Find a counsilor that isn't terrible. Any that fills you with pills isn't doing their damn job. that would probably really help. Of course cost could likely be an issue. It sounds like your parents could use one too.
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Yeah, I also agree with this guy too.Fanta Grape said:
Here's my question though, how the heck do you play D&D alone?
I agree that things get better with college. A much higher level of maturity comes with college (or at least it should). You mentioned you were interested in computer sciences and computer games (Hey, around here, who isn't?), so it might be a good idea to look into computer animation and/or designing. Find something that really interests you and pursue it through college. Nothing helps me feel good more than doing what I love to do.
High School is hell on Earth. If you're as good with computers as you say, and you can work hard consistently, then congratulations! You've got a bright future ahead of you. Best of luck.Edwardsjack said:
Things kind of even out once you hit college.
I myself was fairly popular in high school, but the playing field in college is fairly level, because when you start there isnt that one group of 'cool kids' that have already claimedn their spot. Plus, there is usually way more people, so it isnt hard to find people that enjoy the same things as you (AKA FRIENDS)
Mind you, popularity is overrated, but having some friends definetely is NOT.
I myself was fairly popular in high school, but the playing field in college is fairly level, because when you start there isnt that one group of 'cool kids' that have already claimedn their spot. Plus, there is usually way more people, so it isnt hard to find people that enjoy the same things as you (AKA FRIENDS)
Mind you, popularity is overrated, but having some friends definetely is NOT.
well, for the bullying issue... its hard to say what you should do. maybe when they start up on you again, ask them why they do it? theyve probably never thought about it before, but i assume if your typical bully realizes what human trash theyre behaving like, they may rethink how theyre doing living their life and stop destroying their victims' lives. who knows?
and your future, just figure out what you want to do. and i mean what you REALLY want to do, not what you think youll be well qualified for, based on your skills and grades.
i myself am going to become an actor. i phrased that sentence the way i did because i will not think about it, i wont just try, i will do it. thats what you need to do with your future. if the current path isnt working out, make a new path and follow it to happiness. and dont let anything or anybody get in your way.
and your future, just figure out what you want to do. and i mean what you REALLY want to do, not what you think youll be well qualified for, based on your skills and grades.
i myself am going to become an actor. i phrased that sentence the way i did because i will not think about it, i wont just try, i will do it. thats what you need to do with your future. if the current path isnt working out, make a new path and follow it to happiness. and dont let anything or anybody get in your way.
Firstly, see a counselor (your school might have one) if you don't want just pills thrown at you. They can be more effective than doctors and Psychologists.
You won't have repeats of your past years now, College will be very different from High School in a number of ways, the people will too.
If you're interesting in gaming you could try going for a game related course. It doesn't even have to be that game related, it could be art or writing for a game.
Getting an easy part time job can also help, as it will give you something to do if you're bored (because it's when your bored and/or alone that you start thinking sad thoughts), plus you'll get a pay check!
It will get better in College, especially if you choose a course which you will enjoy, because most likely the other people doing the course will share the same interests as you.
Don't you dare hurt yourself, or anyone else! Just pull through High School and choose a College course which interests you. Also remember that you don't need to become a millionaire, or to be the smartest doctor ever. There is nothing wrong with a humble lifestyle.
Have a happy new year.
You won't have repeats of your past years now, College will be very different from High School in a number of ways, the people will too.
If you're interesting in gaming you could try going for a game related course. It doesn't even have to be that game related, it could be art or writing for a game.
Getting an easy part time job can also help, as it will give you something to do if you're bored (because it's when your bored and/or alone that you start thinking sad thoughts), plus you'll get a pay check!
It will get better in College, especially if you choose a course which you will enjoy, because most likely the other people doing the course will share the same interests as you.
Don't you dare hurt yourself, or anyone else! Just pull through High School and choose a College course which interests you. Also remember that you don't need to become a millionaire, or to be the smartest doctor ever. There is nothing wrong with a humble lifestyle.
Have a happy new year.
Think happy thoughts.
It sounds childish, it sounds like it wouldn't help anything, it sounds completely useless, but it's been shown to work on a quantom level. People have litterally been told they would be unable to move for the rest of their lives and gone on to walk and function like regular people because of happy thoughts. Just try to clear your mind of bad influences and focus on the good things. EDIT: Hell, I used to be a complete socially disfunctional persona unable to express anything, or feel a shred of happiness until I started looking into this /End Edit
Also...
Take some kind of self defense program, I know it sounds kind of lame, but they are very good at boosting self esteem, and physical/emotional involvement with people/things around you. I personally suggest real professional wrestling (none of that WWE BS) since it allows you to subdue a possible adversary in a manner that would at most barely injure them, but gets the point accross that you are not some kind of target. (Or if you apply more pressure/force than necesary, wrestling can seriously injure people, so it's a win-win situation.)
It sounds childish, it sounds like it wouldn't help anything, it sounds completely useless, but it's been shown to work on a quantom level. People have litterally been told they would be unable to move for the rest of their lives and gone on to walk and function like regular people because of happy thoughts. Just try to clear your mind of bad influences and focus on the good things. EDIT: Hell, I used to be a complete socially disfunctional persona unable to express anything, or feel a shred of happiness until I started looking into this /End Edit
Also...
Take some kind of self defense program, I know it sounds kind of lame, but they are very good at boosting self esteem, and physical/emotional involvement with people/things around you. I personally suggest real professional wrestling (none of that WWE BS) since it allows you to subdue a possible adversary in a manner that would at most barely injure them, but gets the point accross that you are not some kind of target. (Or if you apply more pressure/force than necesary, wrestling can seriously injure people, so it's a win-win situation.)
Knowledge is power, guard it well.
Jokes aside,
Find people that share your interests, they should be your escape; find and make more friends!
Listen to music, it helps.
Physical Exercise can be helpful for some and an 'escape', read that you're in good shape which should help!
Always try counseling, an open mind is better than a closed one. Ask for the help you need!
Read 'The Last Lecture.' It will change your life! The part about treat the disease, not the symptom is important. What causes your unhappiness? Find the root and try and fix it! Don't run away to find peace and relax yourself, bring the fight TO THE PEOPLE WHO PICK ON YOU!
And rememberTo admit defeat is to blaspheme against the Emperor.
P.S. Go to the Happy Thread. Exactly why I made it =D
Jokes aside,
Find people that share your interests, they should be your escape; find and make more friends!
Listen to music, it helps.
Physical Exercise can be helpful for some and an 'escape', read that you're in good shape which should help!
Always try counseling, an open mind is better than a closed one. Ask for the help you need!
Read 'The Last Lecture.' It will change your life! The part about treat the disease, not the symptom is important. What causes your unhappiness? Find the root and try and fix it! Don't run away to find peace and relax yourself, bring the fight TO THE PEOPLE WHO PICK ON YOU!
And rememberTo admit defeat is to blaspheme against the Emperor.
P.S. Go to the Happy Thread. Exactly why I made it =D
OP: This is all I could get off the top of my head. Just some tips. If you want to take it on feel free but just do whatever feels best to you.
A. If someone says something negative about you, think critically about whether it is true or not. Usually it won't be true. If it isn't true, ignore it, because you are obviously in the presence of a douche-bag. Disregard the opinions of douchebags.
B. Keep telling yourself that you are awesome. Like some of the previous posters have said, get an ego, but make sure your ego can't be broken by the douchebags in A. You also (in your mind) need to divorce yourself from your actions and oust your self-doubt, while still maintaining a healthy view of what you can and can't do.
C. Control other people's image of you. Think about what you are going to say before you say it. Be charismatic even when you don't care. Even flat out lie to people if the positives for you outweigh the negatives. Remember: if you make a decision that harms other people, other people will start to think you are a douchebag and that will harm your social outlook in the long-run.
A. If someone says something negative about you, think critically about whether it is true or not. Usually it won't be true. If it isn't true, ignore it, because you are obviously in the presence of a douche-bag. Disregard the opinions of douchebags.
B. Keep telling yourself that you are awesome. Like some of the previous posters have said, get an ego, but make sure your ego can't be broken by the douchebags in A. You also (in your mind) need to divorce yourself from your actions and oust your self-doubt, while still maintaining a healthy view of what you can and can't do.
C. Control other people's image of you. Think about what you are going to say before you say it. Be charismatic even when you don't care. Even flat out lie to people if the positives for you outweigh the negatives. Remember: if you make a decision that harms other people, other people will start to think you are a douchebag and that will harm your social outlook in the long-run.
Man, we have a lot of common interests. Have you considered a job in games? Like, not just video games, but tabletop stuff?Edwardsjack said:I guess really any thing nerdy: World of Warcraft, Star Trek, soccer, video games, anime, manga, D&D, etc... Anything really with fantasy and Science Fiction.RandallJohn said:
I play defender and "back up" offence. I don't play in any real team, because they are mostly filled with my tormentors that didn't want to go the football path.RandallJohn said:What position do you play? Whatever school you pick, make sure they've got a team.Edwardsjack said:
And same here. I play defense/keeper. Maybe you could jump into some pickup games and make some friends that way. A lot of the same guys who play on teams play in pickups, but you're bound to find some cool people in there. Plus, like I said, most colleges are more mature than high schools, so hopefully there'll be a better environment to meet some people.
High school is about age 16-18, right?
Because where I live, which is in Norway, I have never seen bullying or teasing in "high school". Basically, the jerks who would bully people before (me) go to the carpenter/mechanic/sports part of our high school, while I go to what is basically just a continuation of regular school.
I also recently found out that a homophobe who went in my old class turned out to be gay. Couldn't help but grin knowingly xD
Anyway, I can't give you much advice, except to be yourself. There are surely people who share your interests and who would like to spend time with you.
Don't try to change what you can't change, if you simply can't lose weight, you can't. Being healthy is more important than being skinny, there is always someone out there who will appreciate you
Because where I live, which is in Norway, I have never seen bullying or teasing in "high school". Basically, the jerks who would bully people before (me) go to the carpenter/mechanic/sports part of our high school, while I go to what is basically just a continuation of regular school.
I also recently found out that a homophobe who went in my old class turned out to be gay. Couldn't help but grin knowingly xD
Anyway, I can't give you much advice, except to be yourself. There are surely people who share your interests and who would like to spend time with you.
Don't try to change what you can't change, if you simply can't lose weight, you can't. Being healthy is more important than being skinny, there is always someone out there who will appreciate you
No one's life is where they wish it was, even those who claim thier's is. Hell, there's a whole forum full of people just on here who I guarantee almost every single one was wishing they were somewhere else, with someone else, doing something else, was someone else. Just remember, EVERYONE has thier negatives. Just think about your positives. What you like. Who you are.
And as for bullies, thier lives are so fucked up that they have to take it out on other people. Just feel bad for them. More than likely they're in even more pain than you. Either that or they're just an asshole and thier time will come. Got to love karma.
And as for bullies, thier lives are so fucked up that they have to take it out on other people. Just feel bad for them. More than likely they're in even more pain than you. Either that or they're just an asshole and thier time will come. Got to love karma.
I had this problem too, people picking on me.
And then one day they just, STOPPED.
Maybe it's because iv'e gotten much taller than them, and it's not as easy to make fun of someone if they stare at you like you are a toddler, and have the best marks in the class, and every other male in the class is my friend except you, you tiny tiny toddler, you have no friends in this class, it is I who should be making fun of you, even the chicks are eavesdropping to hear what sarcastic comment I have to make you look even SMALLER.
(sorry, just got carried away there, i'll stop self-reflecting)
Can't you like, report the kids making fun of you?
And then one day they just, STOPPED.
Maybe it's because iv'e gotten much taller than them, and it's not as easy to make fun of someone if they stare at you like you are a toddler, and have the best marks in the class, and every other male in the class is my friend except you, you tiny tiny toddler, you have no friends in this class, it is I who should be making fun of you, even the chicks are eavesdropping to hear what sarcastic comment I have to make you look even SMALLER.
(sorry, just got carried away there, i'll stop self-reflecting)
Can't you like, report the kids making fun of you?