so i'm about to become homeless. help?

[Dublin Solo]

Actually I stumbled upon this forum, I have no account here. Many people get thrown at at 16-18 and they don't come to an internet forum seeking help..

So, when you say that many people get thrown out and don't come to an internet forum, you pretty much acknowledge the fact that some others do.

I'm not saying that you shouldn't post here, far from that. I'm just curious to understand what kind of response you're expecting.

 

[EMFCRACKSHOT]

Actually I stumbled upon this forum, I have no account here. Many people get thrown at at 16-18 and they don't come to an internet forum seeking help..

We like eachother and want to help eachother. We are nice people

 

[Nickolai77]

A similar thing happend to my friend, he was kicked out of the home and stayed over at a friends house for about a week, his friends mother felt really sorry for him. By the end of the week my friends mum wanted him back. Chances are the Op's mum will want the same sooner or later.

So my advise to the Op is is, as other people have said, stay over at a friends house or if needs be a multitude of friends houses, arrange a system of sleeping over as long as you need to until your mum allows you back. In my opinion it is pretty retarded when mothers do this and it leads to nothing. Your final and last resort is of course child protection services.

 

[Dublin Solo]

Actually I stumbled upon this forum, I have no account here. Many people get thrown at at 16-18 and they don't come to an internet forum seeking help..

So, when you say that many people get thrown out and don't come to an internet forum, you pretty much acknowledge the fact that some others do.

I'm not saying that you shouldn't post here, far from that. I'm just curious to understand what kind of response you're expecting.

EDIT: Sorry, double post, my bad.

 

[Dahni]

Stop being a child.. It looks like its time to grow up and start taking responsibility. No one here is going to hold your hand for you and help you.. Stop trying to find financial help on a freaking internet forum.

excuse me? I'm not trying to find "financial help", I'm trying to find advice.
I have no idea where to look to get help from councils and whatnot because I'm fucking 16, I shouldn't have to deal with this. Considering a lot of members of the escapist are older, I'd like to think they know a bit more about this than I do. Therefore I thought, hey, why not ask the Escapist if they have any advice for me. so fucking shoot me if it pisses you off. dummy accounts are not cool.

snip.

How will it help you to shut up about it?
Giving the reasons as to why you're getting kicked up will help people understanding your situation better and provide helpful / supportive tips.

..Soooooooo, why did you get thrown out?

Because my mum found out what I'm planning to do after my 6th year of high school (I'm in 5th year right now), because I'm planning to go to Download festival, and because my room is messy because I've been clearing out my drawers & stuff. Throwing me out is an over-reaction, I suppose, but she really doesn't give a shit.

I was planning to go to a university near London because it's well known for being good at providing the course I'm after. This set her off and she told me that I'm "going to need the fucking practice".

 

[Epictank of Wintown]

Actually I stumbled upon this forum, I have no account here. Many people get thrown at at 16-18 and they don't come to an internet forum seeking help..

Then how about not being an asshole to someone who's looking for advice on a situation instead of saying "You know what? Fuck it. Let's roll the dice and see what happens." If you've got a resource, use it. You'd have to be an idiot not to.

OT:

I don't really have much to add other than what everyone else here has listed. Just try to keep looking for something. YOu'll find it eventually.

 

[Dudemeister]

Stop being a child.. It looks like its time to grow up and start taking responsibility. No one here is going to hold your hand for you and help you.. Stop trying to find financial help on a freaking internet forum.

That's very nice. Someone comes here and genuinely asks for help and you tell them to grow up. I'm sure you're going to make a lot of friends on this site. Why don't you just go away?
OT: Try here: http://www.syha.org.uk/home.aspx
And here: http://www.sssc.uk.com/

 

[dmase]

So i don't know if your the same guy but there was someone on here that was making situations or saying he was in said situation to get a reaction out of people.(your avatar looks familiar and thats the only connection i can think of)

Anyways, there is only one choice. Grow a long beard join a group of traveling hippie's and travel Scotland in a tie dye minibus. Seriusly though go to the nearest shelter and apply for benefits, work part time, finish highschool, and you still have no place to stay and no one to turn to but at least you have an education and a good chance to get a job. Hope this works out for the best.

 

[Tyrannowalefish_Rex]

Stop being a child..

Well, in many countries 16 is still considered being a child, and most people need and get years after turning 18 to fully become independent.

 

[Trivun]

Could be a bluff to motivate you to get a job.

If not, you could try a friend or relatives house.

nope, because i've been looking for a job since I turned 16. Jobs are difficult to come by around here.

I highly doubt it has anything to do with you getting a job. I'm 19, at university, in the UK, and I still can't find part time work. And that isn't for lack of trying.

Anyway, for now go to a friend's house, or any other relative, like Daniel said. Then I'd recommend going to the police and finding out from them whether or not your mother has the legal right to throw you out, given that you're only 16. If she's breaking the law then you need to take some sort of action, and if not then at least you'll be able to get some help from Social Services.

As a last resort, try the YWCA. They'll definitely be able to help you, at least in the short term until you get back on your feet. Whatever happens, good luck and hopefully everything will work out alright for you . Here's the link for the YWCA, in any case:

http://www.ywcascotland.org/

 

[The King And His Fool]

Like people said, contact the nearest social service and/or talk to someone at your school who might be able to assist you. Although I assume you no longer go to school, since you're already looking for a job. Or go to the city hall, police, church or other official supposedly good-doing place. They'll show you the way.

Next, ask said social service to mediate between you and your parents. I'm sure they can figure out a way for you to co-exist in the same world in some way or form.

You're right to not mention the reasons why you got kicked out. Ofcourse that just leaves me to believe your mother may have had valid reasons to do so.

Either way, good luck.

 

[sheogoraththemad]

first thing: try reasoning how hard it looks anyway.
second: ask for a place to stay by your family or friends.
third: ask your dad if he isn't angry to reason with your mom.
fourth: go to the police or something, your under aged and your parents are supposed to care for you till you are 18!

 

[Dahni]

Lol I'll be sure to do that.. Some ****** ass site who cradles this kids balls for him. What a bunch of saps.

what balls?
i have no balls -_-

 

[Sir Ollie]

Ok lets try to be helpful here.

Since it looks like you can't solve the issues with your mother.

1. Speak to Ciztizens advice.

They will help you regarding housing, benefits and refer you to other support.

2. Speak to your local council.

They will put you on the housing list. I'm not sure how it works in Scotland but since your under 18 you would be placed in a emergency housing. Most likely a hostel.

3. Stay in school.

Please for the love of God do this and tell them the situation. I'm sure they will provide support and maybe a little financial help if needed.

 

[ococ]

http://scotland.shelter.org.uk/getadvice/advice_topics/homelessness/homeless_peoples_rights

should prove helpful. Basically you make a homeless application to the local council and "it has a duty to provide you with temporary accommodation while it investigates your circumstances and decides if it has a duty to offer you permanent accommodation."

Because you are under 18, you will be "considered to be in 'priority need', which means you are more likely to be given a permanent home."

Also, ignore mastranios. He/She is acting like a jerk in my view.

 

[El Poncho]

Because my mum found out what I'm planning to do after my 6th year of high school (I'm in 5th year right now), because I'm planning to go to Download festival, and because my room is messy because I've been clearing out my drawers & stuff. Throwing me out is an over-reaction, I suppose, but she really doesn't give a shit.

I was planning to go to a university near London because it's well known for being good at providing the course I'm after. This set her off and she told me that I'm "going to need the fucking practice".

Really? That's the reason? I think she will realize how stupid she is being, she should anyway, if you just wait until she calms down then it may be fine. If not, then as I said before, go to a friends house, she may realize how stupid she is being then.