Spanking
- Thread starter pulse2
- Start date
Recommended Videos
Well I'd prefer other means of punishment besides spanking, however a tap on the hand won't kill them. That doesn't mean I condone kicking the shit out of your kids for misbehaving or even going nuts... However, if my kid is playing up... I have given the odd smack on the hand. I don't like doing it, but I have. I personally prefer telling her off or sending her into the naughty corner or to her bedroom if it gets bad.
I think it's a good teaching method, but it shouldn't be abused. Obviously you shouldn't smack your kid if he just pisses on the toilet seat, but I'd say smoking at the age of 12 or something would warrant a good "wake the fuck up" smack. I posted in another thread (about being racist and not realising it) that I got smacked when I randomly blurted out "damn pakis" after my mum and another parents conversation ended. I was only 8, and if I was mum in that situation I probably would've hit me.
Although, I wouldn't go overboard like my parents who smacked me when I grazed my knee for being stupid. Yeah, don't teach me jumping off high objects is dangerous, just hit me, I'll learn eventually.
Although, I wouldn't go overboard like my parents who smacked me when I grazed my knee for being stupid. Yeah, don't teach me jumping off high objects is dangerous, just hit me, I'll learn eventually.
I think it should be used like it is in dogs.
A stern warning/saying NO! then a light smacking. Just like you do with a dog that has an accident in the house.
Yes, I did just say children at first are just like dogs. because really, they are until you get them grown up and mannered.
A stern warning/saying NO! then a light smacking. Just like you do with a dog that has an accident in the house.
Yes, I did just say children at first are just like dogs. because really, they are until you get them grown up and mannered.
I happen to know for a fact my siblings and I would have been completely unruly if my mother did not occasionally spank us.
In fact, I reckon she did not do it often enough. She was far too lenient with us. We were seriously little shits.
That does not mean it is required for every punishment, or that every child needs it. Just that it is not something TERRIBLE AND AWFUL that we need to ban forever.
In fact, I reckon she did not do it often enough. She was far too lenient with us. We were seriously little shits.
That does not mean it is required for every punishment, or that every child needs it. Just that it is not something TERRIBLE AND AWFUL that we need to ban forever.
Perhaps we should also squirt them with a spray bottle full of water?emeraldrafael said:
But I grew up in a spanking household and we all turned out alright.
As long as you're not actually harming the kid. Too many people look on a little bit of stern, disappointed anguish and physical pain as terribly damaging... and it's not. There is such a thing as being too soft on a kid and thereby not preparing them to deal with other people. Human beings can be brutal, children or otherwise. It's best to learn that early so as to formulate personal defenses against it.
I remember my cousin when we were five got smacked by our uncle and he fell to the ground. I learned after that day to be good. Plus my parents never hit, except I ran across the street and when my mom grabbed me her wedding ring slashed my face. To this day I still look both ways three times when I cross the street.
Also another lesson I learned is through my brother. His freshmen year in college he was in a frat and someone said something to him and my brother tried to get in his face. Well lets say my brother's face + window = hospital visit. I learned if someone says something either ignore it or politely tell him my thoughts.
Also another lesson I learned is through my brother. His freshmen year in college he was in a frat and someone said something to him and my brother tried to get in his face. Well lets say my brother's face + window = hospital visit. I learned if someone says something either ignore it or politely tell him my thoughts.
I asked this question because as a child I was given smacks on my backside like no ones business and in hindsight, I deserved it, I was a terror child and no amount of time outs, evil stares, firm voices and all that would be anough to stop me doing what I wanted to do when I wanted to do it. In fact, I saw a video of me I had never seen before at someones house, when I was 4 the other day, and you can see my mum telling me to behave myself, and I say I will after screaming for her to let go of me, two minutes later the entire curtain falls down from the bracket, taking along with it, expensive vases and other ornaments and smashing them on the ground. I covered my face in shame, I couldn't believe that was me and I wanted to give myself some smacks, lol.
I'd like to think that the vast majority of chidren weren't like me and only need a firm telling off and time out, but in some cases there are kids like me. To be honest, the smacks on my bottom I recieved are nothing in comparison to my mother, her mother was military and if my grandma was a general, my great grandmother was most certainly a dictator of dictators.
I cried at the time because of course it hurt, but I get on better with my parents then plenty of people my age, I have never considered rebellion, I respect everyone in society, especially my elders and I am not the slightest bit traumatized, if anything, I find half the things I used to do hilarious and wonder how my mother didn't go insane with me as a nightmare child.
I'd like to think that the vast majority of chidren weren't like me and only need a firm telling off and time out, but in some cases there are kids like me. To be honest, the smacks on my bottom I recieved are nothing in comparison to my mother, her mother was military and if my grandma was a general, my great grandmother was most certainly a dictator of dictators.
I cried at the time because of course it hurt, but I get on better with my parents then plenty of people my age, I have never considered rebellion, I respect everyone in society, especially my elders and I am not the slightest bit traumatized, if anything, I find half the things I used to do hilarious and wonder how my mother didn't go insane with me as a nightmare child.
I grew up with a similar child hood lol. Was also a little shit when I was a kid, however I will never, ever, ever do to my kid which my parents did to me. Ever. We didn't just get smacks, we got cane, belt, shoe, fist... Had it all. Even had a knife to my throat once.Monkfish Acc. said:
Never ever will I do that. I'd say I turned out okay and I'm not an exspecially violent person.... So I don't think:
That doesn't mean I condone means as extreme as what my parents went to. Even if we were shits... No excuse in my book.Worgen said:
aren't we all?FargoDog said:
In all seriousness, I think that if the child's poor behavior is so extreme and impossible to change by any other means, it is justified to hit them. Not make them bleed, or bruise them, just something that stings a bit. I know received a firm slap on the hand by my mom once or twice as a kid for misbehaving, and just look at me now!
(Please don't comment on that last part)
So did I. And maybe. I do it to my little cousins, but they think its a game and really it is.DeadlyYellow said: