The hardest question.

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

So recently my friend got the girl I like to text me (Not by force or anything... ehhh sort of hard to explain... On the last day of school... I failed at getting her number.)

But alas, we have been texting eachother a lot, and today...

Today I asked her if she would like to go catch a movie with me and a few friends. She accepted. But then, she asked me if we would be going as friends, or moar than friends... Oh god...

She stated she was fine with both, but wanted to get to know me better.
The thing is, she also got out of a serious relationship, and I know that's like a sensitive wound.
I replied I was fine with both, as well, but we decided friends, I really like her, but at the least, I want to be friends with her. And she says that she'd like to be friends with me at the least.

So that was probably the toughest question I have ever been asked. She's beautiful, intelegent, funny, friendly, and everything I look for in a girl, but she is a really good friend. And I'd love to get to know her better.

So Escapisters, what do you think of my desicion, and what was the hardest question you have ever been asked?

 

[RoboPenguin]

I think you know the girl better than us, so you should be better at making an informed decision on the matter. Friendship is a nice safe place to be, but don't come crying to us if you remain stuck in the "friend zone".

Personally, if I was that girl I would have preferred honesty right up front about your feelings. Relationships really don't need any more added complications to them.

 

[Pappytech]

Well, to me, it sounds like you were under a lot of pressure. You could have very easily screwed that up. But, it seems that you made a very good decision. You've got the choice to take your relationship anywhere you want from there. Good job, and good luck.

The hardest question anyone's ever asked me... well, as of right now, I've got a chance to get involved with a program at school that will pretty much guarantee I'll be in school/employed by a certain company for at least the next 7 years. Which is a very long time. It's a great opportunity, but at the same time, I'm not sure I want to commit to something that long. Yipe.

 

[Limecake]

Personally, if I was that girl I would have preferred honesty right up front about your feelings. Relationships really don't need any more added complications to them.

yeah If I were you I'd change the plans so you're going as more than friends, you might think it's nice to be just friends with her right now because you never really got to hang out with her before (from what I can tell).

How will you feel about just being friends when she gets another boyfriend? or a couple months down the road when you decide you don't want to be just friends.

the thing is that once put on the 'friend' list the chances of you becoming anymore than that are minimal. Just be straight and tell her what you want if it doesn't work out between you two than you could probably stay friends, but to make the jump from friends to anything more is going to be quite a jump.

at least that's my experience.

EDIT: Forgot to include the hardest question ever asked to me:

"what do you want to be when you grow up"

 

[artanis_neravar]

I think you know the girl better than us, so you should be better at making an informed decision on the matter. Friendship is a nice safe place to be, but don't come crying to us if you remain stuck in the "friend zone".

Personally, if I was that girl I would have preferred honesty right up front about your feelings. Relationships really don't need any more added complications to them.

There is no friend zone, she already admitted to wanting to date him. The so called friend zone is an invention of guys to help explain why a girl they like doesn't return the feelings because rather then just accept that not everyone is going to like you they would rather believe that they have become to close to the girl to be considered for dating.

EDIT: You did the right thing for you, it can always advance from there.

 

[spartan231490]

I think you should have said as more than friends, but that's just me. It's really hard to go from friends to dating, but as long as you don't do something retarded like cheating on her, it's not that hard to go from dating to just friends. As for the hardest question I've ever been asked? I have no idea. Nothing as hard to answer as your question probably.

 

[Daystar Clarion]

That's not the hardest question at all.

'Is there anything tastier than a cheese and Branston pickle sandwich?'

Now, that's a hard question.

OP: Suck it up and take the intiative, if both of you are too shy to take it further than nobody gets anything they want.

If you don't ask, you don't get, simples.

 

[neonsword13-ops]

You made the move man! Good job! (I read your thread about the girl about a week ago.)

You're doing good. Just keep moving forward slowly.

 

[Enrathi]

There have been several women I was friends with first before I started dating and it worked out just fine. I think you should let it be known how you feel, but either way at least you know she's interested in you as well. Also remember that unless one of you screws things up badly, you can always go from dating to friends rather easily, sometimes relationships just don't work out for no reason other than you just aren't compatible. You can still remain friends after that.

As for the hardest question I've ever been asked..."What the Hell is wrong with you?" Where to begin with that one

 

[Akytalusia]

despite everyone else considering physical relationships universal winning conditions, friendship is the best way to fly. so you made a fine decision imho.

 

[StBishop]

Sounds like you want more than friends. I'd tell her that but I don't know her, you, or the situation, you do.

I can't think of an on topic example. Oh, when I was about 14 the girl I had a crush on (since about 12 and continued to have a crush on until about 17) leant in to kiss me, but she was dating my mate so I pulled away. Was hard but I'm glad it was my default reaction. I think it's one of the best decisions I've made.

She ended up hooking up with a random guy from out of town within days of both that event and breaking up with my friend. I think it's safe to assume she wasn't trying to kiss me specifically, just someone.

That's not the hardest question at all.

'Is there anything tastier than a cheese and Branston pickle sandwich?'

Now, that's a hard question.

OP: Suck it up and take the intiative, if both of you are too shy to take it further than nobody gets anything they want.

If you don't ask, you don't get, simples.

The answer to your question lies at the end of a difficult path.

You must cook a silverside in pineapple juice for about 6 hours and then add this to a Branston, Kewpie Mayo, and Cheese sandwich. Then compare them.

 

[gazumped]

You said you were also fine with both so you've both admitted you like each other. She said she wants to get to know you better so you're friends... for now.
Sounds to me like you both know where you are and what the other wants, I reckon you handled that admirably.

Good luck!

 

[SwimmingRock]

Your answer, OP, sounds like what I would have said, so I can't really disagree with it. Then again, I'm a loser, so that might be a bad thing.

As for the second part, I have no idea what the hardest question I've ever been asked was. I just go with what feels like the right choice at all times and clean up the mess afterwards, so I find all questions easy to deal with.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Sounds like you want more than friends. I'd tell her that but I don't know her, you, or the situation, you do.

I can't think of an on topic example. Oh, when I was about 14 the girl I had a crush on (since about 12 and continued to have a crush on until about 17) leant in to kiss me, but she was dating my mate so I pulled away. Was hard but I'm glad it was my default reaction. I think it's one of the best decisions I've made.

She ended up hooking up with a random guy from out of town within days of both that event and breaking up with my friend. I think it's safe to assume she wasn't trying to kiss me specifically, just someone.

That's not the hardest question at all.

'Is there anything tastier than a cheese and Branston pickle sandwich?'

Now, that's a hard question.

OP: Suck it up and take the intiative, if both of you are too shy to take it further than nobody gets anything they want.

If you don't ask, you don't get, simples.

The answer to your question lies at the end of a difficult path.

You must cook a silverside in pineapple juice for about 6 hours and then add this to a Branston, Kewpie Mayo, and Cheese sandwich. Then compare them.

She already knows that I like her... and... WHY IS THINKING SO HARD???

 

[SoopaSte123]

Awwwww isn't that cute. I wish you kids the best.

Honestly I was expected a "Do you like Kirk or do you like Picard?"

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

Hang on, she's "everything you look for in a girl", AND she's single, AND she's hinting that you have a chance with her?

Dude... Just. F*cking. Do It!

 

[Uszi]

Today I asked her if she would like to go catch a movie with me and a few friends. She accepted. But then, she asked me if we would be going as friends, or moar than friends... Oh god...

This is a test. You need to show her that you're at least ballsy enough to act interested in her. If you don't display an overt romantic interest you will have failed this test. To wit, women don't want guys who are going to be all wishy-washy about their interest in them. Most women, that I know of, want a guy to sweep them off their feet.

I swear to god I am not a misogynist or a chauvinist--honestly, I consider myself a feminist, but after developing a better understanding of women, I realized how fucking crazy they are.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Hang on, she's "everything you look for in a girl", AND she's single, AND she's hinting that you have a chance with her?

Dude... Just. F*cking. Do It!

But she said she'd also like to get to know me, and that she'd love to be friends. But I really like her, and I know she likes me. I think it would be best to just see how this "Date" goes, and maybe try to get in a relationship come the start of school.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Today I asked her if she would like to go catch a movie with me and a few friends. She accepted. But then, she asked me if we would be going as friends, or moar than friends... Oh god...

This is a test. You need to show her that you're at least ballsy enough to act interested in her. If you don't display an overt romantic interest you will have failed this test. To wit, women don't want guys who are going to be all wishy-washy about their interest in them. Most women, that I know of, want a guy to sweep them off their feet.

I swear to god I am not a misogynist or a chauvinist--honestly, I consider myself a feminist, but after developing a better understanding of women, I realized how fucking crazy they are.

Well here is what she said, "Would we be going to the movies as friends, or as possibly more than that? I'm open to both, but i'd just like to get to know you better. Also, I just got out of a pretty serious relationship, so I need some time for more than friends stuff." So I just figured to play it as it lied, and pick up from there...