so i'm about to become homeless. help?

[AgDr_ODST]

knowing exactly what Download Festival is(for non UK escapists) and why that being part of your future plans would piss her would certainly help. As for helping you deal with your predicament. Aren't there shelters for people that are homeless(regardless of how they came to be that way) you could seek a bed in one of those or whenever you find a job explain your situation to who ever employs you and see if they'd be willing to let you take refuge there(in their buisness) outside of regular work hours. Alternatively you could find a place to stow your stuff and squat infront of or near your house (and carry a sign explaining the dick move that your mum pulled)

 

[Dahni]

Three words: JOIN THE ARMY.

Problem solved.

This is exactly what I was thinking.
Honestly, the military was always my back-up for everything. Almost enlisted a few times, got as far as the recruiter once. Still is an option if anything should happen to my job for whatever reason, actually.
Don't have a plan B? Answer: The military.

The army, although it is a good idea, is really not what i want to do.
I suppose i could always have it as a last resort...

 

[Ildecia]

some pretty fast replies here huh...

for everyone thats about to post "thats illegal" it isnt where the OP lives

1. that totally sucks
2. im sorry (i cant help you in any way apart from advice)
3. go to the music festival... dont not go because she is kicking you out for it...
4. try some social security/school funding program until you are of military enlistment age
5. i dont know what else to say D:

 

[AndyFromMonday]

I literally just went through to her room & from outside her door i heard her talking on the phone to someone about how she can't wait to get rid of me and start turning my room into a room for her boyfriend's kid.

She's a *****. I'm sorry if this offends you but she is in every sense of the word a fucking *****. Apparently pleasing her boyfriend by making his son a room is more important than giving a fuck about you.

EDIT: Gender issues(The more you damn know...) and options removed because apparently kicking a minor out of the house is not abuse and totally legal. God this world is fucked.

for everyone thats about to post "thats illegal" it isnt where the OP lives

That's just bullshit. How is kicking your under aged daughter from the house not considered child abuse?

 

[Riven Armor]

Three words: JOIN THE ARMY.

Problem solved.

This is exactly what I was thinking.
Honestly, the military was always my back-up for everything. Almost enlisted a few times, got as far as the recruiter once. Still is an option if anything should happen to my job for whatever reason, actually.
Don't have a plan B? Answer: The military.

Im confused why people think this is a sensible suggestion, i under stand 18 year old lads who have a history of being a troublemaker people say, put him in the army it will straighten him out.

But people really are saying to a 16 year old girl... your about to become homeless join the army.


Personally i think there are better routes she can take to help with being homeless.

I hope so. I don't know how it is in Scotland, but I'm betting 16 is too young.

Having said that, if you're of age, and if the Army there works the way it does on this side of the pond, you're guaranteed housing, food, pay, the opportunity to serve your country, and a job if you sign up and work hard. Now there are a few conditions that might bar you from signing up, of course...but if you're decently literate and not terribly overweight or bag of bones then the Army will make you in the image of what it needs.

My brother just called me yesterday - he's signing up for the reserve in his freshman year of college. He'll get the EMT-M certification (better than standard), several credit hours worth, and paid tuition in exchange for basic one summer, AIT another, and once-a-month training stops. Not a bad deal at all. Almost makes me want to sign up (but that'll have to wait).

 

[Terramax]

Three words: JOIN THE ARMY.

Problem solved.

This is exactly what I was thinking.
Honestly, the military was always my back-up for everything. Almost enlisted a few times, got as far as the recruiter once. Still is an option if anything should happen to my job for whatever reason, actually.
Don't have a plan B? Answer: The military.

Im confused why people think this is a sensible suggestion, i under stand 18 year old lads who have a history of being a troublemaker people say, put him in the army it will straighten him out.

But people really are saying to a 16 year old girl... your about to become homeless join the army.


Personally i think there are better routes she can take to help with being homeless.

Fully agreed. You're 16, at the age when you should be able to start making important decisions about where you want your life to go, NOT have to sign a contract forcing you to being the military for the next couple of years where you should be enjoying being free and young.

Secondly, correct me if I'm wrong, but signing up to the military isn't as easy as signing a contract and entering the military right there and then. You have to have interviews, physical tests, and have to wait up to months before you go in? Seeing as this girl is looking for a place to stay immediately, I find this completely irrelevant.

 

[Mushroom 118i]

One little thing, Download isn't quite as tame as it's being made out to be. It began as "Monsters of Rock", and is usually a mainstream metal festival, though it's metal credentials have gone down slightly. It's still a place of drunken rock and roll mayhem though.

But still, your mum is overreacting. If she does kick you out, go stay with a friend and she'll take you back in a couple of days. She's still your mum, she gave birth to you over all, it sounds like an argument that got out of hand.

Hell, this is if she ACTUALLY ends up kicking you out.

I'm aware of what Download is like.

she's told me to get out of the house before she gets home from work tomorrow evening, so yes, I am getting kicked out properly.

It was more at everyone else. You're the one wanting to go, I assumed you would know.

And wow.

I'm actually tempted by the camp outside the house idea, if she calls the police on you, she'll look like the bad guy for kicking you out.

 

[sms_117b]

long story cut very short:

my mum is throwing me out the house for various reasons i'd rather not list.
I'm 16.
I don't have a job.
my only source of income is £30 a week from my school & £40 a month from my dad (which will now, likely, stop)

help?

I don't even know what I'm expecting you guys to tell me, but help anyway?

& please don't tell me to try reason with her because she CANNOT BE REASONED WITH.


EDIT:
why i'm getting chucked out:
Because my mum found out what I'm planning to do after my 6th year of high school (I'm in 5th year right now), because I'm planning to go to Download festival, and because my room is messy because I've been clearing out my drawers & stuff. Throwing me out is an over-reaction, I suppose, but she really doesn't give a shit.

I was planning to go to a university near London because it's well known for being good at providing the course I'm after. Moving from Glasgow to London is a pretty big jump for me. This set her off and she told me that I'm "going to need the fucking practice".

This has happened to a few friends of mine, take some things and stay at either a friends house/a few friends houses (as to not intrude to much)/a local relatives for a few days, this is normally long enough for your parents to see the err of their ways and invite you back. If more than a week goes by, it might be a good idea to talk to the relative that didn't kick you out and try to charm your way back home. It's a hard break for anyone that goes through this and I hope it sorts it's self out soon and you're not not left homeless.

 

[nick n stuff]

just wait for the parental guilt to kick in.

 

[Baby Tea]

The army, although it is a good idea, is really not what i want to do.
I suppose i could always have it as a last resort...

The thing is, you aren't stuck with it for life, unless the Military is very different in Scottland. After a brief Google search, you'd be able to leave after about 4 or 5 years of service.
That means you'd be in your early twenties, you'd have money, and you'd have experience in nearly any field you want! How is that not ideal?

 

[Dahni]

Lol I'll be sure to do that.. Some ****** ass site who cradles this kids balls for him. What a bunch of saps.

what balls?
i have no balls -_-

That is truly exemplar. Worst trolling attempt ever, kids.

Couple of questions I've got:
1) You mentioned she was angry about your choice of future (or something), is this to do with her not liking your choice of course of study?
2) If no to the above, is it really just wanting to go to Download and a messy room? You haven't been stealing to fund your Cadbury (lol, spell-check suggests "Cadmium") Creme Egg addiction or anything like that?
3) If there's really no other reason, is your mum a psychopath with a drinking problem? That'd clear up the motives pretty nice.

As far as advice goes I'd suggest with the jobs is take anything on offer (also go to the job centre etc). It'll probably pay shit but if they like you they might give you overtime which is where the real money is at. Stay at a friend or somebody you know, but of course it'd be best to help out with the bills etc so you stay motivated to move on up. Don't leave school, it's kind of essential. I'm guessing you're doing scottish highers, if so what? (I'm curious)

1) She is really not best pleased about me wanting to study Chemical Engineering. She's a bit backwards in the sense that she doesn't really think a woman's place is in a lab blowing shit up and whatnot. I could go on but you could probably guess what she's like from that.

2) see above.

3) She does have anger problems and she does have a hint of a drinking problem. Well, from what I can see, she does.

So far I've applied for pretty much every possible vacancy in my area, so hopefully I'll have a job ASAP.

I'm definitely not leaving school, because otherwise I'll not be able to get into uni.

Right now, I'm studying English, Maths, Chemistry, Physics & Economics.
and I just finished picking my subjects for 6th year and for that year I'm going to do Computing, Psychology, Administration and Chemistry (advanced higher).

 

[Valksy]

Call Shelter on 0800 800 4444. Do it now - find out where you stand.

 

[EMFCRACKSHOT]

The army, although it is a good idea, is really not what i want to do.
I suppose i could always have it as a last resort...

The thing is, you aren't stuck with it for life, unless the Military is very different in Scottland. After a brief Google search, you'd be able to leave after about 4 or 5 years of service.
That means you'd be in your early twenties, you'd have money, and you'd have experience in nearly any field you want! How is that not ideal?

Its not really ideal for a 16 year old wanting to stay in education and go to university.

 

[Dahni]

The army, although it is a good idea, is really not what i want to do.
I suppose i could always have it as a last resort...

The thing is, you aren't stuck with it for life, unless the Military is very different in Scottland. After a brief Google search, you'd be able to leave after about 4 or 5 years of service.
That means you'd be in your early twenties, you'd have money, and you'd have experience in nearly any field you want! How is that not ideal?

that's 4 or 5 years I could spend doing a Masters Degree in something I want to do for the rest of my life. 4 or 5 years of service in the military is a waste of my time.

 

[dragonburner]

long story cut very short:

my mum is throwing me out the house for various reasons i'd rather not list.
I'm 16.
I don't have a job.
my only source of income is £30 a week from my school & £40 a month from my dad (which will now, likely, stop)

help?

I don't even know what I'm expecting you guys to tell me, but help anyway?

& please don't tell me to try reason with her because she CANNOT BE REASONED WITH.


EDIT:
why i'm getting chucked out:
Because my mum found out what I'm planning to do after my 6th year of high school (I'm in 5th year right now), because I'm planning to go to Download festival, and because my room is messy because I've been clearing out my drawers & stuff. Throwing me out is an over-reaction, I suppose, but she really doesn't give a shit.

I was planning to go to a university near London because it's well known for being good at providing the course I'm after. Moving from Glasgow to London is a pretty big jump for me. This set her off and she told me that I'm "going to need the fucking practice".

Do you have a guidence counsler at school?

 

[Toasted Nuts]

Lol I'll be sure to do that.. Some ****** ass site who cradles this kids balls for him. What a bunch of saps.

what balls?
i have no balls -_-

That is truly exemplar. Worst trolling attempt ever, kids.

Couple of questions I've got:
1) You mentioned she was angry about your choice of future (or something), is this to do with her not liking your choice of course of study?
2) If no to the above, is it really just wanting to go to Download and a messy room? You haven't been stealing to fund your Cadbury (lol, spell-check suggests "Cadmium") Creme Egg addiction or anything like that?
3) If there's really no other reason, is your mum a psychopath with a drinking problem? That'd clear up the motives pretty nice.

As far as advice goes I'd suggest with the jobs is take anything on offer (also go to the job centre etc). It'll probably pay shit but if they like you they might give you overtime which is where the real money is at. Stay at a friend or somebody you know, but of course it'd be best to help out with the bills etc so you stay motivated to move on up. Don't leave school, it's kind of essential. I'm guessing you're doing scottish highers, if so what? (I'm curious)

1) She is really not best pleased about me wanting to study Chemical Engineering. She's a bit backwards in the sense that she doesn't really think a woman's place is in a lab blowing shit up and whatnot. I could go on but you could probably guess what she's like from that.

2) see above.

3) She does have anger problems and she does have a hint of a drinking problem. Well, from what I can see, she does.

So far I've applied for pretty much every possible vacancy in my area, so hopefully I'll have a job ASAP.

I'm definitely not leaving school, because otherwise I'll not be able to get into uni.

Right now, I'm studying English, Maths, Chemistry, Physics & Economics.
and I just finished picking my subjects for 6th year and for that year I'm going to do Computing, Psychology, Administration and Chemistry (advanced higher).

From looking at these subjects and the degree course, and your desire to go to a uni in London it strikes me that you are intelligent and it really sucks that your mum is throwing a spanner in the works by kicking you out the house.

You appear to know where you want to go in life and what you want to do. Follow some advice on this thread get yourself set up, and work towards your goal of university.

SO when you are successful after graduating you can find your mum and ask her if her boyfriend's kid was worth kicking you out for and she will no doubt say no.

 

[Davrel]

long story cut very short:

my mum is throwing me out the house for various reasons i'd rather not list.
I'm 16.
I don't have a job.
my only source of income is £30 a week from my school & £40 a month from my dad (which will now, likely, stop)

help?

I don't even know what I'm expecting you guys to tell me, but help anyway?

& please don't tell me to try reason with her because she CANNOT BE REASONED WITH.


EDIT:
why i'm getting chucked out:
Because my mum found out what I'm planning to do after my 6th year of high school (I'm in 5th year right now), because I'm planning to go to Download festival, and because my room is messy because I've been clearing out my drawers & stuff. Throwing me out is an over-reaction, I suppose, but she really doesn't give a shit.

I was planning to go to a university near London because it's well known for being good at providing the course I'm after. Moving from Glasgow to London is a pretty big jump for me. This set her off and she told me that I'm "going to need the fucking practice".

Citizens advice Bureau; they should provide all the legal (and other) advice and help you need. Also, I'm pretty sure she can't kick you out at 16, at least not without some kind of legal repercussion.

My personal opinion: she got angry enough to effectively disown you because you wanted to go to a specific university? Nobody needs that kind of behaviour from a parent. At least when you do go to University you'll be able to get the maximum loans possible.

 

[Baby Tea]

The army, although it is a good idea, is really not what i want to do.
I suppose i could always have it as a last resort...

The thing is, you aren't stuck with it for life, unless the Military is very different in Scottland. After a brief Google search, you'd be able to leave after about 4 or 5 years of service.
That means you'd be in your early twenties, you'd have money, and you'd have experience in nearly any field you want! How is that not ideal?

that's 4 or 5 years I could spend doing a Masters Degree in something I want to do for the rest of my life. 4 or 5 years of service in the military is a waste of my time.

Well, again, I'm not sure how it is in Scotland, but the Military here (Canada) will pay for all schooling, or send you to a military University, where you get your education and come out an officer, serve 4 or 5 years, and have experience, money, rank, and an education.

And if 4 or 5 years of guaranteed food, shelter, and money is a waste of your time, what's the big plan without it then?
You came here asking for help, and beggars can't be choosers.
So you either have a place to live, and therefore don't need our help, or you have no place to live and in 4 or 5 years you'll be still working at burger king without a degree.

I'm honestly not trying to be rude, but if the situation is a severe as you say it is, then now is the time to think realistically. You need shelter (Rent), food, and education to 'do what you want', and money to do all of those things.
If you're out on the street, and the military isn't 'what you want to do', then what's the big plan?

 

[NuclearPenguin]

Get a van.
Im actually not kidding here.
Get a van and see the world while you're young.
Without money it may be hard, but thats why you get a rich friend to tag along and pay for gas, food and the like.