The Best Advice You Ever Received.
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There are things you simply have to live with but there is nothing you simply must accept.
Think before you speak.
Look at the facts. (Ironically this advice was given by a Christian trying to convert me. Divorced from the humorous origin, it is quite sound advice.)
If god exists, there's nothing you can do about it. If god does not exist, there's nothing you can do about it. Therefore, doesn't matter.
Don't exhaust yourself looking for an up side. Some situations just don't have one.
Find joy and wonder in the commonplace.
The moment you willingly surrender your last toy is the moment you become old.
Morality is fluid and subjective. Even bedrock precepts like "do not kill" are ignored when it's convenient.
It's great to have a plan, but planning doesn't lay a single brick.
Think before you speak.
Look at the facts. (Ironically this advice was given by a Christian trying to convert me. Divorced from the humorous origin, it is quite sound advice.)
If god exists, there's nothing you can do about it. If god does not exist, there's nothing you can do about it. Therefore, doesn't matter.
Don't exhaust yourself looking for an up side. Some situations just don't have one.
Find joy and wonder in the commonplace.
The moment you willingly surrender your last toy is the moment you become old.
Morality is fluid and subjective. Even bedrock precepts like "do not kill" are ignored when it's convenient.
It's great to have a plan, but planning doesn't lay a single brick.
Tough one...
Probably:
"Don't overthink this! You like her and you say she's showing signs of liking you! Just do something fun with her, and ask her out while you're both enjoying yourselves. Don't try to be all over the top romantic, just ask! You're both friends now, you've been hanging out a lot recently, and you're both getting along great. So stop self doubting and overthinking and JUST DO IT".
That helped me a lot. I was freaking out about what to do prior to asking a friend for what to do to.
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Another piece of advice I'm working on using is "When life feels impossible and you feel all negative, just think ONLY of the present moment. That will kill off your negative feelings and your ego, and make things feel a lot more possible"
Also, "Know when to fold 'em" is something I've always lived by. If I look like I'm totally screwed and I can still bail, I will bail. This makes my best friend really mad though, since he feels I give up to easily (he, in contrast, NEVER gives up. He does NOT know when to fold 'em. Although he's got enough sheer determination to make almost everything work out for him in the end)
Probably:
"Don't overthink this! You like her and you say she's showing signs of liking you! Just do something fun with her, and ask her out while you're both enjoying yourselves. Don't try to be all over the top romantic, just ask! You're both friends now, you've been hanging out a lot recently, and you're both getting along great. So stop self doubting and overthinking and JUST DO IT".
That helped me a lot. I was freaking out about what to do prior to asking a friend for what to do to.
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Another piece of advice I'm working on using is "When life feels impossible and you feel all negative, just think ONLY of the present moment. That will kill off your negative feelings and your ego, and make things feel a lot more possible"
Also, "Know when to fold 'em" is something I've always lived by. If I look like I'm totally screwed and I can still bail, I will bail. This makes my best friend really mad though, since he feels I give up to easily (he, in contrast, NEVER gives up. He does NOT know when to fold 'em. Although he's got enough sheer determination to make almost everything work out for him in the end)
"Do not be afraid of moving slowly, be only afraid of standing still"
A very close second would be this quote from Mark Twain:
"The suns and planets that form the constellations of the billion billion solar systems and go pouring, a tossing flood of shining globes, through the viewless arteries of space are the blood corpuscles in the veins of God; and the nations are the microbes that swarm and wiggle and brag in each, and to think God can tell them apart at that distance has nothing better to do than try. This--the entertainment of an eternity. Who so poor in his ambitions as to consent to be God on those terms. Blasphemy? No, it is not blasphemy. If God is as vast as that, he is above blasphemy; if He is as little as that, He is beneath it."
A very close second would be this quote from Mark Twain:
"The suns and planets that form the constellations of the billion billion solar systems and go pouring, a tossing flood of shining globes, through the viewless arteries of space are the blood corpuscles in the veins of God; and the nations are the microbes that swarm and wiggle and brag in each, and to think God can tell them apart at that distance has nothing better to do than try. This--the entertainment of an eternity. Who so poor in his ambitions as to consent to be God on those terms. Blasphemy? No, it is not blasphemy. If God is as vast as that, he is above blasphemy; if He is as little as that, He is beneath it."
Remember: those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind
Probably the single most important factor in turning me from an identity-less people-pleaser into someone who just acts like himself was hearing this line. In high school I was so worried about anyone disliking me that I acted how others wanted me to. Once I got into the mindset of the above quote my social circle shrank, but I had way more self-confidence and felt like I finally had friends I could open up to.
If someone offers to help you, take the damn help. Don't feel guilty, if they didn't want to help you they wouldn't offer.
Weirdly enough, some dude at a car show told me this. It might seem obvious, but I needed to open my eyes to the fact that if somebody tries to give you assistance it's because they feel whatever it is they're giving up is worth giving up given the circumstances.
Follow up a week later after you send in a resume.
Sometimes it really helps when your dad is responsible for hiring people. He's given me tons of useful info about job hunting but this is by far the most useful. Following up on a resume shows you're eager to get the job and sets you apart from the numerous other applicants. It's especially useful when applying for a first job, or if your resume is a tad sparse.
Don't ever tell a girl she looks tired.
One of many pearls of female-related wisdom I've learned at work. Being one of only two guys in a 20-person crew can come in handy occasionally.
Do a barrel roll!
Thanks, Slippy. Without your advice I never would have gotten through Starfox 64.
Probably the single most important factor in turning me from an identity-less people-pleaser into someone who just acts like himself was hearing this line. In high school I was so worried about anyone disliking me that I acted how others wanted me to. Once I got into the mindset of the above quote my social circle shrank, but I had way more self-confidence and felt like I finally had friends I could open up to.
If someone offers to help you, take the damn help. Don't feel guilty, if they didn't want to help you they wouldn't offer.
Weirdly enough, some dude at a car show told me this. It might seem obvious, but I needed to open my eyes to the fact that if somebody tries to give you assistance it's because they feel whatever it is they're giving up is worth giving up given the circumstances.
Follow up a week later after you send in a resume.
Sometimes it really helps when your dad is responsible for hiring people. He's given me tons of useful info about job hunting but this is by far the most useful. Following up on a resume shows you're eager to get the job and sets you apart from the numerous other applicants. It's especially useful when applying for a first job, or if your resume is a tad sparse.
Don't ever tell a girl she looks tired.
One of many pearls of female-related wisdom I've learned at work. Being one of only two guys in a 20-person crew can come in handy occasionally.
Do a barrel roll!
Thanks, Slippy. Without your advice I never would have gotten through Starfox 64.
"What fear of death have we, who know there is imortality in the great and noble deeds of men"
It was in a Warhammer 40k rulebook. Since reading it, I know longer fear death in any dangerous situation and am at peace knowing I am ok to give my life for a noble and great purpose.
It's not first on my list mind you. I much prefer to live.
It was in a Warhammer 40k rulebook. Since reading it, I know longer fear death in any dangerous situation and am at peace knowing I am ok to give my life for a noble and great purpose.
It's not first on my list mind you. I much prefer to live.
"Stop. Take a few steps back and look at where you are and what you are doing."
This is immense when you are a bit out of sorts on alcohol or other mind changing drugs.
"Don't let anyone stand over you. It doesn't matter who is right or wrong, just don't let them make you feel like nothing."
This is immense when you are a bit out of sorts on alcohol or other mind changing drugs.
"Don't let anyone stand over you. It doesn't matter who is right or wrong, just don't let them make you feel like nothing."
"We all must choose between what is right, and what is easy."
That was the seed of an idea that saved my life from dwindling to nothing. Thanks Dumbledore.
"When people are angry it's usually because they're afraid. If you respond to anger with aggression you won't get anywhere. If a person is angry, you need to understand what they are afraid of and what they want in order to reach a solution."
Or something to that effect, words that I'm trying to take to heart with mixed success.
"Don't take x credits." where x is the maximum credits one can take during a term in graduate school. Seriously. Don't.
That was the seed of an idea that saved my life from dwindling to nothing. Thanks Dumbledore.
"When people are angry it's usually because they're afraid. If you respond to anger with aggression you won't get anywhere. If a person is angry, you need to understand what they are afraid of and what they want in order to reach a solution."
Or something to that effect, words that I'm trying to take to heart with mixed success.
"Don't take x credits." where x is the maximum credits one can take during a term in graduate school. Seriously. Don't.
Take chances.
My sister-in-law said that when she worked with the elderly the one thing they most spoke about regretting were the chances they never took in life. It's hard to be fearless, it's harder to accept fear and push back anyway.
Next time, ask her (or him) out. Better to have tried and failed, than to have never tried.
My sister-in-law said that when she worked with the elderly the one thing they most spoke about regretting were the chances they never took in life. It's hard to be fearless, it's harder to accept fear and push back anyway.
Next time, ask her (or him) out. Better to have tried and failed, than to have never tried.
Bluntly said it was "Stop giving a fuck what people think of you." And it's so true; if you go through life wondering what people think of you all the time then you'll never be happy or do anything because someone somewhere will disapprove of what you're doing, so you just got to let go and say "I don't give a fuck what you think," and then live your life how you want to do it, and as long as you're not hurting anyone else why should they care?