It is very nice to discuss something with someone who makes me think. However, this answer will go greatly off-topic.
I say they are a scapegoat because they're an easy target, a quick thing to blame. IMO, girls are more susceptible to these images for the same reason young boys are have waning motivation. Too much youth, not enough growing up. "Youth" has now expanded into the late twenties, responsibility-wise. Fifty years ago, at eighteen you were pretty much expected to sally forth and make your life. There might be college, but those were the days when college wasn't an expectation. (My dad jokes that when he graduated college they'd pay you just to hang around. LOL.) You were raised with the expectation that you would leave after high school and make a life. What do you think that meant to a fourteen year old? Probably the same thing it means to a kid heading off to college today (if you're lucky.) So we've pushed fourteen into at least eighteen, expectation wise. Considering the number of parents calling college professors about their children's grades, I wonder what the actual "you're own your own" mark is.
Self-esteem is important, but the kind of false self-esteem we've been peddling to children has not helped them. They are kept at home in an entitled existence, with no real chores, a sort of self-aware boredom that only vacuous entertainment fills. Throw into this mix a maturing body, a body that says "I'm an adult." And this seems to be one area that parent indulge their kids in growing up: their appearance. And low and behold, in the absence of real
earned accomplishment, they discover they can get approval through their appearance. They can wear the right clothes, plop on the makeup, carry around a cell phone and "play" at grown-up, not realizing that this is all a lie. Of course, the internet plays its own part since it's full of false self-esteem. Girls are filling themselves up on junk food self-esteem essentially. Is it any wonder they're pissed when they discover the lie?
Again, this is a fairly modern problem, so you have to look at what's really changed. Look at the movies of the 30s and forties, Marilyn Monroe, and of course, there were still the ubiquitous women's magazines during all of it, all full of the same ads for make up and perfume, et.al. But somehow, those daughters (and myself) didn't look in the mirror and despair more than a few moments that "I would never look like that." Apparently, their self-worth wasn't as tightly tied to their appearance.
So what's changed? It's how we raise the kids. Eternal childhood juxtaposed with a maturing body. A lack of self-esteem achieved through contribution and accomplishment, but filled with the transitory thrill of possession of a thing.
It's the same with screen time. We're far more diet conscious today than we ever were when I was a child. Most meals I ate were fried with gravy. No diet anything, and Kool-aid was made with real sugar. No low fat, whole grain anything. I never ate whole wheat bread until I was an adult. Yet there wasn't this epidemic of childhood obesity. So what's changed?
Screen time. When I was a kid, there was TV for kids on Saturday mornings, and from 3-5pm after school. Charlie Brown and the Wizard of Oz came on once a year, and woe to you if you missed them, because next time was a whole year away. Heck, when I was a kid "The Ten Commandments" was kid's TV because of all the special effects. LOL. Contrast that to the eight or ten cable stations dispensing 24 hour television for kids, the on demand viewing of DVDs, and of course computer and video games. We didn't have those things. We were outside riding our bikes, walking to the store with a quarter (to buy candy.) The last thing in the world we wanted was to be inside where our parents were.
cheeze_pavilion said:
why is your issue anything more than a personal preference? Why should someone other than you have a problem with these images?
Of course it's a personal preference, but I have shared some of the examples shown here to other women who also think they're not flattering to the perception of women. But at the risk of making this the Longest Post Eva, I will share with you a conversation that occurred today.
I go to the grocery store, and Michael, my ten year old, comes along. It's a big grocery store, with a toy section and a pretty nice electronics section. So he comes with and vanishes there, hoping he can talk me into getting him something.
When I'm about halfway done, he runs up to me and says "can we get Soul Caliber IV?"
"No," I say. "Don't ask me for stuff while I'm shopping."
Hmmm, I think, now I can go see the game though, and not just screenshots.
So later as we're checking out, I remember this and say "Darn, I wanted to check out that game," and Michael asks why.
"I hear the girls wear skimpy outfits."
He grins. "When they fall down you can see up their dress."
I can't resist. "Do you think that makes them look stupid for wearing a dress, or that they want the boys to look up their dress?"
He thinks. "A little bit of both, I guess."
I tell him I've been in an internet argument over that, and that someone told me it was women's magazines fault, and I gesture to the magazines littering the checkout.
"That's dumb," he says. "Why would a girl want to fight in a dress?"
And somehow it's goes from "it's dumb to fight in a dress" to "I don't see a problem with boobs hanging out while you're in a fight."
My ten year old son is perfectly willing to let a girl fight and look like
a fighter. Where does it change I wonder? *grows misty eyed* I know we're all culpable in some way, it's just a part of our culture. When SC8 comes out and he's nineteen, will he grow googly eyed over Ivy's impossibly smaller costume, or will he still think it's dumb?
(Barbie has undergone a makeover, BTW. I'm not sure when but no longer does she have the wasp waist and torpedoes of my youth. I don't know the details because I only have boys, which is probably a good thing because those "Brats" dolls look atrocious.)