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So... as long as it is the sort o sexuality you like it is ok? Isn't that, I don't know, horribly selfish of you to determine what is or isn't alright for the rest of people?
don't get me wrong, an oversized bust doesn't do anything for me either, but it is just too self righteous to start deciding what is acceptable.
Should games pander? Well, I think the better question is why shouldn't they? They are a medium just as any other, and if pandering exists in movies, literature, music and art, why should gaming be any different? And much like all the above, the amount of pandering is dictated by the response it gets and the profitability of it. With male gamers, yeah, I would say there is a bit of a market there for pandering sexuality in gaming. Why not? Obviously the entire industry, not even the entire triple A industry is going to do it. It is still more niche then not, so if it doesn't suit your taste, that is fine, there is plenty other games out there to play. And if the games you want aren't being made, well, my sympathies, help bring them into existence by supporting kickstarters or channeling demand and funding to related projects.
Honestly, anyone actively trying to say gaming shouldn't pander would need to give me a real good reason why it makes any sense at all. And no, "because we already have porn" isn't a good reason any more then the flipped argument of "well, you already have twilight books, no need to make video games with female leads". Not everyone wants porn, and not everyone reacts the same to different types of titillation and appeals to sexual excitement. As long as there is a market and no one is harmed, I see no reason to try to pretend games need to be somehow protected from this.