She's Back. Please help...
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move on son, show so goddamn pride as a man, and forget her. go forth to your next conquest and make her miss you even more and make her realize what a dumbass mistake she made. but for God's sake don't go back to her, she's psycho
Dude this is seems like a textbook case of an obsessive trying to get back to her focus.Julianking93 said:
However, you should at least give her the benefit of the doubt. I'd recommend that you offer her a test date or two, in order to see if she's actually kicked the crazy. If you see ANY trends that previously drove you away from her, end the relationship before it gets too serious.
BUT, if she really seems to have realized her mistake, then I hope you have a happy relationship, should you decide to go steady
I'm really quite surprised at all the "tap that and move on" suggestions (well, this is the internet, so I'm not that surprised, but still). If she is actually that obsessive, that could be a very bad idea, and even if she was nuts, personally I'd feel like shit for doing it.
The best advice I can give you is take it slow, like other people have said. I'd try to keep the relationship on just "friend" terms for a while, but it's understandable if that's not feasible. Not having met her, all I can say is that you should go with your gut. If it starts not working out, it's not working out.
The best advice I can give you is take it slow, like other people have said. I'd try to keep the relationship on just "friend" terms for a while, but it's understandable if that's not feasible. Not having met her, all I can say is that you should go with your gut. If it starts not working out, it's not working out.
She seems obsessive just wanting to get back with ya...so if that's still an issue, leave it. Then again I'm a man of variety and revisiting bad (or the potential of bad) experiences just isn't in the cards.
Having religion isn't necessarily a bad thing though. Some of the best people I know are waking up on Sunday to head to services. Forcing beliefs and the "evangelical" stuff can be checked at the door for all I care. If they wanted to win me over to their belief system then they'd have to not act so out of the norm. That's right, Religion...the way to my mind is to stealth your way in there and make it seem like it was in me all along.
Back to the topic, she sounds nice, but attaches easily...which can last a long time. Then again, if you're asking others what they think, it seems like you kinda want it yourself. So ya just gotta weigh your options.
Having religion isn't necessarily a bad thing though. Some of the best people I know are waking up on Sunday to head to services. Forcing beliefs and the "evangelical" stuff can be checked at the door for all I care. If they wanted to win me over to their belief system then they'd have to not act so out of the norm. That's right, Religion...the way to my mind is to stealth your way in there and make it seem like it was in me all along.
Back to the topic, she sounds nice, but attaches easily...which can last a long time. Then again, if you're asking others what they think, it seems like you kinda want it yourself. So ya just gotta weigh your options.
1 you should accept the girl for who she is. its not her its u. i may be the only person who may have stood up to you but seriously maybe you should change not her
Do the Christian thing and show forgiveness, but bear in mind that forgiveness is different from stupidity. If the crazy comes back, cut your ties for good. I suggest sacrificing a goat.Julianking93 said:
The whole "giving up Jesus" thing wouldn't be healthy for either of you. Turning aside her Lord and Savior for you will just cement her tendencies toward being clingy and her parents (or whoever it was that made her into a fundie in the first place) will likely try to crucify you. Let her keep her beliefs to an extent, but be clear that she will have to accept that you yourself are much more liberal, perhaps that you even consider some of those beliefs to be morally abhorrent, and that she will have to be okay with that. Who knows, she might become more open minded over time.
If she's truly changed her ways, then she probably won't mind you testing her. Here's what you do... Be as blasphemous as possible. Anything you can think of that the old her would have hated... Do it.
If she's really reformed, then go nuts. Be glad you have a girl who loves you... Even if she is a bit more crazy than most.
If she hasn't reformed, then you know she was lying to you, and you don't need to be in that relationship.
If she's really reformed, then go nuts. Be glad you have a girl who loves you... Even if she is a bit more crazy than most.
If she hasn't reformed, then you know she was lying to you, and you don't need to be in that relationship.
We all have problems, mind you i dont think religion is a problem, let her back into your life, it seems from your posts you still have feelings for her, so you should see where it goes, and if she is the one, you will know, and if not, at least you know. its better to know then to always wonder "what if..."
Don't do it. There are plenty of women out there that have given you no indications that they are crazy.
Everyone deserves a second chance. If she relapses back into her old ways you'll know that your first decision was a good one and move on with your life. If she really has changed, more power to you.