The death of a bully

[cefm]

Your classmates aren't sad either - they're just concerned about their own mortality and this is an uncomfortable reminder. Also they think they're supposed to say the things they're saying.

 

[CrazyGirl17]

If he deserved it... then no.

 

[Nicolefranklin]

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Ask yourself this, would that bully shed a tear for you if you died instead of him?

Very nice point..

Hmm the last person to make a topic almost exactly like this got permabanned (I remember because I liked that person). Just mentioning it.

Really? How come? If it's okay for me to ask..
I mean, it's not like I, or anyone else is celebrating, happy, or approving of the situation, quite the opposite really?

 

[Iron Mal]

People have this strange habit of showing unconditional respect and admiration for someone after they die (even if the person was a complete and utter prick and even if they didn't really know the person in question).

'He was an inspiration to many, a talented painter and author and he loved animals, today we are here to pay our respects to Mr. Adolf Hitler', anyone can sound good at their funeral because this is the point behind it, for friends and family to remember a person that they loved and admired.

If you're not on the list of 'friends, family and other admirers' then don't feel too bad about the fact that their death doesn't bother you, if you didn't like someone in life then why should their death suddenly make you think of them as a saint?

 

[DarkSpectre]

I would not be sad that a terrible person was no longer free to inflict pain. I would on the other hand be sad that he was a terrible person. That such people exist is a sad commentary on the human condition.

 

[Tetranitrophenol]

Being Puertorican and thus used to see people getting killed by dozens around here on a daily basis, Id say its OK to not feel nothing. You didn't liked the guy, he gets killed...good then, no more annoyance. You might have known him personally but you didn't had any affection towards him whatsoever, so its only natural you are not moved by this incident.

 

[princessjealousy]

I dont think death should change your opinion of a person at all. When I die I hope that all the people that hate me get together and talk about how much of a ***** I was!

 

[Icecoldcynic]

Hmm the last person to make a topic almost exactly like this got permabanned (I remember because I liked that person). Just mentioning it.

Really? How come? If it's okay for me to ask..
I mean, it's not like I, or anyone else is celebrating, happy, or approving of the situation, quite the opposite really?

I think it was more the way they presented it. They were questioning why people cried when someone they hated died, and I suppose their posts were seen as insensitive. Personally I don't think it deserved a ban, but that's just me. I know you haven't said anything ban-worthy, so you needn't worry.

 

[not_the_dm]

You're not horrible for not feeling anything.

[sub][sub]You're horrible for killing him![/sub][/sub]

Agreed. You'd only be horrible if you felt malicious joy in his death. Not being sad makes you human.

 

[Tetranitrophenol]

Being Puertorican and thus used to see people getting killed by dozens around here on a daily basis, Id say its OK to not feel nothing. You didn't liked the guy, he gets killed...good then, no more annoyance. You might have known him personally but you didn't had any affection towards him whatsoever, so its only natural you are not moved by this incident.

what the hell does being puerto rican have to do with death alot of my friends are puerto rican and they didnt see people killed on a regular basis.

umm...all Im saying is that I hear of people getting killed on the news every day and you dont see me crying myself to sleep because of it. That dosen't make me a monster and obviously our friend with the dead bully here isn't a monster ether if he dosen't give 2 cents about it.

Off note: Id like to meet your Puertorican friends, sounds to me like they don't watch the News too often LOL

 

[Mammon]

I've never been bullied, so I guess I couldn't say. What I do know, is that it's hard to develop sadness to people who you don't originally care for. I've experienced situations were friends of friends have commited suicide or died, which leaves me trying to cheer up my friends. Although I feel nothing for the ones who's passed, I feel the direct ramifications of that persons passing from my friends. If you would go to the funural, I am sure you would feel sad. Not by his passing, but what he ment for his family and friends.

 

[kickyourass]

Nah you're not horrible for feeling indifference (If you felt joy, that's a different story). He made your life a living hell, and now you found out that he can't do it to any one else, I wouldn't be sad if someone like that from my life died.

 

[Klarinette]

When I say that I felt nothing, I truly mean nothing.
I'm not happy by this, either. It's just a huge truckload of nothing. I never wished him, or anyone else from that place dead, and I'm not about to go gravedancing.

Haha, that's pretty much the one thing I was going to point out: as long as you're not dancing on his grave and cheering his hearse down the street, you're fine.

 

[dontcallmemuffin]

these things probably happen to alot of people, people die, its unfortunate if someone you like or dont know dies but guys like them, arent really missed much, you can respect them in death but you cant really change the way you feel about them just because they died. even if you want to.

 

[AbsoluteVirtue18]

If he wanted to be remembered fondly in death, he shouldn't have been a tool in life. I'd be more disappointed if you had been saddened. That's just me, though.

 

[Hyper-space]

Hi, Escapist.

I just found out not 10 minutes ago, that apparently my very own, personal high school bully, was shot and killed a few days ago. This is a guy, that most of us saw as highly unlikeable, and he continued to make my life hell ages after we both graduated.
I honestly believe, that if I met him on the street today, I would hear the same taunts from him, as five years ago. At least that was honestly the case when I saw him last. And that's not that long ago.

Most of my old classmates has shown sadness by his passing. Some are even attending the funeral. None of us really liked him, yet, I suppose it's common decency, and instinct, to be sad in a situation like this. Or, is it?

Am I wrong, for not feeling anything? Even now, I can't produce a single positive thought on the guy. I'm a bit shocked, yes, but that's mostly in regards to a murder occuring in my little town.

What do you guys think? Am I a horrible human being, for feeling so indifferent to his death?
And what about you guys? I think most of us has had our very own bully, and some of us might not even be rid of them yet. How are you supposed to react, and how would you react?



NOTE: I'm sorry for the lack of big, existential discussion value here, but I know that if I do tell someone at home, just how I feel (or don't feel), I will get that "horrible person" reaction.

one less dick in the world.

he had no reason to bully you and make your life miserable, fuck that guy.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

Its funny for me because the bullies in my life I have actually become good friends with

 

[Loves2spooge]

If someone you know hasn't impacted your life in a positive way, why should you care about their passing? Compassion should be reserved for those who deserve it; leave the mourning to his loved ones.