The difference is in continued habit. Even if there's only one person that time, if another time he chose not to because the person behind him was not female then it's sexist. The important thing is the choice made more than once.Chipperz said:
Since when was Being a Man Unattractive?
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Thug: Ok I have no clue on this one, probably because the girl is scared of what will happen if she rejects him.
Hippie: Hippies are so much fun to hang out with, they're just all around awesome.
Emo: Girls find emos really attractive, it has to do with the whole hair in your face thing (try it sometime, I guarantee from personal experience that significantly more girls will be interested in you). Also emos tend to have a sensitive side, and are often just as chivalrous as you.
My 2 cents, take it or leave it.
Just keep up the chivalry til someone appreciates you being a gentleman. Worked for me!
On another note, hippies don't spend 20 minutes on their hair, and emos spend longer, so unless it was some kind of average...
On another note, hippies don't spend 20 minutes on their hair, and emos spend longer, so unless it was some kind of average...
huuuuuu... These are the things we ask ourselves, my friend. I partially blame MTV, and the media in general. They picture how high school and college and social life etc are suppose to be, and some girls want to live up to that, and its SCARY. I see it in my sister. I also see retardation in it. Social networking hasn't helped either, but I don't want to type about that right now.OneBig Man said:
That doesn't matter to most women, though. The simple fact that I hold the door for everyone is enough to make me sexist to most SFFs, and I really don't know why I do it at all.Labyrinth said:
Telling these women to fuck off and die is quite nice, though. It just confirms that I'm sexist because not only do I believe that they aren't strong enough to open a door, I don't respect them enough as a woman to not swear at them. Because a large part of being a feminist is being a hypocritical moron.
Your case is getting more compelling as this thread wears on.... I don't really know how I feel about that. Haha.gof22 said:
The only one I can think of is The Idiot. I suppose the title only reinforces the point you were trying to make...and also the ending. Dear God, what a depressing novel.manythings said:
I find it really funny that only young, white males echo this sentiment over and over and over again.OneBig Man said:
No one else in the world wants to live in the past. It just plain sucked back then compared to now.
By the way, guys, she's not sleeping with you because you're nice. She's not sleeping with you because she either doesn't find you physically/socially attractive and/or finds your whining/lack of confidence really unattractive.
Nice guys don't finish last. Unattractive guys who have no self confidence and only complain about how being "nice" makes them so lonely finish last. At least guys who you consider jerks are more fun to be with for the girls you're attracted to; how about trying to find more compatible girls?
You must've missed the bit where I said I'm a feminist, right?Chipperz said:
For the rest of it I think there are a lot of flaws in culture as a whole. If a woman only sees you open a door for her and assumes chauvanism, it's a little like assuming someone's straight because the observer sees them kiss once, and it's someone of the opposing sex.
This might be true in middle school, but it's hardly the case once you're in the real world.
The only thing more unattractive than a jerk is a guy who can't stop complaining about how nice he is. To get into this negative worldview of how men and women (or in the case of this community, boys and girls) interact is a trap guaranteeing (and reinforcing) one's loneliness and antipathy towards women.
I *cannot* overstate this.
This is true. On the opposite side of the coin I finally broke up with a super ***** of a girl friend of two years about 6 months ago because... well because she was a ***** and recently started dating a really nice girl who lets me keep to myself when I want to... and I'm not entirely sure I plan to stay with her... its not all black and white.Contextualizer said:
Actually my approach to girls tends to work well. I'm like you, respectful, appreciative and everything the "modern day gentleman" should be. However, there is a fine line between subservience and being respectful/chivalrous.
If you can be confident whilst also maintaining the gentlemanliness aspect it tends to help things a lot. And don't be afraid to treat women like equals, some girls don't like to be treated a whole lot differently just because they're female.
If you can be confident whilst also maintaining the gentlemanliness aspect it tends to help things a lot. And don't be afraid to treat women like equals, some girls don't like to be treated a whole lot differently just because they're female.
That's a pretty huge generalisation, mate. Not all humans behave in the same manner when presented with the same situation. Some girls go off with unpleasant eejits because they think they might be able to "change them" (an impossibility, by the way), and others take one look and say, "Not for me". Hell, we guys can be pretty horrendous judges of character at times, so who are we to judge girls for making the odd poor choice? *laughs*OneBig Man said: