Taking of Names, oh and marriage

[chefassassin2]

I think in this day and age, whatever you want to choose is fine. I honestly think it depends on the way you were brought up, and all that jazz. My mom has a hyphenated last name, i.e. maiden name-husband's last name. My stepmom took my dad's last name, my sis kept her last name. Everybody's cool with it. I don't hink it's a very big deal at all, to be honest.

 

[DarkRyter]

I wouldn't want her to take my name as it's a rather troubling last name.

Every time I tell someone my name, I have to spell it out. I can't even pronounce it correctly. I don't want her to go through all the trouble.

 

[Azraellod]

are you kidding me? my name is awful, i wouldn't want to inflict it on anyone.

doesn't seem like a very likely situation anyway though. i lack the interest to pursue a relationship.

 

[Simalacrum]

meh, I don't really care about that kind of thing... my mother kept her name when she married my dad, though lord knows why considering her surname is Honda (she's Japanese) and my dads is Burns... consequencly I've inherited both surnames, making my full name Nicholas David (<- middle name) Sho (<- JAPANESE first name) Honda (<- Japanese SURname) Burns (ENGLISH surname)

for some reason this has lead to great hilarity for many people...

...come to think of it, yes, I don't care which it is but I think one of the couple should change their surname - I don't want their children to suffer from their parents choice.

 

[Laura.]

She is taking my last name because it's much easier to say than hers. My last name is Ambolt as opposed to hers which is D'Aubignet.

Whaaaaat? She's getting rid of such charming and classy last name?

We live in America where nearly everyone pronounces it 'duh-big-net'. Or Daw-beg-nay. She is also a teacher of 10 year olds who often times speak English as a second language (Spanish as a first) and have an impossible time saying it right. It's her choice. I guess 28 years is enough of that name. Maybe she wants to try something new for the next part of her life?

Ok, you have a point!

I for one would not change my last name (I think).

 

[j1-2themax]

Depending on her last name, I may end up taking her's. I mean, mine's a pain because it sounds different from the way it looks, so I really wouldn't blame her if she didn't want to take mine.

 

[stompythebeast]

she better have my name, and all my offsprings will have my firstname as well. Cuz im a man, a man! man!! man!!!

 

[Xanadeas]

This thread doesn't apply to me as it's illegal for me to get married pretty much anywhere. :< Except Canada. But I don't live there. D:

 

[chromewarriorXIII]

I don't care as long as she doesn't want to combine our names. That would be bad seeing as my name is already hyphenated. If she wants to keep her name that is fine too.

 

[War Penguin]

I don't care. It would probably be for the best if I changed mine. It's very bland and sounds like corn.

 

[Arachon]

My parents actually got an entirely new surname when they got married, taking neither my mothers or my fathers (lucky thing that is, both where terrible).

 

[hopeneverdies]

Three seperate bank accounts is the way to go: yours, mine, and ours. I buy what I want, you buy what you want, and stay out of my wallet.

 

[Aur0ra145]

What's in a name? I wouldn't care if the girl took my name or not.

 

[Lukirre]

I don't see what the big deal is.

I mean, I can understand how some feminist rights group would say that it "tramples on the foundations of female liberation". Which is bullshit, because it's just a name.

And let's face it folks, a rose by any other name would smell just as sweet.

I agree with the other people who have said it doesn't matter.

If my future spouse wants my last name, then by all means feel free to indulge.
If she does not, then it really won't bother me either.

 

[TK421]

It really dosen't matter to me if she decides to keep her name it's cool as long as we are together it's fine a name is just a name.

I agree with this.

 

[Saskwach]

I'd like my wife to take my name, but I wouldn't cry if she didn't: my name's massively complicated for English speakers and means diagonal (or possibly horizontal) in a foreign language.

 

[LongAndShort]

The eventual wife wouldn't have to, but i'd like the kids to have my surname. I don't know why, i just do. Probably some notion of Pride, like when a artist signs his(or her) work. Unless they're complete retards, then they can have her name.

 

[azurawolf]

I would want my husband's surname. I don't like be connected to my 'father's' side of the family so I would want any way to separate myself from it.

Though... when I was engaged (no longer) we had planned on having a handfasting and I wouldn't take his surname until a year and a day later when we had the second ceremony.

To any who are curious... a handfasting is a pagan version of a wedding. Traditionally... the couple has a ceremony were they are bonded as man and wife. Then they wait a year and a day to see if they will actually make it as a married couple. If so, their souls are bonded together a year and a day after the first ceremony.

Sorry about the lesson... didn't want anyone confused...

 

[Verp]

I'm not going to get married so I couldn't care less, but I do know of a couple who couldn't decide their names so they just made up a surname for themselves. I find that rather charming. The name was kind of spiffy too -- it was ordinary enough to be a real Finnish surname, but still a bit on the fancy side. I think the name was"Merentuuli", which means "sea wind".

 

[DigitalSushi]

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If I marry my current girlfriend...

I'm taking her name, I'm not taking hers.

What? that doesn't make sense young man!

I don't even know how to pronounce my GF's surname, but i'm not marrying her anyway, I wanna die old and lonely.