She's Back. Please help...

[maninahat]

Spoiler: Probably the wrong answer

I'd totally fill the void left by Jesus's departure.

Repeatedly.

Ha, you son of a *****.

I suspect the girl might not have completely changed. If she dropped Christianity so easily, and she has obsessive tendencies, that sounds the danger alarms. It means if you let her back into your life, she might not get out of it again. My friend had this girl who became passionately obsessed with him in no time at all, whilst he remained totally indifferent. He dumped her after only a month, but she would not get out of his hair for months/years. Your case may end up nothing like that, but still...

 

[Julianking93]

If I may ask, though: Exactly how far along in your relationship did you get with her before things went to shit? More out of curiosity than anything else, really.

About a month.

 

[archvile93]

Get wasted?

Gotta go with this.

crazy Jesus freak.

OK, are we talking like "Jesus Camp" levels of Jesus freak, or more normal levels of Christian devotion that scared you off because (I assume) you're an atheist? (Please note, I was raised in an extremely liberal home going to a fairly tolerant Protestant church and I've turned out agnostic. This is in no way meant to be an attack on your beliefs.)

If you're talking "Jesus Camp" levels...I don't know how else to tell you this, but you just don't get rid of that kind of stuff. It lingers, like cocaine. If so, even if she's doing her damnedest to suppress those thoughts, they will exist at an underlying level. It's close to brain-washing, what extremely "conservative" parents do to their children.../shudder

If it's slightly less than that, more she was just never really exposed to the other ends of the argument, then contact with you may have been enough to crystallize some doubts about her upbringing in her mind. Don't expect her to outright reject her beliefs, but I think you could expect at least a more open mind.

All I can say is talk to her. Talking to the other party is always the best solution, especially face-to-face communication. I've seen my friends mess up more relationships by not talking to their opposite number than I've seen miles of glacially-formed plain.

I live in Midwestern Ohio, just south and west of Lake Erie.

In all seriousness though, I think this guy's got the right idea.

 

[S.R.S.]

Flip a coin.
http://www.flip-coin.com/

 

[justhereforthemoney]

I would give it a try but let her know where you stand, any crazy stuff at all, and you walk.

 

[T3h Merc]

Julian, I understand that you want to and it feels right but you have to let her go. Everything she was she will be. People don't change and to expect it of her is wrong. That said you might as well try but I predict failure and sadness. This can't be easy to hear but just... leave.

 

[RagnorakTres]

First thing she calls you and says she's not crazy anymore, next thing you know you are tied to a chair in her basement and she giggles and spoon feeds you, saying that now nothing will stand between you and you'll be together forever and ever.

How much would you bet there's pr0n of that somewhere?

 

[recoverytwo]

Stay away.

It would be like going back to a old GF that you broke up with staked you , wen to a asylum then came back and said she was alright , the face she came back says she is not alright .

 

[Allstar309]

Check if she has the crazy eyes.

 

[acklumos]

I can kind of relate to this. I had a good friend who turned ultra-religious. We had been friends for years, but after that, I couldn't stand him. About a year later, I spoke with him. He came over and we hung out. Not a hint of the zealot he had been in the last years left. You could give her another chance, and if she hasn't changed you could always leave her again. I believe in second chances, and that people can change, but if she hasn't really changed, you should end it for good, and not give her a third chance.

 

[teisjm]

If you liek her give it a shot, it's not like she cheated on you or anything.

But to be safe... you betetr learn some basic selfdefence and psycho-handling 101 before you do so.

 

[Acier]

So, Escapist, what the hell am I going to do?

Listen to me very very carefully.

Don't fucking do it.

I was once in an emotionally manipulative relationship, and this happened. Except he waited 2 months. Crazy isn't fixed in a month, this is just her last ditch effort to get you back. It may pop up again, but honestly this is scarily similar to what happened with me.

Don't listen to her, cut off all ties, unless you think you'll enjoy an eventual replay of what happened before

 

[RagnorakTres]

First thing she calls you and says she's not crazy anymore, next thing you know you are tied to a chair in her basement and she giggles and spoon feeds you, saying that now nothing will stand between you and you'll be together forever and ever.

How much would you bet there's pr0n of that somewhere?

Well, I can bet an insane amount of money that this scene has appeared in a non-pornographic media at least a couple of times. I'm sure I saw it in some "teenage love story turned horror movie" + in couple of mangas.

Yeah, Stephen King wrote an entire book about one of those situations. (It's called Misery and, supposedly anyway, it's a really good book.) But I'd literally bet my life that someone, somewhere, gets off on that.

Seriously. (If for no other reason than that polling every person on the Earth would never be done in my lifetime. Cheating, FTW! XD)

 

[Kud]

*checks your profile*

If the girl loves you more then what she believes in, and your only 16, then there is something very wrong.

 

[teutonicman]

Hit that up man, just make sure she doesn't cut your balls off while you're sleeping.

 

[tijuanatim]

From what I've read she seems like a complete nutto. I really think you're better off without getting romantically involved. Now I'm not saying don't be civil, maybe even try being friends to see how serious she is about getting herself together. Just don't rush into a serious commitment expecting a complete turnaround from her.