Should I dump my girlfriend?

[Andothul]

Talk to her first dude. First step to a long lasting relationship is communication.

Don't just dump her without trying to work it out.

 

[mechanixis]

How does your mother know that your GF has done this many times yet you don't?

poor memory

I'm getting the impression this isn't a very serious relationship.

 

[barbzilla]

Honest opinion is you need to evaluate your relationship. If you feel she is worth it, then confront her and tell her that she needs to take the relationship seriously or you are gone. Make sure to explain the problems that you can't live with (don't bring up all the small shit she has done). If she tries to work on it, and you can tell a difference then give her a chance to come through for you as she probably cares. If you don't think the relationship is worth the trouble you shouldn't even ask the question and just do it.

 

[Tdc2182]

First off, how old are you?

This is far from a big deal. If she was hanging out with some ex (like me) without telling you, yes you have a reason to be upset.

If you are seriously considering breaking up with her for something this miniscule, then you have no business being in a relationship in the first place.

Trust me, I know how annoying it is to take a backseat to other people in a relationship. It's how my last one ended. But yet again, this is far from a big deal.

 

[Tdc2182]

Not to offend here, but if you're seeking advice from an internet forum of mostly gamers (and approximately 70% of the population is male) then maybe you should think long and hard about whether you should be in a relationship in the first place.

I beg to differ. My last relationship took place because of advice on this forum (no matter how fucked it ended with, but to no fault of the escapist. She was kinda a whore.)

 

[Smooth Operator]

Sounds really out of context, I would need to know alot more then this for an accurate observation.
So I say take it easy and observe yourself, erratic emotional reactions are the usual culprits in senseless breakups.
One missed date doesn't say much to me other then your partner being an ass, but you know more then that, if this has been going on for a while and will continue then it's clear she doesn't care much about you.

You haveto know many people will be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship and have no regard for their actual partner, they simply stick around because the idea of someone being there for you is nice.

 

[A Weakgeek]

If you have to ask the question, then you probably already know the answer.

Generally, if you have to ask this type of question, the answer ought to be obvious.

This. If she had told you that shes going mountain climbing, that would have been alright. But since this has happened several times, I think she doesent care much.

 

[MrGFunk]

Seriously? You're asking a bunch of strangers on the internet? She should be dumping you, dude.

This is exactly what I was going to say. No need, though.

and this the answer...

Generally, if you have to ask this type of question, the answer ought to be obvious.

If you do decide to dump her, please say - "all the guys on escapist think I should dump you so I'm going to dump you." Please say that.

Man, what if she's on here?

 

[Riobux]

Talk to her, and if she seems like she doesn't care and isn't willing to put any effort in, then end it. If she seems like she's going to try harder, give her one more chance and one chance only. If she then does something similar, dump her on the spot.

 

[Elamdri]

Okay so here's the story, I'll try to include all the details. Today my girlfriend and I were suppose to hang out, (okay well yesterday, as in Saturday) we had made plans in advanced and she knew this, so what does she do? She goes to go mountain climbing with a friend but doesn't even bother to tell me, I have to hear it from her mother, oh and she didn't forget, trust me.

According to my mother, my girlfriend has done this many times before (we've been together twice)

So yeah, anyone hear think I should break up with her? Also if it's anything extra, when she was sick with strep throat and laryngitis (and swine flu when it was going around two years ago) I hung out with her all the time, I didn't care if I got sick, I want to be there for her, you know, if she needed anything or just didn't want to be lonely. So when I get sick she doesn't even want to come over.

I myself don't recommend being in a one-way relationship. If you're unhappy, then leave. Relationships are give-and-take; if it's all about her, then tell her it's over.

 

[Alexnader]

Dude you're at the best point in a relationship now - you've made the emotional detachment, the relationships over BUT she doesn't know that yet and now you can push it for everything you've ever wanted to ask for but we're too scared.

Threesome with her sister? Up the gary glitter? Her sister up the gary?

_>

Hell she stood him up to go mountain climbing with some friend, I mean if she cancels then fine but to not even tell the guy... honestly I think she's already doing what you've outlined here. Tell me OP, has she asked you to buy her anything? Any hints about gifts? Is some kind of anniversary coming up where you're expected to pay out? Is there a formal or dance? (Malcolm in the Middle has shown me that girls will never break up with you if the school dance is coming up, they'll dump you after though.)

Imo use her like she's using you, if she cares about the relationship she'll confront you. This strategem has two advantages, one it's the lazy mans way of doing things and two you might actually get something out of it (and if she was using you, you don't wind up looking like some pathetic sap). The main disadvantage is that if she actually cares and confronts you about your douchiness and you say "But you started it" you'll look incredibly immature.

It's up to you really so use your own judgement, just remember that nice guys will always finish last but only if everyone else is a tool.

 

[tehweave]

Not to offend here, but if you're seeking advice from an internet forum of mostly gamers (and approximately 70% of the population is male) then maybe you should think long and hard about whether you should be in a relationship in the first place.

I beg to differ. My last relationship took place because of advice on this forum (no matter how fucked it ended with, but to no fault of the escapist. She was kinda a whore.)

Hm... Well good for you then.