Should I dump my girlfriend?

[Quiet Stranger]

Okay so here's the story, I'll try to include all the details. Today my girlfriend and I were suppose to hang out, (okay well yesterday, as in Saturday) we had made plans in advanced and she knew this, so what does she do? She goes to go mountain climbing with a friend but doesn't even bother to tell me, I have to hear it from her mother, oh and she didn't forget, trust me.

According to my mother, my girlfriend has done this many times before (we've been together twice)

So yeah, anyone hear think I should break up with her? Also if it's anything extra, when she was sick with strep throat and laryngitis (and swine flu when it was going around two years ago) I hung out with her all the time, I didn't care if I got sick, I want to be there for her, you know, if she needed anything or just didn't want to be lonely. So when I get sick she doesn't even want to come over.

 

[Bags159]

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How does your mother know that your GF has done this many times yet you don't?

I say give her one more chance.

 

[L3m0n_L1m3]

It does sound as though you're doing a majority of the work in the relationship. Have you perhaps considered talking to her?

 

[JaceArveduin]

hmm, well, if it was me, i'd probably have dumped her long ago, but im a cynical bastard so dont tak emy word on it

 

[badgersprite]

If you have to ask the question, then you probably already know the answer.

 

[Gorden Springel]

Okay so here's the story, I'll try to include all the details. Today my girlfriend and I were suppose to hang out, (okay well yesterday, as in Saturday) we had made plans in advanced and she knew this, so what does she do? She goes to go mountain climbing with a friend but doesn't even bother to tell me, I have to hear it from her mother, oh and she didn't forget, trust me.

According to my mother, my girlfriend has done this many times before (we've been together twice)

So yeah, anyone hear think I should break up with her? Also if it's anything extra, when she was sick with strep throat and laryngitis (and swine flu when it was going around two years ago) I hung out with her all the time, I didn't care if I got sick, I want to be there for her, you know, if she needed anything or just didn't want to be lonely. So when I get sick she doesn't even want to come over.

Man its one time, could have just been bad judgement. I say cut her a break til next time.

 

[Superior Mind]

I think you're going to have to be one of the rare guys who starts the "Honey, we need to talk..." conversation. Have a serious no-shit talk with her and yeah, if it calls for it you should probably end it. She could just be being really introverted - some people just are - in which case it's something you could work on. It could be that she's just not into a relationship and if so you should end it and move onto something else. There are few worse things than being in a one-sided relationship and you don't want to waste your time on something like that.

 

[Zaik]

Yeah.

But I would have told you to do that if I hadn't even read your post, so take that how you will.

 

[MikeOfThunder]

Before doing anything too rash, perhaps talk to her about it. Say you don't feel as though shes completely committed.

I've been there before, ended up with a mutual break up in the end. Nothing in common, we were just fighting against the current. Maybe you've got a similiar problem?

 

[Blank Kold]

Generally, if you have to ask this type of question, the answer ought to be obvious.

 

[Christopher Callahan]

Okay so here's the story, I'll try to include all the details. Today my girlfriend and I were suppose to hang out, (okay well yesterday, as in Saturday) we had made plans in advanced and she knew this, so what does she do? She goes to go mountain climbing with a friend but doesn't even bother to tell me, I have to hear it from her mother, oh and she didn't forget, trust me.

According to my mother, my girlfriend has done this many times before (we've been together twice)

So yeah, anyone hear think I should break up with her? Also if it's anything extra, when she was sick with strep throat and laryngitis (and swine flu when it was going around two years ago) I hung out with her all the time, I didn't care if I got sick, I want to be there for her, you know, if she needed anything or just didn't want to be lonely. So when I get sick she doesn't even want to come over.

Man its one time, could have just been bad judgement. I say cut her a break til next time.

Read the post, it isn't the first time. And if you had to ask us, then I think we all know the answer this.
reH pmud.

 

[Kpt._Rob]

Why do you think we can answer this for you? Which of us could have even a mild amount of genuine knowledge of the situation? All we have here is one anecdote told from your perspective. You need to understand what you want, and you also need to understand things from her perspective. You're the only person in a position to do this, not us, not your mom, no one but you.

You talk to her about your feelings, not in a whiney lonely puppy way, but as a human being, tell her how you feel, ask her how she feels, try to understand where she's coming from and try your best to communicate where you're coming from. That takes courage, but until you do it, you can't really know what you should do. Only then should you make a decision, not us.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

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How does your mother know that your GF has done this many times yet you don't?

I say give her one more chance.

poor memory

 

[DeadlyYellow]

You're coming to the internet for relationship advice.

What do you think?

 

[Urgh76]

Dump the *****

*actually reads the post*

oh, I'd say just confront her about it, and express your discontent with being uninformed

 

[Johnnyallstar]

If you have to ask the question, then you probably already know the answer.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[zehydra]

Yeah, I'd talk to her about it.

Keep in mind that that conversation is likely to cause the breakup

 

[Bon_Clay]

Do you enjoy being in the relationship? Do you foresee it being a worth while investment of time to work at?

If you want to break up with her, then do so. If it isn't working out for one or both of you, and you don't think that will change, its not really worth it is it?

 

[Julianking93]

Okay so here's the story, I'll try to include all the details. Today my girlfriend and I were suppose to hang out, (okay well yesterday, as in Saturday) we had made plans in advanced and she knew this, so what does she do? She goes to go mountain climbing with a friend but doesn't even bother to tell me, I have to hear it from her mother, oh and she didn't forget, trust me.

According to my mother, my girlfriend has done this many times before (we've been together twice)

So yeah, anyone hear think I should break up with her? Also if it's anything extra, when she was sick with strep throat and laryngitis (and swine flu when it was going around two years ago) I hung out with her all the time, I didn't care if I got sick, I want to be there for her, you know, if she needed anything or just didn't want to be lonely. So when I get sick she doesn't even want to come over.

Well, I'd really recommend talking to her first before just flat out dumping her. Talk to her about the issue at hand, if you can possibly resolve it and if you can, then great. If she continues this behaviour though, then it would be time to consider breaking up and if she flat out persists, then yeah, dump her.

However, I only have one side of this story, so I can't really tell you to do much. Perhaps it was a friend she hasn't seen in a while? She very well could have her reasons for doing this, which is why you really need to talk to her about it before acting out.

 

[Phlakes]

Well, if you're actually 20, talk to her about it and see if there's a way to resolve it. Too many times these kinds of things are a misunderstanding, and you wouldn't want to make a mistake and miss out on something special. But if your birthdate was fake and you're in high school (or younger), go ahead and dump her, there are plenty of victims for your basement fish in the sea, and none of them really matter anyway.