Taking of Names, oh and marriage
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Do you think you're being charming or something? You're just coming off as a arrogant jerk.ColdStorage said:
"how do you know what the hell she's on about"
And that has a very negative connotation, not remedied by the tone of your post.
Maybe you should ease off the colloquialisms. You seem to be portraying yourself differently than you intend to. The burden is not on me to understand you, the burden is on you to express yourself accurately. Don't assume the opposite just because English is not your first language. It's the one you're using to talk to me, I should be able to assume you mean what you say.
Lets agree to disagreeLadyZephyr said:
I stand by my arrogance.
Now you stand by your whatever it is you have.
ok fair dues, you got me there, i'm putting you into a corner in putting your weakness accross, will you?
I would hope that she'd take my last name, for the sake of tradition and whatnot, but if she doesn't, that's cool. I'm more concerned about finding someone in the first place!
I'd take his. My surname is bland, anyway. My boyfriend has an AWESOME surname I'd gladly take, but I'd take the name of whoever I end up marrying, if I end up marrying, because it just... seems right. It's tradition, I guess, and I don't mind going with the flow at all.
I use both last names evenly when it comes down to it.
I retain my maiden name for business I've established before I was married, and for the sake of my clan ( being the granddaughter of the clan chief, it seemed like an insult to abandon the name)
when it comes to taxes and pass ports and various licenses I use my married name.
I would have had no problem using my married name alone had I not had things established before the name change.
though At one point he almost took my last name, but I talked him out of it for the sake of letting him keep his yank pride.
I retain my maiden name for business I've established before I was married, and for the sake of my clan ( being the granddaughter of the clan chief, it seemed like an insult to abandon the name)
when it comes to taxes and pass ports and various licenses I use my married name.
I would have had no problem using my married name alone had I not had things established before the name change.
though At one point he almost took my last name, but I talked him out of it for the sake of letting him keep his yank pride.
I do think married couples should have the same surname, but that's mostly as a sign to the rest of the world that they belong to the same family. What surname they choose to take is their choice. To me, it doesn't necessarily have to be the man's surname, or the woman's surname. It doesn't even have to be a related surname, they can just pick one out of the blue that's theirs and theirs alone. The main thing is that the one and only purpose of marriage is to tie your lives together, and then it only makes sense that you tie your identities together as well.ColdStorage said:
Huh. IDK, really. I suppose It'd just go as it would go. I like my last name, so I wouldn't drop it. I'd do the hyphen-thing, though. Not sure whose would go first, I'd just go with whatever rolls off the tongue easiest.
We live in America where nearly everyone pronounces it 'duh-big-net'. Or Daw-beg-nay. She is also a teacher of 10 year olds who often times speak English as a second language (Spanish as a first) and have an impossible time saying it right. It's her choice. I guess 28 years is enough of that name. Maybe she wants to try something new for the next part of her life?Laura. said:
i would expect my wife to take my surname if that's was how it is done here, unless she's realy agains it. Here in mexico we dont do that, we just name our kids with both's surnames. I wouldnt want my kids to have my wife's surname as first surname though 
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Well, my last name is very long and not a single human being I have met has ever pronounced it correctly without hearing it first. And even then, most still get it wrong. It's nothing ALL that complex, it's just that people are stupid.
What I'm trying to say is that I'd rather take the girl's last name than have her take mine. I do not wish to curse anyone with my last name ever.
What I'm trying to say is that I'd rather take the girl's last name than have her take mine. I do not wish to curse anyone with my last name ever.