So there's this girl...

[White_Hawk]

Im going to keep this simple.
There is a girl i REALLY like. I mean REALLY.
We talk and hug (effectionatly) and all the other stuff, but havent gone as far as kissing.
I know she likes me, i know i like her. But there's a problem.
she has a boyfreind.
Now i have asked her about it, there in a good stable relationship, and i dont want to intrude.
& apparently the reason we do all the effectionat stuff is because, get this, she 'trusts me'.
now im confused.
please give your help and advice!

 

[Dragunai]

Im going to keep this simple.
There is a girl i REALLY like. I mean REALLY.
We talk and hug (effectionatly) and all the other stuff, but havent gone as far as kissing.
I know she likes me, i know i like her. But there's a problem.
she has a boyfreind.
Now i have asked her about it, there in a good stable relationship, and i dont want to intrude.
& apparently the reason we do all the effectionat stuff is because, get this, she 'trusts me'.
now im confused.
please give your help and advice!

Set her on fire. its the adult version of pusing a chick into the mud.
If she has a bf dont be the prick to break her up. Makes you look like a jerk and creates doubt in her mind about your character from day 1.

If she leaves him of her own accord and comes to you WIN!

2nd reading of your post:

Sounds like she is messing with your head buddy. Probably wants you break her relationship up so you carry the blame. I'd walk.

Heres the advice I gave to another guy dealing with a retarded chick:

Find yourself a nice single hetero chick, preferably one who is pretty and feminine with a nice personality. Take her out for dinner with the final goal being to sleep with her.

GO BEARS!

 

[Rakkana]

These kind of things... they never end well.

My advice? Back off. Only way to come out of this without being the prick.

 

[White_Hawk]

yeah, i did say i didnt want to break them up if there happy, im not a douch.
still, if she does leave him of her own accord, IM GOING FOR IT. i doubt it though.

 

[Dango]

You might want to get this moved to the advice forum section...

 

[mikecoulter]

Stop hugging a girl who is in a relationship? Either wait and see if she becomes available or attempt to move your interests elsewhere.

 

[Tasachan]

I've been the girl in this situation, all I can say is back off. She has to learn that she can't get both of you. She has to have one or the other, it isn't fair to you or her boyfriend to keep leading you on like that.

 

[Bobic]

It's possible she thinks you're just friends, in which case I suggest: just be friends.

 

[Dragunai]

Spoiler

I've been the girl in this situation, all I can say is back off. She has to learn that she can't get both of you. She has to have one or the other, it isn't fair to you or her boyfriend to keep leading you on like that.

I actually choked on my own shock.
A woman with a reasonable responce to something.

ARGH the very walls of reality within the dimension are twisting and cracking.

MUST. FLEE.[footnote]Yes, it's easily possible for women to have reasonable responses.

Please do not make inconsiderate posts in the Advice Forum! Thanks![/footnote]

 

[TomLikesGuitar]

Im going to keep this simple.
There is a girl i REALLY like. I mean REALLY.
We talk and hug (effectionatly) and all the other stuff, but havent gone as far as kissing.
I know she likes me, i know i like her. But there's a problem.
she has a boyfreind.
Now i have asked her about it, there in a good stable relationship, and i dont want to intrude.
& apparently the reason we do all the effectionat stuff is because, get this, she 'trusts me'.
now im confused.
please give your help and advice!

If she's being affectionate with you, she may be looking for a way out of her relationship. Girls tend to lie to themselves about this crap all the time. You have 2 options here. First, get really really drunk with her and kiss her. If it works, try to get as far as possible with her. If you can get far enough to make her cum, you should be able to convince her that you two have chemistry enough to actually start a relationship. (If your in like high school, this will be hard, because she might be a bit prude, but you shouldn't be worried about this crap anyway if your in high school; just go find someone else.)

Option number 2: Continue down the "friend" path and wait for an opportunity to present itself. Just remember that once you've been friends for about 2 weeks, you've blown it. If you really like being her friend, then keep going as you were. But if you're like me, and you can't bear to be friends with a girl you really have a thing for, you have to make a move even if it ruins your friendship. Even if you fail, you'll get over it fast because she won't be around, and you'll learn from it.

 

[spartan1077]

Im going to keep this simple.
There is a girl i REALLY like. I mean REALLY.
We talk and hug (effectionatly) and all the other stuff, but havent gone as far as kissing.
I know she likes me, i know i like her. But there's a problem.
she has a boyfreind.
Now i have asked her about it, there in a good stable relationship, and i dont want to intrude.
& apparently the reason we do all the effectionat stuff is because, get this, she 'trusts me'.
now im confused.
please give your help and advice!

Do NOT! and I repeat DO NOT! KISS HER WHILE SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. That's cheating(for her) and you know if she is willing to do that to her now boyfriend, she will do it to you. Stay away from physically doing ANYTHING with her.
Advice? Walk.
In Reality? Walk. Don't let this "love" crap screw you over. Just walk away from her and tell her that when she can respect people, she can talk to you again.

 

[Aulleas123]

You're in the friend zone. The best means to get her to like her is to lift your contact from her until she wants you back. One of two things will happen, either the relationship with her boyfriend will end and she will come back to you [i/]or[/i] you will find someone new who will activate your hormones and will be yours.

Of course, I believe love is a silly notion so I'd also say find someone who is reasonable and you can tolerate.

 

[darthotaku]

Ask if she's ok with you and him fighting over her. I mean bare knuckle, knock 'em down drag 'em out fight. That's the best way to fight over a girl.
but that's only if she can't decide between you two. if she likes him better then find yourself another girl.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

I'm seriously rolling on the floor from most of these comments.

Just stay away from her. Control yourself, you're just lusting after something that can't be yours. If you want to be a dick and break up the relationship, go for it though, its happened to me. Some dude broke up my relationship of 3 years. You want to be that guy? Go ahead.

 

[Imp Poster]

hahaha, sorry for laughing, she trusts you. Too bad she doesn't know how you feel about her. Ahem, if she is in a stable relationship, why does she need to hug you? Does she hug everyone else too? Maybe hugging doesn't mean anything to her then.

You could be her friend and see what happens to her relationship. But while you are waiting, go date other people. Waiting for a relationship to end, you might as well tie yourself under a bunch of falling, furry, tickly feathers. Okay, that torture sounds enticing but torturing yourself in general is not fun.

 

[BENZOOKA]

Give her two options:
Leave the boyfriend or get out of my life.

Don't have any contact with each other until she decides.

 

[ComicsAreWeird]

Hmmm...seems to me she might be playing you both (even if in an unvoluntary way). Back off and see what happens. Right now you´re in the «Friend Zone». Great if you want to be her friend, shitty if you reeeeeeeeally like her (which seems to be the case). But if she´s in a good relationship she might not want to let go of her bf. If i were you, i´d be hitting on other women.

There´s plenty of fish in the sea, man. Go get´em.

 

[stormtrooper9091]

yup, friend zone'd right there and nothing you can do about it. I've been in a similar situation where I expected a girl to dump her bf because of me and when she didn't (O RLY) do it, I went nerdrage and stopped talking to her, thus ending up a total dick.

Point is, take what you have, you can always get yourself some other girl

 

[2fish]

Ok she has a boyfried RED FLAG
They are in a good relationship and she is kissing you? RED FLAG
Sounds like you are in the friend zone or the back up boyfriend zone HUGE RED FLAG

If it were me cross the bridge in the opposite direction of her then burn the bridge. Too high a probibility of her using you or trying to.