The girl you like is going out with someone better

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Adremmalech

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Fuck that. If she's not with you, it's because she can't handle you. Either that or you've never made a move because you're a pussy.

First move:
Don't ask her out on a date-date. Let her know you're doing something awesome with a bunch of people and it'd be cool if she was there.

Or go for something she's likely never done before. Invite her to a firing range. Best first date I ever had.
I'm going horse-back riding with that same girl this weekend.

BY THE WAY:
If you ask her out to whatever and she says no, with a lame or even a genuine excuse, LEAVE HER ALONE FOR AT LEAST A MONTH. If she makes no contact with you, fuck it. Move on.
If she says she's busy and she counters with a "maybe next weekend", then she's into you, but take it slow. Don't say yes. Say "yeah, nothing's planned yet. I'll let you know."
 

Tdc2182

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Haha, twice actually, with the same girl.

It wasn't that they were better than me, more so that they were more popular. One was a straight up douchebag in every sense of the word.

I ended up getting her, and then I realized she was rather stuck up.
 

Mikeyfell

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The girl I like is going out with someone better than me?
Yup that's happened. I mean that better person was another girl so even if I was the cat's pajamas I still wouldn't stand much of a chance with her.
 

Officer Crayon

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Denamic said:
Someone better?
Bullshit.
Go woo her.
Do it.
OT: woo may be my favorite relationship word. used best in episode of modern family where dad says ''buckle yourself in, you're about to gett woo'ed''
 

Officer Crayon

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Griffolion said:
I don't believe in being 'better', two people may be better suited together, but never better. That's just an immature term used by hipsters and vegans because they're all just angry people.

Though in British society it seems these days if you're not in a band, a photographer, graphic designer, a model then you are some sort of social failure. But you can redeem yourself if you buy a Mac, of course.

I do feel for people who think they aren't good enough or that other people are better, because it's hard to break out of that cycle of low self esteem. I would suggest maybe trying to seek validation and be happy in yourself before going out into the world of relationships, because fragile ego's don't last long in there.
i gotta say, your feedback is the best. it was good, and some parts legitimately were funny and made me laugh
 

TheComfyChair

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I haven't, but i get the distinct feeling (well, i knew) that there were one or two in your position when i got together with my current girlfriend (together nearly 5 years, engaged ect.), and i kind of felt bad for them (because they are nice people who do deserve to be happy, it just wasn't going to happen with me) :/

But no, i wouldn't say one person is better than another unless you take extremes, i'm definitely better in every way than a drug dealing chav who beats up grannies, but me versus another random well meaning person? there's no 'better' in that case.
 

loc978

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Eh, happens. "Better than you" is a hard thing to quantify... but if you feel that way, the best thing to do is stop fixating on her. Find another. 'Course, I couldn't tell you how to stop fixating... it's always just been easy for me.
 

BreakfastMan

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Yes, I have experienced this, and, sadly enough for me, she really liked the guy. The interesting thing was, I was not sad about this development. As long as she was happy, I was happy. I haven't seen her in years, but I hope she and her boyfriend are doing well.
 

wax88

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OK a couple of times.

But here's the thing, just because you think he's better doesn't make it so. what do i mean. I can see that you, like many, have an inferiority complex. There are some who appear to be untouchable even, everyone singing praises for him at every turn, but when you know the person a bit more, then you realize that he's nothing much really (IE, all fluff and no substance)

So, A, you cant say he's better necessarily. What you must understand is you are different, not inferior. You have to find your niche, understand what your strengths are and understand that there are areas that you can do better than him. No one is perfect they say, and everyone has their unique strengths. Understand this, and you'll get a better sense of self-respect and confidence. Now confidence is important, because you can be a real nice guy for anyone cares, but without confidence, you wont be able to leave a good first impression on say a girl you like, and without that the nice-guy part cannot be expressed. So, 1st tip for you. Be confident about yourself. the reason why they say " girls fall for the bad guys" is very very simple. As an analogy, these guys choose to spend all their time and effort boosting their confidence-albeit in ways that are not what you might say, ethical,-instead of developing their character(IE, being a nice person). because they have the confidence to do things, and to chase after the girls they want. No girl wants to be be with someone who cant even believe in himself. trust me. In you have confidence and at the and can be the nice guy, "a winner is you" as they say.

But in any case. I'll say this. If she's already given her heart to him(IE officially decided to go out with him), then move on dude. there's a saying in Chinese i believe," there are always other trees in the forest" i mean, so what if it doesn't work between the both of you, it's not the end of the world. There's always a better one around the corner. I understand that the situation sucks, but the healthy thing to do is to pick yourself up, get yourself together and become a better person. Learn something new, pick up a new skill, learning an instrument for example. Improve yourself, make yourself more attractive in the process. Learn to get a healthy ego, and be self-confident(but don't be a cocky prick). Try to mingle more with girls, possibly make a few platonic female friends. Heck, there is a chance that one of them may catch your fancy in the future or the other way. who knows.(although, there is the issue of "the friend zone" for which i shall not talk about here). That way, you become more comfortable in talking to them.

However, if she's yet to be attached to him, then i say by all means go for it. All is fair in love and war they say. Seize the initiative and go up to her. life is too short to sit around and do nothing. that was one of my mistakes in the past. I was faced with exactly the same situation and i stood there and did absolutely nothing, with me wondering what could have happen if i did decided to approach her then . Don't let that happen to you. Don't live in regret, and if she does reject you, big deal.

In any case im rooting for you. Do update us as to the progress.
 

Griffolion

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Officer Crayon said:
Griffolion said:
I don't believe in being 'better', two people may be better suited together, but never better. That's just an immature term used by hipsters and vegans because they're all just angry people.

Though in British society it seems these days if you're not in a band, a photographer, graphic designer, a model then you are some sort of social failure. But you can redeem yourself if you buy a Mac, of course.

I do feel for people who think they aren't good enough or that other people are better, because it's hard to break out of that cycle of low self esteem. I would suggest maybe trying to seek validation and be happy in yourself before going out into the world of relationships, because fragile ego's don't last long in there.
i gotta say, your feedback is the best. it was good, and some parts legitimately were funny and made me laugh
No problem, relationships are weird. I'm a big computer nerd, therefore when I interact with things, I expect them to operate exactly as I tell them to, just like a computer. But unfortunately people aren't like that, nothing is certain, you have to learn to take the ups with the downs, take the hits and know that while it is about personal relationships, the knock-backs are almost never personal (unless the ***** actually sets out to hurt you).

Actually it might be good my girlfriends aren't like computers. Because I don't want her to BSoD during sex, just saying.
 

Ziadaine_v1legacy

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Seems like the other way around for me, most female friends (aside from a few that have been in LONG relationships and still in it) date total morons despite many of us telling them so, then after they learn their lesson, they still date someone who's the same.

Head-desk.
 

wax88

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HardkorSB said:
Officer Crayon said:
A girl that i really liked, is going out with someone out as of now. I was going to ask her about a month ago if she wanted to go out, but i was very hesitant. I knew that she liked one of my other friends. I also thought that she would be better with him than with me.
Im not going to put up a poll. I want to see reactions rather than just yes/no. have you ever experienced this?
That has never happened to me because I'm the best.
lolz..narcissism FTW.

edit: @Ziadaine: Haha, yeah exactly. As i said earlier, confidence > Character, and since some people having been boosting their confidence rather than character development, we have such a situation. *facedesk in unison*
 

The Last Parade

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What's with all the submissive betas here? man up guys actually take pride in yourselves...

think about it this way, there's no one in the world like you guys, no matter what. Take pride in yourselves for fucks sake
 

rabidmidget

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It's never really come up, I warp my perception of reality so that I appear to be the best person ever.

Life is good.
 

6037084

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Unless the dude she's going out with is a millionaire with at least 8/10 looks, it's your fault next time don't be such a pussy and ask a girl you like out before others have a chance to do it, you may be rejected but rejection is better than wishing you would have done it when it's too late.
 

Rawne1980

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I have a slightly inflated ego so often refuse to believe other people are "better" than me.

That said I have come across a lass I liked that was with someone else and now she's my wife.

If you are going to spend your life pondering the if's and but's of everything then you aint going to get a right lot going your way. Sometimes it's better to take a chance. What is the absolute worst that can happen? She knocks you back in the worst case scenario so you dust yourself off and pick yourself back up.

Nobody is "better" than you just different, unless you are a woman beating muppet which i'm going to assume you are not.
 

KILGAZOR

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If there's someone better than you,and they steal your girl, kill them. Then they're not better. Cuz they're dead. Bahahaha.....

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You can probably tell it's been awhile since I've been with a woman.