openly talk about the act of sex, what I'm attracted to and why. I will openly admit feeling of physical attraction and love to both sexes, while at the same time explaining that while I might think a man is handsome or I might love (like a brother) a very close male friend, it's not the same as sexual attraction, lust or anything other than platonic love.
3. I usually just talk about something else. I'm confident about my own sexuality and who I am, if they're notit's their problem. I might for kicks imply they're sexist, homophobic or intolerant in some way just to see their reaction ("I'm not a homophobe but...").
