The death of a bully

[Sunrider]

If that happened to me, I'd drink to the occasion.
Call me a bastard or anything like that, but fuck it. I'm pretty sure he deserved it, and to hell with him, and people alike.

 

[Denamic]

you honestly felt nothing for him dieing? it might just be me cause i hate death in general, and i get why you wouldn't be extermely upset by him passing, but i would of thought you'd feel even the slightest bit saddened by it.

Same thing happened to me a few months back.
An asshole bully from my school died in a reckless driving accident, and I felt absolutely nothing.
I was completely indifferent.
No joy because he died, and no sadness.
I wasn't even shocked.
Just... meh.

It'd be different if he had killed a bystander because of his recklessness.
Then I'd be fucking pissed at him.

It's really not that strange.
Actually, I'd find it strange if you'd actually care for people who've done nothing but antagonize you or your friends.

 

[xDarc]

Hi, Escapist.

I just found out not 10 minutes ago, that apparently my very own, personal high school bully, was shot and killed a few days ago. This is a guy, that most of us saw as highly unlikeable, and he continued to make my life hell ages after we both graduated.

It's funny, I have a similar story.

Basically mine involved a family of bullies. Three brothers. Within a few years after graduation, the two oldest had been killed. One in the wreck, the other with drugs. I ran into the third at community college and boy, did he ever carry himself differently.

Even came up and apologized to me for everything and chatted me up.

When I heard his brothers had died I didn't feel sad either. Felt kind of amused to be honest, like a "told ya so" kinda moment. After seeing the youngest one all tore up though, I felt sorry him.

P.S.

There are lots of dead, maimed and presently fucked bullies in this thread. I find that kind of poetic.

 

[kiwi_poo]

He was horrible to you and he doesn't deserve feeling nor thought from you

 

[Magnalian]

I think I'd feel the same way if one of my old bullies died, there's nothing wrong with that. This guy gave you with no respect, so why should you give that to him now?

No you aren't wrong for not feeling anything. That is a normal reaction. If you were celebrating and dancing in the streets I might be concerned, but to simply not feel anything concerning the death of this person is quite acceptable in my view.

So pretty much this.

 

[Deadlock Radium]

If someone who'd made my life a living hell died, I'd react like this:

Nope, you're not horrible. You hated him, it's perfectly natural. I mean, you had nothing to lose from his passing. If the people who bullied me in secondary school died in horrible ways, I wouldn't care. Hell, I might even laugh.

And then maybe even added: "Karma's a *****, eh?"
And I also agree with good Mr. Furburt here.

 

[Sir-jackington]

Completely normal not to care i mean if he wasnt i nice guy why should you, if you did go to the funeral then it would be pretty much the same as attending the funeral as someone you never met

 

[Kyuubi Fanatic]

You're normal. My own bullies are still alive and kicking but when my asshole of a stepdad finally died from cancer, I sure as hell celebrated. (Think what you will, but you didn't know the man.) Feeling nothing is just fine, I never liked how when people die there's like some need to say good things about them or make up bullshit character traits for their funeral. If someone dies a dick, call them a dick. If they were a horrible, horrible person, spit on their grave. Don't try to arbitrarily make them saints.

And as a note for the inevitable bile this sentiment will receive, I am referring in my sentiment to a horrible man who deeply hurt a close friend of mine. He was a pedophile and physically abusive and scarred her for years, yet when he passed no one had a single negative thing to say, and my friend was too scarred by this guy to even go to and speak up at his funeral. May the douche burn in hell.

 

[Glademaster_v1legacy]

No you shouldn't feel wierded out by not feeling empathy for him. In fact although it has not happened to my knowledge I doubt I'd feel anything if the people who bullied me were shot dead.

 

[Soxafloppin]

As long as you keep those thoughts in your head! No one will ever know!

And if no one knows, your not a bad person!

 

[Sjakie]

One of my bullies died also a few years ago from sudden heartfailure. (most likely drugs)

I danced the jig on his grave (no, i did not wreck anything) a few weeks after he was burried.

It was fun, i spoke the gravekeeper a few days later and he said that the grave was wrecked a few times before allready. I think that says enough about him.

 

[_Cake_]

Buy the end of high school your personality is pretty much done. Sounds like he was gonna be a jerk forever. Did he deserve to die for it? It doesn't really matter now does it. You didn't kill him. You don't have to feel anything. No one can tell you how to feel. Just act respectful of death, not for him but for any one who may have cared for him.

 

[Cid Silverwing]

The fucker had it coming. No one deserves to be trolled in this manner, and those who do troll do not deserve the gift of living.

 

[DoctorObviously]

Damn, I wish I was as lucky as the OP. I've been bullied all my life. I'd just burst out in a dance and help the gravediggers bury his body while "We are Family" is on. If this sounds cruel, don't forget that he deserves nothing else than just that.

 

[oppp7]

Nah, it's ok to be glad if someone dies. I mean, you shouldn't wish someone was dead or try to get them killed, but you just had a natural reaction.

I mean, look at me. If my COUSIN who I used to love hanging out with killed himself tomorrow I'd be glad because I'd be able to say I know 2 an heroes without having to lose someone I cared about.

 

[Icecoldcynic]

Hmm the last person to make a topic almost exactly like this got permabanned (I remember because I liked that person). Just mentioning it.

 

[Soushi]

Hi, Escapist.

What do you guys think? Am I a horrible human being, for feeling so indifferent to his death?
And what about you guys? I think most of us has had our very own bully, and some of us might not even be rid of them yet. How are you supposed to react, and how would you react?

You didn't kill him, so there is no huge obligation to feel anything. If you don't feel anything, that is a function of the little chemicals in your brain, not you as a person. YOu haven't convinced yourself that you don't care, you didn't cheer at his death, you just can't summon any good thoughts about this guy, not too surprising considering what he did. Trust me, even just worrying about the ramifications of your feelings makes you better than a lot of evil people out there. DOn't beat yourself up becasue of this, it simply isn't worth it. Bullies are teh worst parts of humanity, and while i don't appluad murder in any form, i won't shed a tear for any of them, and niether should you if you simply can't, it isn't worth the effort or the water.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I think your reaction is normal. If it was me, I would regret the fact he passed away before he could turn his life around but if you have no positive memories whatsoever about him, it is hard to... well, care. Just don't be to happy about it as murder is not something one should get happy about.