So I asked out the girl I have a crush on...

[Fappy]

With my current girlfriend, the first time I kissed her (before we were actually dating) I said, "I'm sorry, I don't know why I did that." After a brief pause I continued, "Can I do it again?"

Funny night, lol.

 

[manic_depressive13]

This is exactly the sort of crap spewed out on relationships which makes me fly off the handle, both on the internet and in real life. It's OK for the rest of you. You're not burdened down by your interests. But tell a woman - any woman - that you've simulated or emulated a computer system for every decade since the 1940s and tell me how you get on. Hell, the fact that I've emulated even a single computer system from that era puts most women off. And that's before you get to the interest in computer games, cars, aeroplanes, trains, military history...

The sheer hostility that most women that I've met have towards these subjects is a sight to beware. I'm treated like a crawling sack of bloated, fly-infested flesh by the vast majority of women, and a sub-human freak by most of the rest. Unfortunately for me, that's what I'm genuinely interested in. So, don't do your high-and-mighty Courage Wolf-infused "I got a date because I'm awesome and have a set of balls, and you, by extrapolation, are not and do not" routine on me. There is not a single woman in the world who will accept me for who I am. Count yourself lucky that there's at least a woman who will accept you for who you are - but shut up about it around the rest of us.

Aw, don't listen to all the nay-sayers. I find your bitterness and self-loathing to be extremely endearing. I can't be the only one who thinks you're cool, so you're bound to find a girl out there who likes you for who you are.

 

[triggrhappy94]

Le Snip du OP.

First off, Mazel Tov!

Second, you kind of remind me of my first "relationship" way back in sophomore year in high school. Why 'relationship' is in quotation marks, I'll spare so not to ruin the mood.

Thirdly (My advice for you), Enjoy the awkward first week; it's called the awkward first week for a reason. Also you're someone's bf now, so embrace it; it's role that not everyone adjusts to well. Take things naturely, at your own rate, not fast or slow. Don't be afraid to communicate with your new better-half.

 

[Dango]

Well, congratulations.

I'd probably do the same but... *whimpers*...

 

[Dunkerloop]

I didn't even bother thinking about the consequences when I asked my current girlfriend out. Just said "Fuck it" and asked her out.

If you're entirely sure that this is the person you want to be with, the possibility of them saying no shouldn't be in your head.

 

[donspyd]

[HEADING=3]What about, say, the step before that?[/HEADING]

Many girls are looking for guys too...don't think its only guys who are lonely (though yeah its probably more so...). The first step is to put yourself out there. For example if you like plays join a theatre club, you like animals? volunteer at a shelter. This achieves two things, the first you instantly have something in common and also you meet new people.

Also be confident and look into other peoples eyes (I cannot stress that enough). Its just hard to take an interest in someone who talks over you're shoulder.

About 'losing a friend' if you take the leap, that is utter bullshit and cowardly...I've asked girls out whom I was friends with and been rejected... as long as you don't suddenly become a stranger (thus giving the impression the friendship was never real, you only had the dating motive) it shouldn't end the friendship.

 

[Dr Snakeman]

This is exactly the sort of crap spewed out on relationships which makes me fly off the handle, both on the internet and in real life. It's OK for the rest of you. You're not burdened down by your interests. But tell a woman - any woman - that you've simulated or emulated a computer system for every decade since the 1940s and tell me how you get on. Hell, the fact that I've emulated even a single computer system from that era puts most women off. And that's before you get to the interest in computer games, cars, aeroplanes, trains, military history...

The sheer hostility that most women that I've met have towards these subjects is a sight to beware. I'm treated like a crawling sack of bloated, fly-infested flesh by the vast majority of women, and a sub-human freak by most of the rest. Unfortunately for me, that's what I'm genuinely interested in. So, don't do your high-and-mighty Courage Wolf-infused "I got a date because I'm awesome and have a set of balls, and you, by extrapolation, are not and do not" routine on me. There is not a single woman in the world who will accept me for who I am. Count yourself lucky that there's at least a woman who will accept you for who you are - but shut up about it around the rest of us.

Okay, that's it.

Spoiler: I might get probation from this, but the (admittedly, slightly pathetic) sense of satisfaction I get from it will be worth it.

I am so damn sick of you raining on people's parades whenever they find love. The appropriate reaction here is to feel a sense of hope that you might one day find someone who will tolerate your obnoxious, negative ass. But getting angry because he dares to be happy when all you do is mope? That's kind of insane, and disgusting.

On topic...

Congratulations, good sir.

Also, Courage Wolf is a fucking boss.

Precisely what this guy said. She sounds great (the different-colored-eyes thing is a particularly nice touch).

 

[smithy_2045]

Congratulations OP, you've done us proud.

 

[Kopikatsu]

Well, congratulations.

I'd probably do the same but... *whimpers*...

Man up, soldier. Walk up to that girl, get down on one knee, and ask her to marry you. STRAIGHT UP.

Worked for me, after all.

Disclaimer: I actually asked a random woman off the street to marry me. And she said yes. And was serious. The fact that she turned out to be a really awesome (If slightly yaoi obsessed) person afterwards was a definite plus.

 

[tobi the good boy]

Snip

Thank you for not starting another "OP bitches about how girls never like 'nice' guys" thread or "Girls will never like me" one.

*Reads down*

Crap, even positivity can't keep these annoying fuckers away.

 

[iRevanchist]

Sounds like you are going to ruin it by being too excited already. I think the opposite y
to this is you could be rejected and loose a friend.

could somebody please shut this guy up?
OT: i couldn't agree more with OP. as a girl who has had several (reciprocal) crushes, i know how frustrating it is when the guy won't grow a pair and ask.

 

[General Tharivol]

I think RAK here may have missed the reason why these women aren't interested in him. I'll give a hint: Maybe it isn't your interests that turn them off of you, but your tendency to be an obnoxious, loathsome prick.

OT: I'm just getting into a relationship as well. The girl I'm interested in is new to the whole geek-culture thing, but she's taking to it quite well, and enjoying it. Just went out last night, and it went very well.

 

[Magnus]

Maaaan, if only it was that easy for me, well at least I've got a close female friend.

 

[Buzz Killington_v1legacy]

Okay...I tried the avuncular route, but that didn't work, so here goes--holy sweet zombie Jesus, RAK should just change his avatar to this:



Free clue, RAK--it's not your interests or your looks that are turning women off. It's this over-the-top "WOE IS ME I ARE QUASIMODO AND I ALSO LIEK COMPUTARS WHICH IS A VERY UNUSUAL THING!!!one!" act you've got going on. Get over yourself and stop being such a martyr.

 

[similar.squirrel]

This is exactly the sort of crap spewed out on relationships which makes me fly off the handle, both on the internet and in real life. It's OK for the rest of you. You're not burdened down by your interests. But tell a woman - any woman - that you've simulated or emulated a computer system for every decade since the 1940s and tell me how you get on. Hell, the fact that I've emulated even a single computer system from that era puts most women off. And that's before you get to the interest in computer games, cars, aeroplanes, trains, military history...

The sheer hostility that most women that I've met have towards these subjects is a sight to beware. I'm treated like a crawling sack of bloated, fly-infested flesh by the vast majority of women, and a sub-human freak by most of the rest. Unfortunately for me, that's what I'm genuinely interested in. So, don't do your high-and-mighty Courage Wolf-infused "I got a date because I'm awesome and have a set of balls, and you, by extrapolation, are not and do not" routine on me. There is not a single woman in the world who will accept me for who I am. Count yourself lucky that there's at least a woman who will accept you for who you are - but shut up about it around the rest of us.

Yeah, that innate pathological fear of vehicles and operating systems is certainly a drawback when it comes to meeting a female partner. It explains why so much of the gay community is proficient in C++ instead of fashion and design. There's clearly no way these women could be repelled by any other aspect of your personality.

On topic: I've come to realize that the problem [well, mine specifically] lies in actually finding somebody that you want to be with enough to throw caution to the wind and ask out.

Nicely done, by the way.

 

[generals3]

Okay...I tried the avuncular route, but that didn't work, so here goes--holy sweet zombie Jesus, RAK should just change his avatar to this:



Free clue, RAK--it's not your interests or your looks that are turning women off. It's this over-the-top "WOE IS ME I ARE QUASIMODO AND I ALSO LIEK COMPUTARS WHICH IS A VERY UNUSUAL THING!!!one!" act you've got going on. Get over yourself and stop being such a martyr.

I have to agree with this i have a friend (ok it's not a gf but still) who has almost no common interests with me and yet we get along just fine and manage to have good discussions. And acting like a martyr is most definately a turn off. No one wants to hear someone tell them why they should be turned off by you. And even if you keep it for yourself all you're doing is taking down your own self-confidence which will most likely make you miss on many opportunities because of that fatalist idea of "it wouldn't work anyway".

 

[That One Six]

What hope is there to have? I've already determined without a shadow of a doubt that there actually isn't anyone out there to tolerate me, and even worse, there isn't anyone out there who will help me remove the parts of my brain that are holding me back. Anyway, he's not "daring" to be happy - he's straight-up gloating. You want me to stop "moping" about this? Find me somebody who will perform the necessary operations to fix my brain. I expect it's some sort of partial frontal lobotomy that I need, or something to destroy the serotonin receptors.

Okay. I'm not going to waste my time arguing with you. I'm sorry that you've come to feel that way about the world, but you're the one doing it. Have fun with that, friend, but don't yell at others for feeling good just because you don't.

 

[Carboncrown]

*massive snip*

If this is the most bitter post you've ever seen, you haven't seen many. This was measured compared to what I really want to say about this issue. I will, however, leave you with this:

Damn. That was... devoted.

Firstly, shoo! No touching of e-penises. I have too. (read many a post.)

Now, did you have that just lying around, waiting to be pasted, or you did you really write that just now? Though I suppose both are just as bad.

And, I wasn't trying to prove you wrong, just telling you that you were. Adding my voice to the masses, as it were.
Exorsising that level of angst is pretty hopeless over the internet.

So I'll just go do something that's less of a waste of time than reading a decomposition of someones percieved flaws* - however entertaining. Like derping in the character creation of a game I'm unlikely to ever actually play (APB).

[sub]*flaws, in a women getting sense[/sub]

 

[Laser Priest]

I tried and was told that anything more than platonic feelings she ever had for me had passed.

And now, we pretty much hate each other.

Fucking goddamn people with their romantic comedy lives.