She's Back. Please help...

[Aerodyamic]

Spoiler: Probably the wrong answer

I'd totally fill the void left by Jesus's departure.

Repeatedly.

Totally innapropriate? Probably.

Spoiler

Funny as fuck? Hell yes.

Anyways, I'm gonna side with the group that's pointing out that people don't spontaneously become 'un-crazy'. I will admit that she may have had an epiphany, but I'd think it's unlikely, since I'm fairly certain that her religious leanings are a product of her upbringing. It's REALLY unlikely that she'd make a substantial break with religion if it meant her family was going to functionally disown her, but I guess it's possible.

My only real advice is that you suggest that you're still a little overwhelmed by the whole break-up, and that while you've no objections to seeing if things may work out again in the future, you really don't want to rush into anything. If she's taken aback, she's probably just making a last-straw attempt at stopping a good catch from getting away, rather than REALLY concerned with your love. If she's willing to take things slow, then you'll have an opportunity to see if her beahaviour has actually changed.

Other than that, I hope the situation pans out well, regardless of your decision!

 

[ExaltedK9]

You led her away from her faith...you bastard.

 

[Berethond]

snip

Run.
Run far.
Run fast.
Nothing you can possibly do can get you far enough away from that person.

 

[Julianking93]

crazy Jesus freak.

OK, are we talking like "Jesus Camp" levels of Jesus freak, or more normal levels of Christian devotion that scared you off because (I assume) you're an atheist? (Please note, I was raised in an extremely liberal home going to a fairly tolerant Protestant church and I've turned out agnostic. This is in no way meant to be an attack on your beliefs.)

If you're talking "Jesus Camp" levels...I don't know how else to tell you this, but you just don't get rid of that kind of stuff. It lingers, like cocaine. If so, even if she's doing her damnedest to suppress those thoughts, they will exist at an underlying level. It's close to brain-washing, what extremely "conservative" parents do to their children.../shudder

If it's slightly less than that, more she was just never really exposed to the other ends of the argument, then contact with you may have been enough to crystallize some doubts about her upbringing in her mind. Don't expect her to outright reject her beliefs, but I think you could expect at least a more open mind.

All I can say is talk to her. Talking to the other party is always the best solution, especially face-to-face communication. I've seen my friends mess up more relationships by not talking to their opposite number than I've seen miles of glacially-formed plain.

I live in Midwestern Ohio, just south and west of Lake Erie.

That was one crazy fucking movie...

Anyway, I wouldn't say she's that crazy, but pretty close to it. At least, she was before.

I don't know how she is now, but I can't honestly imagine its that much different.

 

[Xhu]

So... she is exactly the same now, except you can add lying and emotional manipulation to the list?

She will say anything to get you back into a relationship. Once this is accomplished, she will say anything to keep you there. Getting out will be a lot more difficult for both of you the second time - and there will be a second time, when you come to your senses.

 

[dalek sec]

Don't do it, if she's one of those Jesus camp freaks it's not gone, just hidden....

 

[WhiteRat07]

She's crazy run jesus freaks are never good.And if shes willing to drop it for you your pet rabbits prolly gonna turn up in a crock pot.

 

[AizenTheAzure]

Bail, there's more fish in the sea, then again I'm strongly anti-religious. You don't just decide to stop being a Jesus freak, it's deeply ingrained in them.

Future Advice - Don't hook up through Omegle.

 

[Squidwogdog]

yeah... I had a stalker once, she said she would kill me and herself if I moved,( which I did, move that is)but it was all empty threats and the occasioanl phonecall.

My advice, if you do decide to go back, try and be as uncool as you possibly can, try and put her off, and if she isn't, well you've got a problem

 

[aDuck]

*le sni- wait. i am going to be serious now.->*snip*

Ok, i have read your other post, and i was about to say, there is nothing wrong with what the ideal Christians aught to do. They, however, are not supposed to be gay bashing and Obama hating. If a girl thinks like that, and the quickly drops what she should be molding her life around, i certainly does not sound like a girl that would have stopped obsessing over you. In fact, it has probably gotten stronger.

If you really want her that bad, you can try being just friends for awhile to see what she thinks about you. And don't forget, if you do decide to be "just friends", her ideas on what "just friends" are might be different from yours. And have you told here to chill on the messaging? Maybe telling her your boundaries will help.

on the christian part, not gay bashing. However, it is not how we were designed, and is said to be immoral in the bible. THIS DOES NOT ENTITLE CHRISTIANS TO BASH GAYS!! we are meant to inform, and pray, really. i dont get why obama hating is around, maybe because he comes from a muslim family or whatever, but never judge a book by its cover.

OT sorry to hear she is a "Jesus camp" kinda christian, and all i can say is it wont change. its sad to see someone dinouncing their religion for a relationship, but that goes to show you where they are in their spiritual walk... anyway...

dont take her back, it will just cause more pain. i dont talk to my ex too much, and that is because i found out she was dreaming of a fairytale price to rescue her from a locked dungeon, but thats a different story...

 

[Beardon65]

Shoulda been a poll... that way you don't need to read every post to see how many people said yes, no, or tap it.

OT: I don't know. She claims to have put Jesus behind her. I think what she means by that is to let you be you and not try to change you (yet). Reading your previous thread, her religion isn't the only thing that she's obsessed about. Texting and calling you every second means she's paranoid, she'll text and call every second she does't have you in eyesight. I could be wrong though, I don't really know anything about these types of situations.

 

[RagnorakTres]

LORENA BOBBITT ATTACKS WITH STEAK KNIFE

That was one crazy fucking movie...

Anyway, I wouldn't say she's that crazy, but pretty close to it. At least, she was before.

I don't know how she is now, but I can't honestly imagine its that much different.

I cannot possibly stress this enough without slinging you against a wall and nailing it backwards to your forehead:

[HEADING=1]TALK TO HER.[/HEADING]​

Find out what's happened, what's changed. If she was brought up in...well, in such filth, there's no other way to express my disdain for such sheer idiocy in the form of parenting, that's gonna stay with her. You can discuss religion with her (albeit carefully) and hopefully expand her horizons. If it's not self-imposed religious-blindness, she can be, for lack of a better word, fixed.

Lotsa ifs. IF IF IFFITY IF!

That was fun.

Sorry, got distracted there.

Believe me when I say, some serious shit can happen to a person in a month. She may actually have changed, and you won't know unless you talk to her. I believe I saw someone else saying "take the relationship slow?" Great advice. Never rush a relationship, especially if you suspect serious issues. But, equally, don't shut off an entire avenue of interest simply out of fear.

All we're saying,
Is give LOOOOOOOVE a CHAAAAAAANCE...

I have no idea what just happened there.

 

[Composer]

give her a second chance, who knows mabye she went to conciling?not about the jesus thing. i mean the constant need to know where u are.

 

[Johnmw]

She phoned you up and she was crying/sobbing already? She had either just been rejected/dumped by someone else or she's already engaged her meathooks of emotional blackmail. Yes I am cynical, but who starts a conversation crying?

 

[Blindrooster]

She gave up Jesus for you? I'm sure youre a great guy, but you are not Jesus. If she can so flippantly give up an icon for you, something is seriously not right. Don't try to change someone for their beliefs, however you might need to worry about the over obsessive thing.

 

[SpaceSpork]

1. Go back to her. Throw your body into her loving arms. (Figuratively.)
1.5. TALK TO HER!
2. If she's great, awesome!
3. If she's crazy, break up with her and change your phone number!

 

[historybuff]

I dunno. Agree to a date but not to commitment. She's got to prove to you that she isn't crazy.

 

[Pimppeter2]

Hmm what did I say last time?

Hit it and quit it

Still stands.

 

[Dr. wonderful]

Run, don't walk away.