The Friend Zone

[therookie95]

Once upon a time, I had a total hottie in the friend zone even though she didn't want to be and I didn't want her to be either.
I was just to dumb to ask her out.

Oddly enough you just about descibed the siduation I am currently in, yet I haven't asked her out though.

Edit: Oh and I forgot I already told her that I like one of her friends

 

[Acier]

I hate the whole friendzone mindset.

When did having a girl not like you have to be rationalized by something so silly?

 

[chromewarriorXIII]

Now she's engaged to a guy who was recently deployed to Afghanistan and I'm regretting not doing something.

If you're a terrible person you could hope the Taliban solve your problem.

I could... I could...

But seriously, I'm not THAT terrible of a person. It was bad enough having to hold her while she was in tears when he left. I can't imagine what it was be like if that happened.

Start insisting she set you up with her friends instead.

As nice as that would be, the problem with her friends is that I'm either really good friends with them, hate them, or have absolutely no interest in meeting them based off of what she has told me about them.

But whatever, there's plenty of fish in the sea, as they say.

 

[Lyri]

Once upon a time, I had a total hottie in the friend zone even though she didn't want to be and I didn't want her to be either.
I was just to dumb to ask her out.

Oddly enough you just about descibed the siduation I am currently in, yet I haven't asked her out though.

Edit: Oh and I forgot I already told her that I like one of her friends

DO.IT.

I regret that decision, never knowing is the worst fucking thing ever.
Ask, now and let me know how it goes.

I will relive my past through you!
GO FORTH!

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

But whatever, there's plenty of fish in the sea, as they say.

Which is fine if you're into rooting fish...

 

[MBurner 93]

Once upon a time, I had a total hottie in the friend zone even though she didn't want to be and I didn't want her to be either.
I was just to dumb to ask her out.

Oddly enough you just about descibed the siduation I am currently in, yet I haven't asked her out though.

Edit: Oh and I forgot I already told her that I like one of her friends

DO.IT.

I regret that decision, never knowing is the worst fucking thing ever.
Ask, now and let me know how it goes.

I will relive my past through you!
GO FORTH!

That is exactly how I felt about this one girl for a little over a year. Just kept telling myself not knowing was the worst. Of course, I got the, "Oh. You mean...like...friends?" Managed to turn it into that, but its still an awkward situation. Damn friend zone. Although, it may just be because shes into these guys like 4 years older than her.

 

[Mr Montmorency]

I suppose I could share my story; however, I don't think anyone wants to read approximately 25 pages of text detailing my depressing failure in my one and only attempt at telling a woman how I felt and how I still feel about her.
(And yes, pathetically enough, I actually do have a written account on hand.)

I never would have made this topic if I didn't have too much time on my hands.

 

[Brad Shepard]

Never really been in the friend zone, because the girls i like, they like me back.

Plus, ive only been in 2 real relactionships, one lasting 2 years, and my current one (Which i would like to last forever to tell the truth) Is almost at a year in a half.

Im 20 BTW.

 

[William Dickbringer]

oh god I'm in one right now it sucks I swear I found the girl of my dreams but she is in a serious relationship with a guy from a different school (I met him once he seems like a cool guy but I just can't be friends with him for the reason I met after I met her) I wish they would break up but at the same time I don't because they seem happy and she always says that he dosn't need her and she says that girls flirt with him IN FRONT OF HER TOO and since it's kinda serious she would be devastated and I would want that

god I think I went a little too detailed

 

[Meemaimoh]

The sucky part is that the friend zone is basically just a poor excuse for girls to say "I like you as a person, but I wouldn't ever want to have sex with you." Not that all want is sex, but it sucks essentially being told that your genes won't cut it.

This is exactly right. The friend zone isn't some mystical thing that all guys are susceptible to if they don't move fast enough. That's a misinterpretation of the pattern. If a woman says she just wants to be friends with you, she just isn't attracted to you. Move on if you can't stand just being friends, because it's unlikely to ever change.

 

[Mr Montmorency]

The sucky part is that the friend zone is basically just a poor excuse for girls to say "I like you as a person, but I wouldn't ever want to have sex with you." Not that all want is sex, but it sucks essentially being told that your genes won't cut it.

This is exactly right. The friend zone isn't some mystical thing that all guys are susceptible to if they don't move fast enough. That's a misinterpretation of the pattern. If a woman says she just wants to be friends with you, she just isn't attracted to you. Move on if you can't stand just being friends, because it's unlikely to ever change.

I'd attribute this to a lack of confidence. The shy nature of the guys that get this problem is basically what seems to turn girls off. Any ugly fuck can get laid. They just have to be a loudmouth.

 

[Nouw]

Oh I see, well I'm trying to stop myself from sliding into the Friend Zone right now

 

[Meemaimoh]

The sucky part is that the friend zone is basically just a poor excuse for girls to say "I like you as a person, but I wouldn't ever want to have sex with you." Not that all want is sex, but it sucks essentially being told that your genes won't cut it.

This is exactly right. The friend zone isn't some mystical thing that all guys are susceptible to if they don't move fast enough. That's a misinterpretation of the pattern. If a woman says she just wants to be friends with you, she just isn't attracted to you. Move on if you can't stand just being friends, because it's unlikely to ever change.

I'd attribute this to a lack of confidence. The shy nature of the guys that get this problem is basically what seems to turn girls off. Any ugly fuck can get laid. They just have to be a loudmouth.

Oh, absolutely. That's why guys think that time = failure; less confidence is unattractive. You don't have to be loud and arrogant to be confident - in fact, for most girls it's a turnoff - but when the choice is between that and a complete lack of self-esteem, a girl will almost always choose the dickhead.

Shyness is even all right. What's not all right is being convinced you're not worthy of the girl. It's obvious.

Still, it's not the only reason for the friend zone. I've personally relegated a few guys there on the basis of their physical appearance. Does that make me a bad person? I don't believe so. Better to be in a relationship on honest terms than dishonest ones for the sake of "being deep".

 

[Marble Dragon]

I hate the whole friendzone mindset.

When did having a girl not like you have to be rationalized by something so silly?

I agree completely.

I have a great explanation for the term 'friend zone.' It requires two main criteria:
1. Girl is friends with you.
2. Girl does not like you.
Therefore, we can remove this silly term and instead use: "I like a girl, and talk to her as a friend, but she doesn't like me." Making up bullshit science to explain these things can't make girls less complicated, can it? Why not explain these things using terms that you can relate to?

 

[JJMUG]

But whatever, there's plenty of fish in the sea, as they say.

Not if your stuck on a boat in the middle of a desert.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

Why is it that they always say "I don't want to ruin our friendship"?

Why would it? If you were such good friends with me to put me in the friend zone, then surely, if we had a relationship, it wouldn't matter if it didn't work out because you can just be friends again?

It sounds like a shitty excuse to me.

I'm going to be honest, that excuse is not entirely bullshit. I don't think it is possible to be true friends after a serious relationship. It just isn't. Sure, you can say that "we'll be friends!", but what everyone means is "We will be friendly and polite to each other, and of course I will wish you well in life".

I'll agree with this. I can't think of a single guy I've ever dated who I was able to be friends with after our relationship ended. (Or the girls, come to think of it. The girls are worse.)

I've FriendZoned a bunch of guys, and been FriendZoned myself. It sucks, but if your friendship really is good, then you should keep it that way. Getting into another level of relationship if you're good pals is asking for trouble.

(Course, I'm not one to talk. Current bf is a friend who became more, but I was looking at him as a potential boyfriend after our first conversation, so I guess there wasn't room for the FZ to develop for us.)

 

[Sporky111]

I see the friend-zone as "the place where I'm in with all the girls I know". It's not that I've been trying to date them for a long time, but if I ever were to start considering a real relationship I'd be out of luck.

*sigh*

 

[Mr Montmorency]

I suppose I could share my story; however, I don't think anyone wants to read approximately 25 pages of text detailing my depressing failure in my one and only attempt at telling a woman how I felt and how I still feel about her.
(And yes, pathetically enough, I actually do have a written account on hand.)

I never would have made this topic if I didn't have too much time on my hands.

snip

So, there that is the abridged version of my story; you were warned.

Abridged?! Gimme the whole damned thing.