The Most Sexist Thing That's Happened To You

[AngloDoom]

When I was in school, there was some graffiti on the wall of the form-room. A teacher, who had never previously worked with our class, happened to come in that day and see the graffiti. As a result of the graffiti most likely having been done during a lunch-break, every lunch the girls were entrusted with the keys to the form with the instruction that they shouldn't let any of the boys in.
I asked the teacher about it and she said that "girls don't graffiti" and hinted that just by asking, I was mostly likely the culprit. In the end, I went to one of the higher-ups and complained and the boys were eventually let back into the form during lunch, but it took over a week to get to this point.

Another example is when a girl casually told me I was inherently sexist. At first, I thought she meant that all people are sexist to some degree so I went ahead and said so. Then she frowned and told me "No, all men are sexist" without a hint of irony. When I pointed out how ignorant she was being she told me I "didn't understand" because I "didn't have proper emotions". Then she started spouting some nonsense about how "when a women says she loves you, she means it" as if men don't. When I told her I'd been in a relationship where I'd been cheated on five times by somebody who told me they loved me, she then told me it was my own fault because "a girl only cheats on a guy because he's being a dick."

I ended up rage-quitting the conversation and just walking away before I ate my own head out f frustration.

 

[Vault101]

Sadly, I see a lot of sexist shit on this very forum.

Really? Wherabouts?

I happen to pick up sexism more than others for some reason, I don't know why but it pisses me off so I'm really sensitive to spotting the most subtle of sexist things. So I sorta see it all the time :/ Personally, I don't really experience it, friends make jokes that gamer girls don't exist but they're only kidding. I really can't think of anything right now. I get really bothered because everywhere I go I see these gender roles and stereotypes. Comedians are always making jokes about women. It pisses me ooooffff.

I also pick up things more thease days...not nesicarly "sexism" per se but double standards and such

anyway in regards to thease forums one prime example was the "freind zone" issue which personally I found a general attutide to be "ugghh I cant get a girlfred...all women are sluts who go for dickheads!" it revealed some issues some have with women, it also happens when people have the attitude that women are aliens and not people

anyway I find that mian problem is that BOTH sides tend to get overly defensive and antoagonistic to the point it becomes pointless back and forth

as in

ok so a women called you a sexist pig because you opened the door for her, that means she was a *****/idiot...that DOESNT mean feminism is bad or you are being opressed

and ok a guy assumed you dont know much about games when you walked into the store..that doesnt make him a sexist pig, he was just trying to help a customer, we are ALL guilty of making assumptions

 

[Galletea]

Well the only think that I can think of is back at school...10 years ago maybe? My friend wanted to be a marine biologist, and the science teacher laughed at her and said "girls can't be scientists". But he was a dick, and it was some time back now.

I think there's a lot of sexism levelled at men these days. If you said a woman couldn't do something now, there would be an outcry, but everyday I hear women saying something like "you wouldn't understand, you're a man" or "men can't do that" about various things, like cleaning, having emotions, thinking logically. I find the hypocrisy of it all very irritating. I don't mind the odd sexist joke if it's funny, and well timed.

Moreover I think a lot of women are looking for sexism all the time, so a harmless poke about comparative strength suddenly becomes a sexist issue. Yes there is sexism around, we're not created the same, so people are going to point out the differences. Mostly there's no ill-intent with it, but it becomes a contentious issue, as some people seem to look for offence where there is none.

 

[Firesti Keralimah]

It's called chivalry. I don't understand it either. It used to be a good thing.

Chivalry was never a good thing, it was sexist against both men and women. It portrayed women as weak creatures, which needed to be protected and provided for, because they couldn't do it themselves, and set up the (still slightly present) precedent of men as the expendable gender, which needed to protect and provide for the women, and be ready to lay down their lives for any woman, and which would face persecution for daring to believe their lives of equal worth to a woman's life. (See: Men executed aboard the Titanic for trying to board the lifeboats before the women and children.)

 

[Astoria]

I don't think I've ever personally experienced sexism but my boss refuses to hire a guy because she believes the florist industry is for girls.

 

[Vault101]

This topic annoys me. As far as men wearing skirts, it's not right in societies eyes. It was always an icon for the female. I don't know why, I don't care why, maybe it's because women have better looking legs than men (on average) and it shows them off better?

There will never be total equality, it can't happen. For example, paid parental leave. If a woman and a man are applying for a job with paid parental leave, assume wages are they same, they both have equal qualifications etc. As an employer which would you choose? For arguments sake it's a customer service rep, which I think men and women should do equally well.

Any employer would choose the man as if he fell preggers, wouldn't take the paid parental leave.

Our bodies are different, men and women are different, there are surgeries to try and alter that, but at the end of the day we are ultimately who we are born as. And because of that, there will always be differences and inequalities. It's something that, in the real world, just will not, and can not change.

That said don't think of me as a sexist pig, I'm all for womens rights, and I do think they have a little way to go in some areas before things will be right.

EDIT:

i held a door for a woman and she just assumed that i did so cause i didnt think she could do it, just because she was a lady, instead of just out of common courtesy, one of my main gripes with modern feminists, and no, not the ones that are actually doing the right thing, the ones that think every man wants to hold them back from being an "independent" woman. honestly, holding the door is just holding the door, why do i do it? cause im not rude

It's called chivalry. I don't understand it either. It used to be a good thing.

well I guess the Idea against "chilvalry" is that it implies women are weak creatures needed to be protected, and it goes against equality, opening a door is a harmless act sure, I guess the whole Idea iits a trade off for not being able to do the same things as men and being expected to act ladylike

HOWEVER I dont think a women should act like that over it, it just goes hand in hand with common courtesy and politness...so yeah they are idiots

also we should expect it just because we are women...its just common sense really

 

[Hoplon]

I've been cussed at and berated by complete strangers for being a sexist pig by people I've never spoken to before, because I'm a guy. I'm used to it.

Of course, since I'm a guy, it's not sexism.

To be fair to them you where walking out of a strip joint at the time. /kidding

Yeah, mostly for men it's stiff like "men never ..." but honestly is hilariously minor given the grand scheme of things.

 

[Cheesus333]

I guess I may not be remembering it all correctly since it was a fair while ago, but in Year 6 we had a whole-year singing class. I don't know why, but it was mandatory. As you can imagine, the singing voices of 10-year-old girls and boys are not greatly differentiated, which resulted in every single boy in the year being berated every week without fail for not putting the effort in.

...Woooo.

The guy who lead that class was a dick, anyway. He may have also been a paedophile but I don't know.

EDIT: Also, not strictly sexist but I can't count the amount of times someone's moaned at me "it's so much harder to be a girl". Maybe it is. Maybe it's not. But how exactly would they know?

 

[Realitycrash]

Well, I got beaten up pretty much in my youth because I was goth and I wore a skirt as a dude (a long black one, not a short one). But I don't call that sexist.
Nooo..I'd go with all the jobs I'v lost to a woman, because she's pretty and got boobs. Working as a bartender, this happens more often than you think.
Fuck I hate guys. I'm a guy myself, but when someone uses the logic "Oh, let's employ her! She knows jack-shit but if guys think they have a chance of scoring, they'll buy more alcohol!" I just want to go postal with a shotgun.

 

[Latinidiot]

Luckily I dot't encounter sexism as blatantly or as often as i read here, though I'm sure it's happening right under my nose, just not to me.

The obly slightly sexist thing i encounter is that a (female) friend of mine ALWAYS says, as if she's a stand up comedian: What's up with men(insert something that I and my mate were doing at that point). It's not really sexist, it's just very annoying that to her, I don't do anything. My chromosome does.

 

[Fieldy409_v1legacy]

Oh lol for some reason i read this as 'the most sexiest thing that's happened to you' I was expecting a thread full of people talking about their sexual encounters or something.

My brain is the dumb.

 

[Snotnarok]

My friend would keep hitting everyone, as it slaps across the arm, knee chest, belly, punches, but if you hit her back in anyway that's just wrong. yes I know it's lame but I'm a guy and besides the odd statement I can't say I was ever really offended. Call me thick skinned ...But don't call me a loser D:

 

[mirasiel]

Um... when I walk into a game store, the employees tend to treat me like someone who is there to get a Wii Fit or something. Or they assume I'm looking for my "boyfriend".

I'm terrible for that, in my defence its because thats usually the majority of the female demographic I get through the shop is looking for wii fit type stuff or buying 'duty of honor' for their boyfriend whilst rolling their eyes and trying to not touch anything in the shop lest it infect them.

When you have about 2 minutes to deal with a customer you start to take shortcuts to helping them and thats one of them.

*sorry*

 

[irani_che]

Sexist?

Rejected for a a scholarship because I am male

 

[TriggerOnly]

Not on topic, but I read that about three times and each time I read 'sexist' I saw it was 'sexiest'. And each time your story confused me, because that situation wasn't sexy at all!

Me 2 I was already to hear some saucie storys, and then...... wtf is this about SUITS!

 

[Rawne1980]

Why are women in here complaining about things being sexist?

Why are they not in the kitchen making me a sammich?

I'm only joking ladies, please don't hunt me down and beat me.

 

[SleepyChan]

My dad told me I would lose all my worth as a human being once I lose my virginity.

You too?! I hated that speech. Or..."If you don't marry that guy, there's something wrong with you." The stupidity never ends.

 

[Vault101]

Um... when I walk into a game store, the employees tend to treat me like someone who is there to get a Wii Fit or something. Or they assume I'm looking for my "boyfriend".

I'm terrible for that, in my defence its because thats usually the majority of the female demographic I get through the shop is looking for wii fit type stuff or buying 'duty of honor' for their boyfriend whilst rolling their eyes and trying to not touch anything in the shop lest it infect them.

When you have about 2 minutes to deal with a customer you start to take shortcuts to helping them and thats one of them.

*sorry*

true story....my sister recently aparently got her boyfreind "Modern Warcraft black ops" I laughed and also mentioned that "Charlie and the chocolate factory of Narnia" was on that night, as was "Die hard face off"

she wasnt too impressed that I got a PS3 with my own money...a little hypocritical since she got her BF his PS3