Specific behaviors that annoy you

[Fiz_The_Toaster]

When people interrupt me.

To be more specific, when I'm trying to explain something that either happened, or something complicated that needs some sort of translation. It bothers me to no end when that happens. I know this one lady at my work does it all the time and I really try not to let it bother me when she does it. What's worse is that she knows it annoys me and goes on a long explanation on why she had to cut me off, and then goes into a half-assed apology.

Anyways, I silently seethe when it does happen and I very rarely point out when it happens. It's usually an annoyed look on my face that tips people off that I'm not amused. I mean, really, is it really that hard to let someone finish before speaking?

Or does everyone have to channel their inner Kanye?

 

[Shaels]

I can't fucking stand "click-bait" comments, and I have a friend that uses them all the time in conversation.

"There's actually a remaster of one of my favorite games of all time coming out soon." -Waits patiently for someone to ask what it is-


"I actually just picked up what I'd say is the best game of the year so far. -Once again withholds the name of the title until someone asks about it-

"See, the PS4 has an exclusive title that I would say is practically flawless in every aspect." -Extended pause, title drops Bloodborne like he's making an E3 announcement-

And he does this all the time. Just say what you're going to say; this is a conversation, not Buzzfeed.

 

[WonkyWarmaiden]

When people use childish excuses for their now adult behavior, the worst being shyness. I get it, public events and conversations can be intimidating, but you're a God damn adult! You should be able to have a single conversation with another adult for 5mins without freaking out or having prolonged silences.
To me, its just an excuse for being rude. Oh, you're roommate is having a party but you never come out of your room? Then you're simply rude. A friend introduces you to someone, you shake hands once and go back to Angry Birds? Rude.
Don't want to give a speech? That's fine, actually. Lots of people can't handle public speaking. But as an adult, you need to be able to have regular conversations with small groups or one-on-one.

I'm sorry but that isn't true. I mean, yeah, sometimes people are just rude jerks but believe me when I say I've nearly had panic attacks because of social interactions. You don't seem to get that there's such a thing as social anxiety and that many people suffer from it. There is a significant difference between some asshole being too involved in playing Angry Birds and having your entire body start to shake because you're worried you'll say or do the wrong thing in front of strangers.

 

[renegade7]

People who get angry you haven't seen something. "Oh my god, you haven't watched Orange is the New Black!?"
No, I haven't. I do not have the time, there is a crap ton of media and I do not care. Frankly, I can think of a lot of shows that I completely avoided because of this constant pulse of "Go watch this because I think it's good".

I have to second this. One of my friends is kind of a movie nerd, and in general I really don't like movies. To me, watching TV or movies is what you do when you have literally nothing else to do. So whenever I say I don't know who some director or actor is or I'm not really that interested in Quentin Tarantino he'll wig out and say something like "WHAT???!!1! What do you mean you haven't seen Pulp Fiction?" Of course, the answer is I just don't like movies all that much to which the response is usually some variant of "Well fine if you just want to be a contrarian so you can act all edgy." People like that annoy me.

Oh, and also just in general anyone who thinks that you disagreeing with them is just you being edgy and argumentative/contrarian for its own sake. It is possible for me to have my own reasons to not like Tarantino.

Speaking of movies, people who constantly make pop culture references despite how clear it should be that you don't get them. I don't constantly make references to my graduate research in silicon vapor deposition because very few people are interested in that or understand it, likewise please don't spend your entire conversations with me taking every opportunity to drive the conversation back to something I don't understand and have no interest in.

Oh, and Disney movie fangirls. I saw these a lot in college. The ones who pretend to still like Disney/other young children's movies because they think it makes them look innocent or cute or something, in reality it's just annoying and they don't like Disney movies nor does anyone else past the age of 9. Actually, I'm just going to generalize this to young-adult women, usually around college age, who cling desperately to the trappings of childhood.

People who chew loudly, especially on things that don't need to be chewed, like ice. It makes me want to break something.

People who talk loudly. Most people are able to control the volume of their voices to at least some extent, others will just immediately go to borderline-shouting levels, especially when they're on a cell phone.

When people can't distinguish between criticism of a medium or a product and criticism of the people who like it. If I say something like "Sometimes I think female character designs are a little ridiculous, and maybe on some level a bit sexist", that's a criticism of the work, not of the people who created it or of the people who enjoyed it. You don't need to rise up in fury to defend the honor of the designers or fans. Sure, I have some political opinions related to the subject, but pointing out that I find some of the designs a bit silly or that I'd prefer a more asexual character, or that you can be pretty without being sexed up, isn't in itself a political argument.

 

[WonkyWarmaiden]

The whole Joss Whedon/Valley Girl speak of "I'm saying something I obviously don't mean and putting a slight inflection at the end to sass it up?".

Isn't that basically sarcasm?

 

[Evonisia]

The whole Joss Whedon/Valley Girl speak of "I'm saying something I obviously don't mean and putting a slight inflection at the end to sass it up?".

Isn't that basically sarcasm?

I imagine sarcasm used correctly would be fine, but he uses it for pretty much every single line of dialogue regardless of how appropriate it may be with the scene. So when a real person starts talking like that, eh... no thanks.

This post is basically a "This ^" to Johnny's post, another behaviour I'm not fond of at all.

 

[CommanderL]

When people use childish excuses for their now adult behavior, the worst being shyness. I get it, public events and conversations can be intimidating, but you're a God damn adult! You should be able to have a single conversation with another adult for 5mins without freaking out or having prolonged silences.
To me, its just an excuse for being rude. Oh, you're roommate is having a party but you never come out of your room? Then you're simply rude. A friend introduces you to someone, you shake hands once and go back to Angry Birds? Rude.
Don't want to give a speech? That's fine, actually. Lots of people can't handle public speaking. But as an adult, you need to be able to have regular conversations with small groups or one-on-one.

Also cooking. I hate it when my friends(mid 20ers, mind you) tell me they can't cook. At all. I can get not liking cooking, but don't tell me you can't bake chicken or grill a steak or make scrambled eggs. Children don't know how to cook, adults are simply too lazy to learn.

if my room mate is having a party its his party not mine
attending is not mandotary and some days you just want to be left alone
though my room mate and me share the same friends so it doesnt really matter
but if its my other housemate then I aint atending as I dont care for his friends one bit

 

[Flames66]

The Walking Dead is literally showing the stupidest people on the planet being the only survivors left

I'm going to have to disagree with you there. I find the characters to be well written and interesting, however I respect your opinion and your decision not to watch it.

OT: I am annoyed when during a conversation or debate, people immediately reach for personal insults. They don't discuss the issues raised, they just slander their opponent.

 

[ShyGuy]

When people use childish excuses for their now adult behavior, the worst being shyness. I get it, public events and conversations can be intimidating, but you're a God damn adult! You should be able to have a single conversation with another adult for 5mins without freaking out or having prolonged silences.
To me, its just an excuse for being rude. Oh, you're roommate is having a party but you never come out of your room? Then you're simply rude. A friend introduces you to someone, you shake hands once and go back to Angry Birds? Rude.
Don't want to give a speech? That's fine, actually. Lots of people can't handle public speaking. But as an adult, you need to be able to have regular conversations with small groups or one-on-one.

I'm sorry but that isn't true. I mean, yeah, sometimes people are just rude jerks but believe me when I say I've nearly had panic attacks because of social interactions. You don't seem to get that there's such a thing as social anxiety and that many people suffer from it. There is a significant difference between some asshole being too involved in playing Angry Birds and having your entire body start to shake because you're worried you'll say or do the wrong thing in front of strangers.

Thank you. I finally decided to post after years of lurking simply to say essentially the same thing.

I appreciate that for most people, having conversations is not particularly difficult, but for me it is extremely challenging. I end up sweating and looking very nervous. I always worry that I'll say the wrong thing, so I often stay silent. And if I do say something, I'll worry about it for days, pondering whether I should have said that or not and wondering how it might have affected other people's opinion of me. It's probably difficult to understand for those who don't have such problems, but I don't want to be rude, quite the opposite. I'm doing the best I can, but it's not easy for me.

To answer the OP's question, then, I suppose that I'm quite annoyed when people assume that socialising is just as easy for everyone as it is for them. I hate being asked questions like "Why are you so often alone?", "Why don't you go out more to meet new people?" or "Why don't you have a girlfriend?". It's not that I don't want to, I just don't know how.

 

[Thaluikhain]

Do people in T.V count? Specifically the Doctor Who universe. Cause if so then I can finally share my annoyance for the worse type of person in Doctor Who.

The people who deny the existent of Aliens despite the fact that Earth has been invaded, with all the world to see, more than 4 times by now since the Christopher Ecleston Doctor. I'm pretty sure Donnas mother didn't think they were realy, Rex Matheson from Miracle Day had a hard time believing as well and there is probably a whole list of other people too.

Point is I hate it when characters in the universe ignore the facts that are currently trying to invade them.

This always annoys me as well. Not because of the characters themselves, but because of the lazy, inconsistent writing that it spawns from. Having a few pictures of monsters or the like and rumours to go with them is understandable in their denial, but an invasion? One of which was ended by a weapon constructed by the government from the scraps of a previous invasion? That's beyond plausible deniability.

Hell, in the MCU they had one alien invasion and years after the fact people wouldn't stop talking about it (and rightly so, aliens invaded. Them being confirmed to exist alone would be big), yet in the world of Doctor Who? It's a typical Christmas, yet no one talks about it (even though London is practically empty on Christmas now because of the fact that day tends to be when it happens).

Now is comparing Doctor Who and the MCU really fair? No, but hey, they both have helicarriers run by acronyms. What ever happened to the Valiant anyway?

The Valiant got shot down by the Daleks, IIRC. Also regarding Daleks, in Victory of the Daleks, the Doctor tells Amy to explain what Daleks are to Churchill, only she's never heard of them. He's like "But they were at the Battle at Canry Wharf...people don't remember things...giant cyberman in Victorian London...something very strange is going on" and totally fails to look into this mystery any further at all ever.

That was by far not the worst part of that story, though.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

The whole Joss Whedon/Valley Girl speak of "I'm saying something I obviously don't mean and putting a slight inflection at the end to sass it up?".

Isn't that basically sarcasm?

What Evonisia said. This is what people end up sounding like:

 

[Queen Michael]

Oh, and Disney movie fangirls. I saw these a lot in college. The ones who pretend to still like Disney/other young children's movies because they think it makes them look innocent or cute or something, in reality it's just annoying and they don't like Disney movies nor does anyone else past the age of 9. Actually, I'm just going to generalize this to young-adult women, usually around college age, who cling desperately to the trappings of childhood.

Look, I get that overenthusiastic fans can be annoying as fudge, but that doesn't mean they pretend to like them. I'm a 26-year-old man, and I still enjoy Hercules, The Emperor's New Groove, Frozen, Sleeping Beauty[footnote]This one in particular is way more fun when you're older.[/footnote] and The Lion King.

It is possible for me to have my own reasons to not like Tarantino.

Just like it's possible for people to like Disney movies when they're not children anymore. It's pretty weird that you complain about other people refusing to accept that you have different tastes from them, when you refuse to accept that other people have different tastes from you. You aren't trying to make a statement with your tastes? Okay, but neither are they. We just happen to like Disney movies.

 

[McElroy]

When people use childish excuses for their now adult behavior, the worst being shyness. I get it, public events and conversations can be intimidating, but you're a God damn adult! You should be able to have a single conversation with another adult for 5mins without freaking out or having prolonged silences.
To me, its just an excuse for being rude. Oh, you're roommate is having a party but you never come out of your room? Then you're simply rude. A friend introduces you to someone, you shake hands once and go back to Angry Birds? Rude.
Don't want to give a speech? That's fine, actually. Lots of people can't handle public speaking. But as an adult, you need to be able to have regular conversations with small groups or one-on-one.

I'm sorry but that isn't true. I mean, yeah, sometimes people are just rude jerks but believe me when I say I've nearly had panic attacks because of social interactions. You don't seem to get that there's such a thing as social anxiety and that many people suffer from it. There is a significant difference between some asshole being too involved in playing Angry Birds and having your entire body start to shake because you're worried you'll say or do the wrong thing in front of strangers.

Thank you. I finally decided to post after years of lurking simply to say essentially the same thing.

I appreciate that for most people, having conversations is not particularly difficult, but for me it is extremely challenging. I end up sweating and looking very nervous. I always worry that I'll say the wrong thing, so I often stay silent. And if I do say something, I'll worry about it for days, pondering whether I should have said that or not and wondering how it might have affected other people's opinion of me. It's probably difficult to understand for those who don't have such problems, but I don't want to be rude, quite the opposite. I'm doing the best I can, but it's not easy for me.

I'm generalizing here (from my own experiences), but I'd say people normally assume that adults have worked on their social anxiety issues enough to not seem like weirdos. Thus the ones who haven't are weirdos. Again, generally being a functioning adult in social situations is valued enough that it's something people should work on if it doesn't come to them naturally, whether it's a case of social anxiety or not. In a way it's like dyslexia, though a bit more forgiving as nobody can afford to be illiterate.

OT: Not sorting your waste when there's an easy opportunity to do so. It's just something everyone should do and out of my four flatmates in the past four years not one has had the faintest idea. It still seems to be difficult as hell even when the only thing I tell them to do is not to stuff everything in the same bin so I can sort them out. This mindset (or the lack of it) is why we need stupid laws for "average" people since their common sense just doesn't cut it.

 

[ShyGuy]

When people use childish excuses for their now adult behavior, the worst being shyness. I get it, public events and conversations can be intimidating, but you're a God damn adult! You should be able to have a single conversation with another adult for 5mins without freaking out or having prolonged silences.
To me, its just an excuse for being rude. Oh, you're roommate is having a party but you never come out of your room? Then you're simply rude. A friend introduces you to someone, you shake hands once and go back to Angry Birds? Rude.
Don't want to give a speech? That's fine, actually. Lots of people can't handle public speaking. But as an adult, you need to be able to have regular conversations with small groups or one-on-one.

I'm sorry but that isn't true. I mean, yeah, sometimes people are just rude jerks but believe me when I say I've nearly had panic attacks because of social interactions. You don't seem to get that there's such a thing as social anxiety and that many people suffer from it. There is a significant difference between some asshole being too involved in playing Angry Birds and having your entire body start to shake because you're worried you'll say or do the wrong thing in front of strangers.

Thank you. I finally decided to post after years of lurking simply to say essentially the same thing.

I appreciate that for most people, having conversations is not particularly difficult, but for me it is extremely challenging. I end up sweating and looking very nervous. I always worry that I'll say the wrong thing, so I often stay silent. And if I do say something, I'll worry about it for days, pondering whether I should have said that or not and wondering how it might have affected other people's opinion of me. It's probably difficult to understand for those who don't have such problems, but I don't want to be rude, quite the opposite. I'm doing the best I can, but it's not easy for me.

I'm generalizing here (from my own experiences), but I'd say people normally assume that adults have worked on their social anxiety issues enough to not seem like weirdos. Thus the ones who haven't are weirdos. Again, generally being a functioning adult in social situations is valued enough that it's something people should work on if it doesn't come to them naturally, whether it's a case of social anxiety or not. In a way it's like dyslexia, though a bit more forgiving as nobody can afford to be illiterate.

That may be so, but what I was trying to convey is that it's not so easy for some people to sort these issues, and it's not like adulthood is some sort of magical threshold that, once crossed, frees you of all past issues and experiences. In fact, it seems to me that the older you get, the harder it is to actually deal with these issues, because as you pointed out, people may treat you (perhaps rightfully so) as some kind of weirdo, which, as you can imagine, does nothing to improve confidence in social situations.

In any case, I am never quite certain if the problem lies with people not truly understanding how difficult it can be to deal with social anxiety, or if I truly am just a coward as they seem to imply. I feel like I have tried to improve, and I still try, but it doesn't seem to get any better.

 

[Queen Michael]

Ooooh, I've got another one! When people say they "just don't have time to read."

Look, I get that some people have so busy lives that they genuinely don't have time to read. Some people do. But considering how easy a book is to carry with you, how you can pick it up and read for about thirty seconds and put it down again, and how you can do it pretty much anywhere, well, I'd say most people could read a book a month or so if they actually made an effort.

 

[MetalDooley]

People with no regard for other people around them.So you just met your friend and decided to stop for a chat.That's nice but you know what would be even nicer?If you did it somewhere else than the doorway of the shop.This happened to me the other day where a group of women decided that the doorway of the local supermarket was the ideal place to stop which resulted in them blocking the entire doorway.I had to ask them several times to move and then they had the fucking nerve to look annoyed at me for interrupting them

 

[MetalDooley]

Ooooh, I've got another one! When people say they "just don't have time to read."

Look, I get that some people have so busy lives that they genuinely don't have time to read. Some people do. But considering how easy a book is to carry with you, how you can pick it up and read for about thirty seconds and put it down again, and how you can do it pretty much anywhere, well, I'd say most people could read a book a month or so if they actually made an effort.

What's most laughable about that is I find that often the people who say this seem to have no problem spending every spare minute checking facebook or twitter on their phone or watching hours of tv.Funny how they seem to find the time for those things

 

[cthulhuspawn82]

Anyone who has been on a calorie diet knows how annoying family and friend are when it comes to food. Specifically when it comes to shoving it in your face and getting angry and confused when you dont want to eat it. They'll do this even if they know you're counting calories.

They also get really offended when you tell them you cant eat the food they make because you dont trust them to properly count calories in the things they cook

"It's 300 calories per serving. Says so right in the recipe"
"Yes, and I'm sure you didn't add anything to the recipe, like a stick of butter or a pound of cheese"
"Well, um...."

 

[Ihateregistering1]

- If you have someone who's on your Facebook and he/she does Crossfit, you know what I'm talking about.

Haha, Ninja'd on this one. As a joke once, I started posting my 'results' from a bunch of "WODs" that I just made up for about 2 weeks, and I basically made it sound like I was Dwayne Johnson meets a Navy SEAL, just to see if anyone would call me out on it. So my WOD would something ridiculous like:
-5X5, 275 lbs clean and press
-5x5, 425 lbs squat
-5x5 550 lbs deadlift
-60 Pull-ups
-Sprint a quarter mile in 70 seconds
-Repeat 5 times for time
And I'd have a time of about 24 minutes, just to see if anyone would call me out on it being bullshit. Absolutely none of my Crossfitter friends called me out on it (they just "liked" it and said "awesome!"), only my non-crossfit friends called BS, it was hilarious.

Also FB stuff, but people who are way too mooshy on FB. I have a buddy who's finally in a relationship, and we're pretty sure both him and his new GF were virgins prior to this (they're about 30). It's awesome that they found each other and are happy, but every friggin FB post between them now is this essay on how much they love each other and are totally meant to be together and blah blah blah. You don't want to hate on them because it's great that they're happy, but I'd be lying if I don't roll my eyes every damn time I read their posts.