She's Back. Please help...

[Julianking93]

As some of you may remember, I had a bit of a relationship problem with a girl I met on Omegle who turned out to live in my city. She was almost perfect but it turned out she was a crazy Jesus freak.

Spoiler: Here's the original thread

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.159245?page=1

Now, I just got a call from her about an hour ago. She was lightly sobbing and apologizing for everything she did and said. She says she's now left all the Jesus stuff behind her, realized she was wrong and now wants me back.


For those of you who remember the original thread and helped me with my last problem, maybe you can help again now.


So, Escapist, what the hell am I going to do?

I had feelings for her and she did for me too, but that one flaw was the big deal breaker for us (including the fact that she became obsessive)

But now she says she's alright and realizes her mistakes. What should I do? Its been over a month since I last saw her so maybe she really isn't crazy anymore.

I'm thinking about just forgetting her and moving on like we did before but I just don't know.

 

[jesse.]

Why not, If she is the same you can always leave again.

 

[Daggermonkie]

move on.Nobody can become un-crazy on a whim.you can become crazy but not turn sane

 

[delet]

Give her a shot but let her know she's only got one chance? Sometimes, people do have the capacity to change, just not often.

Edit- Read your original thread post. Yea, nothing can fix that kind of... mentality. Give her up. No matter how perfect she may have seemed at one time, there will be others out there.

 

[thiosk]

Spoiler: Probably the wrong answer

I'd totally fill the void left by Jesus's departure.

Repeatedly.

 

[Yoshemo]

hmm.. give her another chance. But then again, if she left her religion for you, she might be nuts. But I've dated a mentally unstable guy before. it wasn't that bad

 

[Avatar Roku]

Now, I just got a call from her about an hour ago. She was lightly sobbing and apologizing for everything she did and said. She says she's now left all the Jesus stuff behind her, realized she was wrong and now wants me back.

How serious was she about that in the first place? People don't just leave that sort of thing behind them unless they weren't in the religion for the religion in the first place.

 

[TheNumber1Zero]

Do you want to give her another chance? Our opinions are going to be a mix of yes and no, so it's all going to boil down to your opinion anyways. What do youthink?

 

[Nitpicker of the Wastes]

Judging from your helpful last thread, it's not worth the trouble. Don't take her word for reformation, either.

Move along, she's not the droid you're looking for.

 

[SwishiestB0g]

Well I read your thread, and was blown away by the help and so I didn't feel the need; but being me, the person who has had girls come back many times, none romantic though, I thought it nice to share my advice.

Test the waters, don't go all lovey dovey. See if she is doing better. If not it shouldn't be that hard to tell.

Though I am reminded of a line from a show (cookie for the reference): "Any girls looking for a guy online are either A) crazy b) a guy or c) a hooker" <not meaning to offend ANYONE with this, just thought it did fit the situation>

Seriously though, you sound like you regretted having it happen so go for it. Worst that happens is you learn that she still needs to get over it. Best thing that happens you live happily ever after. I say it's worth it my dear fellow Escapist.

 

[Cheery Lunatic]

Waaait, I'm confused. You hate her because she's an extremist Christian, or do you hate her just because she believes in Jesus? Kinda asinine of you to try to change her views like that though. Even if she is freaking insane.

If she keeps on bringing religion into conversations, then forget about her. Otherwise, I don't think it should make a difference.

 

[zagazsano]

Well, I did not help you in your last post unfortunately, sorry
I'm happy to help now though.
Alright, lets start with a couple questions: Do you still have feelings for her? And are you really convinced that she is over her obsession?
Go ahead and make some appointment with her and give a talk, if the talk becomes a little awkward, then apologize, and let her go lightly.
If it goes well, and you develop feelings again, then if your heart tells you too, then go for it and get back together.
Best of luck and I hope things turn out well.
Your fellow Escapist,
zagazsano

 

[funksobeefy]

Julian! How could you? I expected better from you. You met her on the internet! She's probably a guy!

right?

...no? fine.

Well meet her for coffee and a short date just to check. If she is still insane you only wasted like 5 bucks and can move on. If shes not then you have a nice date with a girl you like and alls well in the world.

 

[Xpwn3ntial]

From your original thread
" I learned that this seemingly perfect girl is a bible thumping, Obama hating, gay bashing, Evangelical Christian"
She hasn't left that bible shit behind, she'll hide it for a few months then bring it back.
Best to just forget and move on, but we all know you're going to give it another shot.
Thats what all men do.

And we are prouder for it.

 

[MorsePacific]

Be wary, JK. Be very wary. I suggest maybe hanging out with her and seeing what goes on. Don't cut her out entirely or you could be missing a chance at something great.

 

[djpuppylove789]

When it comes to relationships, it all depends on compatability. My girlfriend is, in short, the same as your description of this girl in your first post. Not to the same degree, but her beliefs differ greatly from mine. I didnt, and still dont care. Her idiologies dont effect our relationship (she's actually one of like 10 open minded Republicans). Come down the road this becomes a problem, then so be it. It basically comes down to what YOU think you can handle. I say go for it, and if she becomes obsessive (again) then just let it go. Give it a chance. I hope my post helps. Best of luck.

P.S. I've been in my relationship with my girlfriend for a year and 2 months, and we've yet to have our differing ideologies cause any problems (and yes, we have actually discussed them)

 

[RatRace123]

I wouldn't, if you left that woman because she was a religious freak. She can't change if she's a nutball, she's just probably a lonely nutball who's Jesus rants left her with one too many broken hearts.

 

[Aerodynamic]

Stay away, chances are, she still is crazy.