So there's this girl...

[Rorschach II]

Stop hugging a girl who is in a relationship? Either wait and see if she becomes available or attempt to move your interests elsewhere.

I hug girls all the time (Even when they don't know it)

But seriously, its some peoples way of just saying hi or showing friendship or whatever. Doesn't necessarily mean anything sexual.

 

[Wolfram23]

I think either a) be a dick (to her bf) and just try to get with her and break them up, or b) tell her you can't just "be friends" anymore, but you'd like to keep in touch and maybe when the time is right, take her out on a date.
Ideally, picking B) would make her re-evaluate her relationship, and in a couple months she'll be single

 

[captain_Bubblebum]

Im going to keep this simple.
There is a girl i REALLY like. I mean REALLY.
We talk and hug (effectionatly) and all the other stuff, but havent gone as far as kissing.
I know she likes me, i know i like her. But there's a problem.
she has a boyfreind.
Now i have asked her about it, there in a good stable relationship, and i dont want to intrude.
& apparently the reason we do all the effectionat stuff is because, get this, she 'trusts me'.
now im confused.
please give your help and advice!

HOLY FUCK!! Dude, first of all picture this.....

She breaks up with her boyfriend, she makes YOU her boyfriend - great, right?

NOW picture this.....

You're boyfriend and girlfriend, and she has another guy friend....and she is close with him - they are just friends and share hugs, effectionate hugs, but nothing more than friendly, ok? You know about this friendship, how would you feel? Like would you be cool with your girl being really (really) close with another guy? Oh, and you and her are also in a great, stable relationship too. And her new friend is not gay btw.


I'm just saying, she has no problem being really close friends with guys...and it's understandable that feelings can grow from those friendships, so could you handle it knowing she could socialize with another male friend on the same level that you are both doing right now?


It's pretty much a shitty scenario (it could bug the shit out a boyfriend if he hears about his girlfriend being full-on close with a male friend).


I'm only saying this as something to consider.


Btw if you don't mind any of that then be a man and break them up.

 

[charlest92]

SHE HAS A BOY FRIEND DUDE, SO DO THE SMART THING... DROP ANY IDEAS ABOUT BEING WITH HER AND WALK AWAY.

 

[cynicalsaint1]

How old are you? If you're teenagers go ahead and go for it, best case you end up dating for awhile and then one of you will dump the other. Worst case you ruin a friendship that may or may not have lasted anyways. Either way you learn a lesson about life and relationships the only way people tend to learn - the hard way, and really thats what teenage relationships are all about, making dumb mistakes and learning from them - so that you don't make them when you're actually ready to think about settling down with someone. If you F things up, just make sure you note what went wrong and don't dwell on it. Worst case 5-6 years from now you'll just look back on it as 'stupid things you did as a teenager' - and everyone did plenty of stupid things as a teenager, just part of growing up.

If you're like mid-20's (which it doesn't sound like) then stay the hell away from her, as it doesn't sound that she learned her lessons from her awkward teenage romances.

 

[Mookalakai]

I am in a very similar situation to this, except I bottle my feelings up rather than talk to people about it. I'm waiting it out, fortune only favors the bold in works of fiction. Reality favors the patient.

 

[Actual]

Umm what's the big deal, she sounds like a whore. Why waste the energy?

Go find a girl who knows what she wants, not an emotional pancake like this one.

 

[Th37thTrump3t]

Ahem, if she is in a stable relationship, why does she need to hug you? Does she hug everyone else too? Maybe hugging doesn't mean anything to her then.

Most of the time, especially in high school, hugging is just a sign of friendship for girls. It's like giving a guy a high five or a handshake. Most of the time all it means is that you two are cool with each other, nothing more. My advice, like most other people on this thread say, walk. From what it looks like, you have the "Forbidden Fruit Syndrome". You want what you can't have, and that is dangerous. The best thing you can do is move on. Find another girl.

 

[Communist partisan]

Im going to keep this simple.
There is a girl i REALLY like. I mean REALLY.
We talk and hug (effectionatly) and all the other stuff, but havent gone as far as kissing.
I know she likes me, i know i like her. But there's a problem.
she has a boyfreind.
Now i have asked her about it, there in a good stable relationship, and i dont want to intrude.
& apparently the reason we do all the effectionat stuff is because, get this, she 'trusts me'.
now im confused.
please give your help and advice!

Ever heard about cheating? Or yust being a secret lover?

Serious, If you don't have much morale (like me) yust make her cheat if your a tiny-little-good-shoes (nothing wrong whith that) yust pain it out untill they break up and than be a supporting friend.... and than you probably get laid

 

[Jhasso]

Demacia her.