So many men are whipped these days

[Fronken]

Bro's Before Hoe's, and im sure someone has already mentioned it, but it still stands as the definitive rule for us dudes.

I on the other hand would probably brake it if i had the chance, seeing as im quite the desperate lonely type, but still, for those who dont have Major problems getting girls that rule stands.

 

[Pseudonym2]

What about the women that drop everything and their boyfriend/husband's side? It seems kind of sexist to ignore this especially considering what the ideas of a "good" wife have been for the past few thousand years.

 

[Mr0llivand3r]

I think it is quite sad that so many men are whipped to such an extent that they could pretty much be their girlfriend's pets. Only last night I invited my friend over for a night of Xbox and movies which he was quite happy to attend. He was bringing the games because he has quite a few multiplayer ones. 20 minutes later we get a call from him saying 'Oh my missus just called, she wants to come to mine to watch the tennis. Sorry guys I'm not coming.' WTF!!???!?!?!!

The problem is that this is not an isolated case either. Look at this forum for instance with all the 'Gaming or girlfriend' threads (those kind of prompted this).

I have another friend [this is a rather extreme case too] who will waste a concert ticket or a ticket to the footy (its the Aussie version of NFL if you will) by leaving half way through because his missus has a headache or she feels lonely. Not only the waste of money, but ditching one's mates for your missus having a headache or feeling lonely is pure BS. Tell your missus to take a panadol, eat some concrete, drink some water and harden the fuck up.

I have a few people I know [usually the ones that realise they are whipped] ask how they can be more like me. The answer is simple - treat your missus like you would your mates. Your mates would understand if you had prior plans with someone else instead of going to the game. As long as you don't constantly ignore one person or a group thereof all your mates will be happy. Spend time with them equally and you will have good mates. Apply the same principle with your missus. Sure if the shit hits the fan in her life, you would be more supportive of her and spend more time with her, but again this is something your mates will understand (she is your missus after all). For instance once I was playing tennis with my mates, when I got a call from my missus' boss telling me she was in hospital. I hopped in the car straight away and went to the hospital. My mates completely understood, in that case its a normal thing to do.

Now, at this point most of you are going to say "this guy is never going to have a girlfriend". I have been in a relationship for 2 years now with a girl who is not a gamer and doesn't like Star Wars. For the entire time I have practiced what I preach and my missus and I have been in a very happy relationship for that entire time.

Bottom line is you are whipped if you constantly put your missus before your friends. She is a part of your life, not the entirety of your life. This is the point that most guys struggle with and that is why so much of the male population is so so whipped. And it pisses me off!

God, don't even get me started.

the fact of the matter is that women are on a constant mission to dehumanize, train, undermine, humiliate, and control men. and the evidence of this fact is very conspicuous:

Emo culture, sensitivity training, girls who laugh as they paint their guy friend's fingernails, girls who drag their male friends to sappy emotional chick flicks, girls who complain that their boyfriends don't pluck their eyebrows or comb their hair perfectly, and probably the most horrible of all: GIRLS WHO CONSTANTLY PREVENT THEIR BOYFRIEND FROM HANGING OUT WITH HIS FRIENDS. it's fucking pathetic

what makes it worse is that women OPENLY talk about and brag about how well they are able to control their boyfriends/husbands/whatevers, as if it something guys won't notice.

people always call me out on being sexist, but I can't be kind about it. It's not my fault that girls are manipulative and like to scheme into getting their way.

 

[CrafterMan]

Bottom line is you are whipped if you constantly put your missus before your friends. She is a part of your life, not the entirety of your life. This is the point that most guys struggle with and that is why so much of the male population is so so whipped. And it pisses me off!

Girlfriend: Noun, portmanteau of the words, "Girl" and "Friend."
1. Find a girl.
2. Become friends with her.
3. Propose a relationship between you and her in which you would add sexually-related intimacies to your current relationship.

I don't understand why you guys keep complaining about your girlfriend if you aren't actually friends with her.

Touche.

This is pretty much the ultimate answer.

 

[Malkavian]

I have one such friend. He has had the same girlfriend in the 4 years I've known him, and she is always put before everything else. I want to say "even himself", but that is impossible for me to know - after all, I should think he enjoys her company more than anyone else's.

The thing is, until half a year ago, he'd spent almost all time with her. Sure, you could arrange something with him, no problem, but 3/4 times, he'd bail out on us, on account of him having to do something with her.
Two things though - she's a very sweet girl, and not at all demanding. I don't think it's that much her demanding that he always be there at her whim, but him feeling a great sense of importance that it is so. My theory is, that when she says "I wish you were here" she doesn't expect him to come running, and would perfectly understand a "Well, I'm just in the middle of a game of warhammer, sorry", but he automaticly puts her first.
Where it get's extra tiresome, is when you try to plan something long time ahead. It seems he automaticly assumes that all time should be spent with her - and only knows like a month ahead when he'll be free. Both of us really love Coheed & Cambria. I introduced him to this band 3 years ago, and he was crazy for it. Still is. Now, long time ago, I guess a year or so, it was revealed that they would play two shows in Denmark. There were six months to the show. He said he couldn't make it, that he had to do something with her that day. I really were dissapointed, not in him, but just that it wouldn't be as cool an experience without him, as he was the only friend I had that were into it as much at me. Still, if he had plans, I couldn't blame him. Myself, I'd changed my plans so I could go to the concert, as there was no way of knowing when and if they would be in Denmark again, but still, can't really blame him for that. I bought a ticket anyway, of course.
Some months went by, and it was sold out. I teased him lightly about how great it was gonna be. Then, a week before the show, I happened to win some free tickets. I ask him again, if he's sure he can't come. And suddenly, he can.
I can't know this for sure, but I think he never had anything planned in the first place. He as just afraid to make long term plans for a weekend, that he might be required to spend with her.

 

[Railu]

I've done those things before, but never was it my intention. I had one girl who did those things (call me at work because she felt sick or because she was lonely). She was a psycho though, and not in the 'playful' way that some guys describe women. That was many years ago and my first lesson to never, ever play therapist to your girlfriend.

My current and now fiancee is way different. She doesn't think she needs me because she has a headache, she has truly faced trials in her life that if anyone heard a fraction of it they would STFU if ever they felt the urge to complain. The difference is, she doesn't look for pity or for attention. But in the end, I'm even more supportive to her than the one who constantly cried for it when making a mountain out of a molehill.

If that makes me whipped, then I'll be the first here to say I am. Only difference is if I make plans, I tell her first and every time I do, she never asks me to cancel or bugs me while I'm out.

If your girlfriend respects you and respects herself, then there should be no issues on this. If she doesn't, then you're in for a whipping for sure.

 

[Jumpman]

Agreed. there's a line between being supportive and caring, and totally killing your social life on account of your girlfriend. Balance is important in all things, including relationships. In the long run, its better for both parties to be fairly self reliant.

 

[wewontdie11]

Because of my general apathy to most everyday things I would consider myself a bit whipped whenever I'm in a relationship, more out of laziness than concious submissiveness. Not to the extent that I would cancel on prior engagements with friends mind you.

One of my friends is the total opposite to the initial example given by CrazyMofo, in that he often uses me and other friends to break off plans with his girlfriend. Something usually along the lines of:
"Hmmm? Oh you can't come over tonight....I'm err... I'm hanging out with the lads..." *frantically IMs friends asking if they want to come over*

 

[Random Argument Man]

Urgh....This thread reminded me of my ex. Whiny, possessive, idiotic and really bitchy.

The relationship ended when she started crying at a party. I was gone 5 minutes (Exactly 5 minutes) to the bathroom. I came back. She starts shouting "You're we're cheating me, you must have" and " Where were you?".

All the girls look at me like I was a douche.

All the guys had that look in their faces. The look that says "Dude, leave her, for your own good".

Two days later, I dumped her. Best decision i've made.

 

[Bachanomon92]

I prefer the terms "supportive" and "empathetic."

Edit: ALso, this may be a bit of a shock to you, but being boyfriend and girlfriend, or boy/boy, or girl/girl, is a bit of a higher step than "buddies", and should be treated as such. If you treat your woman or man like you treat your buddies, then you may have a good friend, but probably not really any good the next step up.

Dude, you are forgetting the most sacred rule in the history of man:

Bros before Hoes

 

[vede]

I agree completely.

There's people who mistake love for bending to every will of a significant other, and those who don't see things the way society wills them to.

See, the only way for others to respect you is for them to know that you respect yourself first. The only thing showing submission gains is loveless sex. Respect gains mutual understanding and gratitude in relationships and in life overall.

When a person recognizes that you don't act like a footstool for them to be up on all the time, the two of you can help each other keep the other up together, and stay on the same level, and then you're in a good relationship.

I think.

I've had one girlfriend in my fifteen years of life, and she was the type of person who (was medically insane) demanded that you submit to her or you were automatically a jerk and a terrible boyfriend. And then the insanity came out, and I fled the premises...

 

[Rolling Thunder]

I prefer the terms "supportive" and "empathetic."

Edit: ALso, this may be a bit of a shock to you, but being boyfriend and girlfriend, or boy/boy, or girl/girl, is a bit of a higher step than "buddies", and should be treated as such. If you treat your woman or man like you treat your buddies, then you may have a good friend, but probably not really any good the next step up.

Dude, you are forgetting the most sacred rule in the history of man:

Bros before Hoes

I'm sorry, Bros before Hos is important, but it's not the most important rule. The most important rule is this:

"If it looks suspicous, kill it."