The girl you like is going out with someone better

[SckizoBoy]

Then become better and win her back, come on, what sort of man are ya!?

Until I read this, I wasn't going to bother posting... but damn, everyone should read that!

OT: No, as far as I'm aware. I don't currently like anyone, except one girl, but my chances of getting back together with her are presently slim, even though we're both single.

 

[Ghengis John]

Im not going to put up a poll. I want to see reactions rather than just yes/no. have you ever experienced this?

I have encountered this and what I can tell you is this: I hope you just walk away with a lesson for next time.

 

[Spade Lead]

Someone better than me? I would like to meet the man so I can ruin him, thereby proving he wasn't as good as me. I left my ex-fiancee because she was crazy, and she has been practically stalking me ever since. She still thinks I am the best she has ever had. My girlfriend constantly tells me how I am the greatest thing to happen to her and her kids. I am God's gift to every woman I have ever been with, and those few who haven't realized that are not my problem. Fuck them, I am better off without them.

And you should feel the same way too. (Granted, I have proof of this, but hey, you have to start small, and even if just feeling that way is all you have, so be it.)

 

[Officer Crayon]

A girl that i really liked, is going out with someone out as of now. I was going to ask her about a month ago if she wanted to go out, but i was very hesitant. I knew that she liked one of my other friends. I also thought that she would be better with him than with me.
Im not going to put up a poll. I want to see reactions rather than just yes/no. have you ever experienced this?

How is he better than you? Like, in what ways? Because to me it just sounds like you're feeling sorry for yourself and that's not attractive in any way.

You should tell the girl that you're upset he beat you to it, but you're happy for her. Don't try to "win" her or anything. It's most likely just going to get your head smashed in from her boyfriend. Let her come to you.

No one is better than you in any situation. Self-esteem is built on inflated ego, whether it's worthy or not. Never let anyone tell you different.

Im very confident in myself,but when you see her speaking so highly of another guy, and they seem to have more fun together, they seem to be better for each other. i do agree that being down on yourself is unnatractive. thats actually one of the downsides to the girl i liked. so damn down on herself.

 

[StBishop]

This hasn't happened to me. I tend to be a dick and I genuinely believe I'm better than most people, even though I'm a dick.

I have however been in a situation where I liked a girl who was dating a guy who I thought was a pretty cool guy that deserved better than to have me fuck with his life, so I left it alone.
This was in high school, so they broke up within the year.

No biggy.

But I've certainly had a number of experiences where the girl who I liked didn't think I was that great of a guy/wasn't interested, and they subsequently dated a different dude.

PS. There's no one inherently better than you. You're as worthy of her love as anyone else. You need to understand this first so that you can help her to understand this.

 

[Radelaide]

A girl that i really liked, is going out with someone out as of now. I was going to ask her about a month ago if she wanted to go out, but i was very hesitant. I knew that she liked one of my other friends. I also thought that she would be better with him than with me.
Im not going to put up a poll. I want to see reactions rather than just yes/no. have you ever experienced this?

How is he better than you? Like, in what ways? Because to me it just sounds like you're feeling sorry for yourself and that's not attractive in any way.

You should tell the girl that you're upset he beat you to it, but you're happy for her. Don't try to "win" her or anything. It's most likely just going to get your head smashed in from her boyfriend. Let her come to you.

No one is better than you in any situation. Self-esteem is built on inflated ego, whether it's worthy or not. Never let anyone tell you different.

Im very confident in myself,but when you see her speaking so highly of another guy, and they seem to have more fun together, they seem to be better for each other. i do agree that being down on yourself is unnatractive. thats actually one of the downsides to the girl i liked. so damn down on herself.

New relationships are like that. If she's happier with him, then just be happy for her.

 

[CManator]

While I like to tell myself that nobody is a better catch than me, if she seems happy and they are compatible, I won't interfere.

No, what gets under my skin is when she is clearly in a bad relationship with someone who treats her like shit, she even knows it, and still refuses to break up with him. What's worse, I can't do anything about it or I'll end up in jail with no guarantee she'd wait for me. So I have to just let it go and hope she doesn't end up in the hospital.

I find it's best to only be attracted to single women. Much less internal drama.

 

[Broady Brio]

I have experienced this.

Yeah liked this girl I met at a party, was gonna meet up the week after, but I had to go holiday with the family for 3 weeks to Malaysia, pretty much the other side of the world.

When I got back, I checked Facebook.
[HEADING=1]FIRST THING[/HEADING]And I do mean the first thing I see, is the girl now in a relationship with someone else.

It felt bad inside, seeing as she didn't talk to me on chat when I got back. Never understood that, I moved on from trying to talk to her.

 

[Everin]

Ok I only just registered to answer this thread. Listen and listen carefully. No one is better than you, just different. You are going to waste a lot of your life worrying about judging yourself and others if you think like that. If you had asked and she had said no then you look for the next girl, her loss. Seriously too many regrets and over thinking is going to haunt you for the rest of your life.

You... I tip my hat to you. Im glad someone said this.

Oh, and welcome to the Escapist. We have a buffet out the back, if you care to join us

 

[.No.]

In the start of this Summer, I went on a trip to Australia with a group of people. There was thirty people around my age, and four group leaders(not my age). I started liking one of the people on the trip. I'm not actually sure now, but at the time I thought that we were intrested in each other. We started talking abit, because we were both friends with Sparkles (his nickname). I started to suspect that Sparkles like her, and confronted him about it. He said he did, but said that he was debating between her and another girl, and would go for the other girl. That incident greatly improved my friendship with Sparkles. The next day, I decided to sit next to her on the bus. She borrowed my friend's phone, and called her boyfriend. She started crying and talking about how much she missed him. She later was saying that it was ridiculous that she cried though. The feeling I got was one that made me feel like laughing and being sad at the same time. We actually became much better friends after that.

 

[Denamic]

Someone better?
Bullshit.
Go woo her.
Do it.

 

[benwins]

I have experienced this several times, all with the same girl. I wouldn't say they were better than me now but it felt like that at the time.
It took me a few years to actually make a move but we've now been together 5 years or so, live together, are engaged and our second child is on the way.

So it worked out in the end. ^__^

 

[Whateveralot]

I havn't, but reading this made me feel sick. You're better off without her, man.

 

[Agarth]

You knew she liked one of your friends? NO EXCESSES!!! But in all seriousness, I'm reserving that emotion you call "love" for the right person. I can grantee that the moment that I admit to myself that I love someone I'm going to here that she's already dating someone else... That's just the way the realms work...

 

[HardkorSB]

A girl that i really liked, is going out with someone out as of now. I was going to ask her about a month ago if she wanted to go out, but i was very hesitant. I knew that she liked one of my other friends. I also thought that she would be better with him than with me.
Im not going to put up a poll. I want to see reactions rather than just yes/no. have you ever experienced this?

That has never happened to me because I'm the best.

 

[Chrishu]

Simple simple simple solution here, gents. Be the best man you can be, and then believe it! Women love confidence. This is from the man who Plays jrpgs every day and still can't keep his phone quiet for a day.

 

[Griffolion]

I don't believe in being 'better', two people may be better suited together, but never better. That's just an immature term used by hipsters and vegans because they're all just angry people.

Though in British society it seems these days if you're not in a band, a photographer, graphic designer, a model then you are some sort of social failure. But you can redeem yourself if you buy a Mac, of course.

I do feel for people who think they aren't good enough or that other people are better, because it's hard to break out of that cycle of low self esteem. I would suggest maybe trying to seek validation and be happy in yourself before going out into the world of relationships, because fragile ego's don't last long in there.

 

[silent_noir_67]

this could be because if I find out/notice a girl has a boyfriend, I'm no longer interested. I never want to steal someone's girl away. Also, to be honest, I'm pretty selective about my girls, and I don't fancy that many. There's always a few who catch my attention though.

Girls are so nice.

These are my sentiments exactly

I avoid girls with boyfriends...It's just looking for trouble and drama that I really can't give two shits about.

OT I never really have had this happen to me. My ex I still kinda like but she's not with anybody right now and I just hope that he better be kickass cuz she's awesome.

Girls are so nice

 

[Febel]

*SIGH* I know that feel bro. I'm kind of a cold hearted prick (with a soft lovable center, but mostly a prick). Back in High school there was a girl that I liked, great chemistry between us but I knew I wouldn't be as good to her as I thought I should be. She ended up going out with a acquinatance of mine, they're getting married soon. I'm happy that she's happy but it...hurts, y'know?