So relationships...Why?

[creager91]

Indeed, I agree with you, OP. Long ago, I decided that a relationship would be taxing to my time, money, and energy, and that no matter how good sex is, the necessary investment was simply not a logical or economically sound tradeoff for but a few minutes of pleasure. I am 19 now, I have never been on a date, I have never had a girlfriend, I am a virgin, and I plan never to date, marry, have children, or partake of sexual intercourse. I have a fully functioning heterosexual libido and reproductive organs, so the strength of my moral and intellectual fiber is clearly no accident of birth. I think that if I can weather the prime-breeding years of my adolescence (and weather I did) my prospects are good. I am enrolled in college, studying to be an engineer, and very content with my lot. I do not think that wasting my meager time and funds to woo some young lady would improve things at all, and I pity those who think it would.

Ok except I have a lot of girls just none that im in a relationship with nor any that I plan to get into one with for a while now

Pardon my asking, but how do you mean "have?" I've had a meager handful of crushes in my time and even a few female friends, but I have the ability to dismiss the former as simple biological trickery to undermine my logic and get me to reproduce.

Well my best friend (who is a girl) claims that I'm a player. What I do is I keep girls in the "talking" stage as its now known for as long as I can and they know Im not likely to commit to them and they know that Im also "talking" to other girls. If I really wanted to I know they would have sex with me but as for the time being its just nice to have someone(s) to cuddle up with, watch movies, makeout, take to clubs and parties without having to worry about jealousy or monogamy at any point, Im sure I'll get tired of the lifestyle at some point tho, at which point I imagine I'll settle down and Im also 19 and at Ohio State studying Psychology btw

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

To me relationships are nice in life, but completely optional for happiness.
I love my current girlfriend dearly, and would very much enjoy if I could spend quite a few years with her by my side, but I could happily live single and on my own.

Then again, I'm fickle, and this person was the anomaly in my long string of one sided, unrequited relationships.

 

[KingGolem]

Indeed, I agree with you, OP. Long ago, I decided that a relationship would be taxing to my time, money, and energy, and that no matter how good sex is, the necessary investment was simply not a logical or economically sound tradeoff for but a few minutes of pleasure. I am 19 now, I have never been on a date, I have never had a girlfriend, I am a virgin, and I plan never to date, marry, have children, or partake of sexual intercourse. I have a fully functioning heterosexual libido and reproductive organs, so the strength of my moral and intellectual fiber is clearly no accident of birth. I think that if I can weather the prime-breeding years of my adolescence (and weather I did) my prospects are good. I am enrolled in college, studying to be an engineer, and very content with my lot. I do not think that wasting my meager time and funds to woo some young lady would improve things at all, and I pity those who think it would.

Ok except I have a lot of girls just none that im in a relationship with nor any that I plan to get into one with for a while now

Pardon my asking, but how do you mean "have?" I've had a meager handful of crushes in my time and even a few female friends, but I have the ability to dismiss the former as simple biological trickery to undermine my logic and get me to reproduce.

Well my best friend (who is a girl) claims that I'm a player. What I do is I keep girls in the "talking" stage as its now known for as long as I can and they know Im not likely to commit to them and they know that Im also "talking" to other girls. If I really wanted to I know they would have sex with me but as for the time being its just nice to have someone(s) to cuddle up with, watch movies, makeout, take to clubs and parties without having to worry about jealousy or monogamy at any point, Im sure I'll get tired of the lifestyle at some point tho, at which point I imagine I'll settle down and Im also 19 and at Ohio State studying Psychology btw

Really? You can get away with that? Makeouts and all? Fascinating, I'd have thought women would be far more jealous than to let you do that. I certainly hope that doesn't come across as irony. My knowledge of relationships and sexuality is patchy at times for lack of participation. At any rate, best of luck to you.

 

[creager91]

Indeed, I agree with you, OP. Long ago, I decided that a relationship would be taxing to my time, money, and energy, and that no matter how good sex is, the necessary investment was simply not a logical or economically sound tradeoff for but a few minutes of pleasure. I am 19 now, I have never been on a date, I have never had a girlfriend, I am a virgin, and I plan never to date, marry, have children, or partake of sexual intercourse. I have a fully functioning heterosexual libido and reproductive organs, so the strength of my moral and intellectual fiber is clearly no accident of birth. I think that if I can weather the prime-breeding years of my adolescence (and weather I did) my prospects are good. I am enrolled in college, studying to be an engineer, and very content with my lot. I do not think that wasting my meager time and funds to woo some young lady would improve things at all, and I pity those who think it would.

Ok except I have a lot of girls just none that im in a relationship with nor any that I plan to get into one with for a while now

Pardon my asking, but how do you mean "have?" I've had a meager handful of crushes in my time and even a few female friends, but I have the ability to dismiss the former as simple biological trickery to undermine my logic and get me to reproduce.

Well my best friend (who is a girl) claims that I'm a player. What I do is I keep girls in the "talking" stage as its now known for as long as I can and they know Im not likely to commit to them and they know that Im also "talking" to other girls. If I really wanted to I know they would have sex with me but as for the time being its just nice to have someone(s) to cuddle up with, watch movies, makeout, take to clubs and parties without having to worry about jealousy or monogamy at any point, Im sure I'll get tired of the lifestyle at some point tho, at which point I imagine I'll settle down and Im also 19 and at Ohio State studying Psychology btw

Really? You can get away with that? Makeouts and all? Fascinating, I'd have thought women would be far more jealous than to let you do that. I certainly hope that doesn't come across as irony. My knowledge of relationships and sexuality is patchy at times for lack of participation. At any rate, best of luck to you.

Well the best I can put it is that women are just as sexual as men and in my experiences %50 MORE likely to cheat. Now idk if the real number is THAT high but they are in fact more likely to cheat. Women think more with emotions than with logic and men are vice versa. So if at the time it takes place the woman FEELS like she wants to it doesnt take a lot for the guy to get her to. Where as men if we FEEL we want to we usually think of the consequences and this is what prevents most men. however BOTH sides do have those bad apples who just do it to be assholes.

 

[GeorgW]

Hello fellow escapists. I was wondering what you guys could tell me about relationships and why they are so appealing to you or unappealing. As for myself I have become somewhat of a cynic in the past few years and I feel that relationships are just reasons to induce stress, worry, and jealousy also a colossal waste of money. Now granted I have been asked if I was a...pick up artist I think the term was?

Anywho the point is that I'll admit, ever since my ex left me I kind of became a bit of a player and thus a cynic but enough about me what do you guys think? and also if you feel the need to persuade me otherwise I do try to keep an open mind so fire away

I have, ever since I first experienced it, believed that there is one, and only ONE thing in this entire universe that is actually worthwhile. Life is worthless, games are worthless, knowledge is worthless. The only thing that justifies the existence of the entire universe is love. And if you're really lucky, a relationship will give you that. Though it's very rare, and excruciating when you lose it, love is still the only reason for existence.

 

[Faladorian]

I've only been in one relationship.

It. Fucking. SUCKED

I'm in the frame of mind that I never ever want to be with any person ever again... EVER. I think if I had had a good relationship before, then a bad one after, I would at least have some 'faith' in relationships, and in people.

But, I didn't, and I don't. The thought of dying alone fills me with such joy I can't explain.

Also, there's sex. I've never had sex, and I don't plan on it. No matter how much people say it's amazing, I don't care. No amount of pleasure could ever make up for the fact that there's even a snowball's chance in Hell that it could result in a child, no. fucking. thanks. I hate children more than anything in the world


With that said, don't take my opinions seriously if you're looking for a relationship. However, don't say that I'm "not a normal human being" because I don't like relationships. It's like saying people who don't like coffee should be considered sub-human. Keep your personal tastes to yourself. You have yours, I have mine.

/hateful rant

Talk about a hot button issue. I'm calming down now...

 

[Nmil-ek]

Meh I'm content with getting it wherever and whenever I can relationships are seriously fucking draining after my last breakup I swore I was done won't even consider a serious relationship until I'm 30-35 I'm too young and have far too much ahead of me to jeapordise my plans for another person.

And what do you get out of a relationship at this age really? Debt? Arguments? Unecessary reponsabilities? How many people in there 20's stay together anyway statistics say not fuckin' many.

 

[Yokai]

Well, they are something of a biological imperative, but aside from that, it's nice to know there's one person in the world who genuinely cares about you. If you're spending hundreds of dollars a year on your significant other, it's either unnecessary or you're with the wrong person. People should be able to love each other without bribery, don't you think?

 

[creager91]

Well, they are something of a biological imperative, but aside from that, it's nice to know there's one person in the world who genuinely cares about you. If you're spending hundreds of dollars a year on your significant other, it's either unnecessary or you're with the wrong person. People should be able to love each other without bribery, don't you think?

DURING a relationship I'd agree, but girls instinct is to be courted and most men only know of one way to do that...shower her with gifts. I on the other hand use psychology to my advantage

 

[Custard_Angel]

If you think relationships are a waste, then they're wasted on you. You'd better have fun being alone, cos thats what you'll get.

Getting along with people is a sign of humanity.

Getting along with someone to an extent that you would gladly spend your time and money making their life happier is a sign of maturity.

HAH! I like the way you say that, it implies that my humanity is a front I use when I meet new people, but then drop when I don't care anymore and have nothing to gain!

So guess how mature I am
That was a funny post you made, very nice way to put it

I like the way you imply a bunch of things I never said.

I never said anything along the lines that people pretend to be friendly for personal gain.

Kind of reveals more about the way your mind works than it does mine.

 

[creager91]

If you think relationships are a waste, then they're wasted on you. You'd better have fun being alone, cos thats what you'll get.

Getting along with people is a sign of humanity.

Getting along with someone to an extent that you would gladly spend your time and money making their life happier is a sign of maturity.

HAH! I like the way you say that, it implies that my humanity is a front I use when I meet new people, but then drop when I don't care anymore and have nothing to gain!

So guess how mature I am
That was a funny post you made, very nice way to put it

I like the way you imply a bunch of things I never said.

I never said anything along the lines that people pretend to be friendly for personal gain.

Kind of reveals more about the way your mind works than it does mine.

It all comes down to altruism, and I gotta be honest I don't believe that there is one truly altruistic person in America(cant exactly speak for the rest of the world, hell if I were making a real scientific claim id be shot for making this claim about anything larger than people Ive met but good thing this isnt a real claim)

 

[Kenami]

Eventually, you'll meet a person who makes you truly happy. Someone who makes you feel like a part of you is missing when they're not around. Someone who makes you want to try things you've never considered before. That's why. When it's good, a relationship is like a puzzle. The pieces fit together, and the picture isn't whole otherwise.

This is truly the most on spot explanation to your question.

 

[Rocking Thunder]

I have been asked out a couple of times by girls (even once by a guy, I am a hetrosexual, awkard), but they never end well. I am a bit of a cynic, yes, but that is not my problem. My problem is that I am too smart. It may sound stupid, and no I am not a nerd, its just when you are a person who is always two steps ahead of the other, it never ends well. Being able to win arguments all the time, knowing what to do and when to do it is both a huge advantage, and a bit of a curse. There have been girls that I have truely liked, but being too smart, a "know it all can be tough. I just dont think I am the kind of guy that could get into a serious relationship, as my intellegence is a bit of a turn off.

 

[Vivace-Vivian]

Eventually, you'll meet a person who makes you truly happy. Someone who makes you feel like a part of you is missing when they're not around. Someone who makes you want to try things you've never considered before. That's why. When it's good, a relationship is like a puzzle. The pieces fit together, and the picture isn't whole otherwise.

Sort of sums up what happened to me.

I used ot be a cynic too, and when I felt like that peice was missing after I met my lady I hated it. I hated it for a good long time. But we were sort of stuck together and eventually I fell into accepting it. Even liking it.

 

[Duck Sandwich]

I'm kind of torn on the idea of relationships. On one hand, I want companionship. I want someone who I can have long, meaningful and interesting conversations with about each other's deepest thoughts and experiences in life. I'd like someone to be able to come home and spend time with. Someone to go running, or rock climbing, or even training in MMA with (HA! Like there's any chance of that happening! But a man can dream, can't he?).

On the other hand, there's no one I've found that I could imagine doing those things with. There's a major lack of women my age that I know of that share any of those hobbies. I really don't care much for going to movie theatres, restaurants, or going out to clubs. (For the most part, I'd rather buy and cook my own food, watch movies at home where I don't have to sit through filler advertisements, and I can stop to take a piss without missing anything) and I'm one of those weirdos who actually gives a shit about what goes into their body) That, and I'm a cheap bastard.

 

[spartandude]

Since my last break up Ive kinda emotionally distanced myself in relationships, i usually treat them as a close friend i can shag and end it if it gets too serious.
Not very nice i know and im not proud of it, but quite frankly my sex drive is in control and i dont like people that much.

 

[MelziGurl]

Meh I'm content with getting it wherever and whenever I can relationships are seriously fucking draining after my last breakup I swore I was done won't even consider a serious relationship until I'm 30-35 I'm too young and have far too much ahead of me to jeapordise my plans for another person.

And what do you get out of a relationship at this age really? Debt? Arguments? Unecessary reponsabilities? How many people in there 20's stay together anyway statistics say not fuckin' many.

Do you have these statistics? I'm just curious to seem them, I know far too many people in their 20's that have solid relationships. Enough to get married, have children or do both.

 

[TipsyPeaches]

after my ex fiance ditched me for going to Japan for uni, which had been planned for well over a year before I got with him, i've been rather distrustful of relationships. Doesn't mean I believe I'll never have another meaningful relationship, I'm just going to be a lot more wary in future.