So, I'm dating my cousin now... Yeah...

[VivaciousDeimos]

How close of a cousin? Genetically, at around 4 or 5 it's okay, just a social taboo.

I think even around 3 it's not that risky, but yeah, definitely something to consider.

Overall I'd say I have mixed feelings. Probably because I grew up pretty close with all of my first cousins and so dating them seems inherently wrong. But I guess if you didn't grow up together and have genuine chemistry...eh *shrugs*. The only real problems would be if you end up staying with her and, depending on how close of cousins you are, having kids could be an issue. Or it could affect the entire family negatively, which could be hard to deal with if the two of you end up alienated. I guess it depends on how open minded your family is.

Something else to keep in mind though, is that people have done far weirder things. The grandson/grandmother relationship pop immediately to mind. Dating your cousin isn't really all that far out there in comparison.

 

[Demongeneral109]

there's less squick involved since she isn't blood related... I would wait at least a year before telling your family about it, because as one of the earlier posters said, teen relationships aren't known for their stability. If it holds out that long, then tell your family straight out, heavily emphasizing the lack of blood relations and the (apparent, if I'm wrong than ignore this bit) distance between the relations in question. I wish you luck with this either way.

 

[Dango]

Well I guess if no one else in the family has a problem with it, just go with it, for now.

 

[Alon Shechter]

Were not related by blood but we are fairly close due to some adoption that happened farther up the family tree...

Then no problem. simple as that.
It's like if I date the blood unrelated cousin of mine, who is my uncle's wife's sister.
Which I really do.

 

[Jimmybobjr]

1) stop now, before it goes too far.
2) Failing step 1, tell your family, NOW. The alternative is you tell them when its too late; when you are either thinking of marrage or pregnancy.
3) Kill them all.

 

[Julianking93]

Well I'd honestly say just see how compatible you two are. If you end up liking each other, go for it.

I don't see anything wrong with it if you truly like someone.

Perhaps I've been reading far too many incest themed hentai manga but I'd say go for it man!

 

[Thundero13]

I think it's fine to date anyone I would just be an annoying hypocrit if I said it was ok to date another man but not to date someone in your family so I say just treat it like any other relationship it's fine

 

[Starke]

Were not related by blood but we are fairly close due to some adoption that happened farther up the family tree...

In that case the thread title may be a little bit misleading. But, at least there isn't a genetic issue. Now, the biggest thing is make damn sure both of you have seriously considered the social implications. If that doesn't bother either of you, then there you go, but again, be sure that this has been considered seriously and not simply by your libidos.

If you're both sure it kinda falls into a who's business is it really territory. But, remember, that most of the population are genetically related to their cousins, so there can be a serious stigma about this.

Sorry if I'm coming across as a killjoy. Given there's no genetic relation it's really no one else's business, but unfortunately, it will be.

how far apart are your branches from the family tree if she your 3rd courson removed or more i dont think there be any child backlashes though wait 2 years minum to annouce anything to see if it works out
ot: it can be missignal so wait till its ultra obovious

They aren't genetically related. He mentioned that in an earlier post.

3) Kill them all.

'Cause thems good eatins.

 

[Brad Shepard]

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If i read right, you two are not related by blood, so I say hey, its your and her choice, so go for it, You two are your own people and no one else can say anything... but i wouldent tell the family yet.

Good luck my friend, and I would edit in the main post that you two are not related by blood.

 

[Sovvolf]

Well good luck to you mate. As I said on your poll earlier... Not my kind of thing... I'd find it creepy dating my cousin. However if you want to date your cousin and she wants to date you then well, good luck to you. I'm not going to give you any stick for it.

However the big question is can your family and friends deal with this?. If not... is she really worth all that. Just some thing to think about. If you love her to a point where you don't care what your parents or close friends say or even if they want nothing to do with you. Then don't let them stop you and I wish you two the best of luck.

Edit (I really should read these things first): Just noticed that your not blood related. Again this still wouldn't be my thing but I guess it takes the creepy factor down by a good amount. However I'd still be think on how to break this news to your parents.

 

[Ninonybox_v1legacy]

is it blood or marrage relation......anyway whatever makes you happy in life. best of luck to you my friend.

 

[khaimera]

Wow, just wow, this is one of the gutsiest threads ever. Seriously.

We can all offer our snap judgments based on our initial reaction

(Mine was "ewwwwww" too)

But then I started thinking why this was so gross. Why is it so wrong if you didn't actually grow up with the person. Sure, having kids is a terrible terrible idea, but what if you don;t reproduce. Then why, not

My advice is: There's a tough road ahead full of judgment and you will not gain acceptance for your choice, but if its worth it to you, then stay strong and persevere.

My advice part 2: Don't do it there's plenty of fish in the sea

 

[Ultra_Caboose]

I can't imagine anything I say will be of much help, but still...

The best thing I can tell you is to take things very slowly and very carefully. It's a bad mistake to dive into any relationship too quickly, and an even worse one if such a heavy taboo is attached.
How you two feel is between the both of you, but when breaking the news to your families, be sure to take their feelings into consideration. While not being blood related makes things logically sound, the concept alone might be too much for them. Understand that the relationship will effect your families just as much as it will for the two of you, so be sure to respect and honor their opinons.

Hope I don't sound too preachy...

 

[Broken Boy]

Do what ever makes you feel good imo. Forget about what anyone else has to say about it. If they react badly to it screw them. Live your life the way you want you may only get 1 shot at being happy. Grab it and hold on for the ride!!!

 

[Starke]

Well if you're not related by blood and it's adoption . . . I mean don't get me wrong, people in your family might be a bit off-put by it but I don't really think it's such a big deal if you both really care about each other if it's not blood.

well it's not completely blood but there is some because it happened a ways back it's hard to explain...

...okay... what exactly is your genetic relationship with her?

 

[Sacman]

How close of a cousin? Genetically, at around 4 or 5 it's okay, just a social taboo.

I think even around 3 it's not that risky, but yeah, definitely something to consider.

Overall I'd say I have mixed feelings. Probably because I grew up pretty close with all of my first cousins and so dating them seems inherently wrong. But I guess if you didn't grow up together and have genuine chemistry...eh *shrugs*. The only real problems would be if you end up staying with her and, depending on how close of cousins you are, having kids could be an issue. Or it could affect the entire family negatively, which could be hard to deal with if the two of you end up alienated. I guess it depends on how open minded your family is.

Something else to keep in mind though, is that people have done far weirder things. The grandson/grandmother relationship pop immediately to mind. Dating your cousin isn't really all that far out there in comparison.

Well we grew up together till we were about 10 than she moved to the other side of town and we lost touch... I'm honestly not sure how they would react I'm the outcast as it is so... I dunno...

 

[goodwithwords08]

That is one tough cookie, I would go for it but try not to tell people until you see how it goes first.

 

[capin Rob]

And For all of those who will post pics of Hillbillys.....

Spoiler

Bam.... He Married his cousin. AND HE WAS ONE OF THE BEST PRESIDENTS EVER!