The Myth of the Angry Feminist

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Escapefromwhatever

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Alright, guys, I was just looking at this thread [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.270981-Poll-Do-you-consider-yourself-a-feminist], and I'm about to go Super Saiyan as a result. There are tons of people questioning the OP's definition of feminism and further perpetrating that feminists are angry, crazy women who want more rights than men.

This is contradictory to the core values of feminism. Feminism, at a basic level, is and has always been about EQUALITY between men and women. It was prompted by women feeling left out when men had more rights than them- i.e. right to vote, right to own property, right to be an individual citizen as a daughter or in marriage, etc. Just read Mary Wollstonecraft's A Vindication of the Rights of Women and you'll know what I'm talking about. But another aspect of feminism, especially more recently, has been the liberation of men from gender expectations as well as pushing for equal rights for any group that is departmentalized against, with the logic that if they are not helped, then women will not receive aid either. In this way, it has taken a much more humanist approach. Every single feminist I have met, and I have met a few unsavory feminists, has gone by this philosophy, and has never believed that women should have more rights than men. Do you really have so much daily interaction with feminists that you can claim otherwise, or just a few flimsy anecdotes? Have you ever actually studied feminist theory? Please stop going by a tired old stereotype perpetrated by the media and actually look at the feminist movement as a whole before you judge it. At least give it the courtesy of a Google search [http://lmgtfy.com/?q=Feminism].

EDIT: There seems to be confusion as to why I have brought up Wollstonecraft. This isn't to say that people haven't changed in the time since the book was written, but rather to give some historical context for feminism and to show that in its inception (though feminism does go back farther than Wollstonecraft, she is a good example of one of its earliest modern incarnations) it was still largely about equality.

EDIT 2: People seem to think that just because I am defending feminists (OH NOES HOW TERRIBLE AHHHHH) that I myself am one of the raging feminists that I claim is largely a mythological being. Actually, while I am a woman and have studied feminism, those studies were largely incidental and parts of courses focused on other subjects. I agree with equal rights, of course, but have never really thought about labeling myself as a feminist. Though, because I do support equal rights, I guess I am. But the main reason I posted this is because I am tired of the "feminazi" stereotype. People who spread it sound to me like Glenn Beck and his numerous and hilarious comparisons of things that don't deserve it to the Nazis. In real life, it's just as wrong as the "lazy mexican" or "dumb black person" stereotypes, and in fiction, it usually makes for boring writing. I just want it to die.

Also, ever heard of hyperbole? I call it a myth, knowing that you guys can probably come up with a counterexample or two, because it is not a proper representation of most feminists or feminist schools of thought. Its largely fiction perpetrated by tired writing in even the best of programs- such as The Simpsons. Please don't discredit my entire argument because of one word used stylistically in a manner you didn't understand.
 

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I don't find feminism bad because I advocate fair treatment of people. I think a lot of people looks at feminists and regard them as what I like to call ultrafeminists. Sort of like there are people far right or far left of the political spectrum, I call ultraconservative or ultraliberal.
 

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I think it's sort of like religion. I mean, I know a bunch of Christians and most of them are good upstanding people. But there are a handful that are just straight up insane and should probably be put in a nice padded room for their safety as well as that of others. Basically the same for Feminism as far as I've seen (through interactions). Most of them are basically good upstanding people who are just asking for something completely reasonable, but then you get that same handful who are just insane.

In short, there are always extremists in every group who colour the perception of the others who view the group from the outside.
 

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I dislike the term "feminist" because I find it sexist and demeaning. I stand for equality for all, but I absolutely will not call myself the f-word.
 
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Well see that is the problem there are people who claim to be Feminist and end up creating this image of the stereotypical Hairy legged, Lesbian, Man hating Feminist. In fact people like that are no better than Racists really as they want to be what men were. These people will complain about a man holding a door open for a woman with a child to be polite not because she is a woman and not able to open the door but what are you gonna d?
 

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My only beef with feminists is when they try to expand the idea of feminism to a literary philosophy, for example, "explore The Lion King using the Feminist perspective." or something dumb like that. At university we had a module looking at the planning system through different political ideals, eg. the Marxist perspective, etc. etc. One of the ideals was the feminist perspective. The only practical application feminism gave about the whole planning industry was that engineering buildings usually lack female toilets, and underground tunnels are scary for women at night. Considering Marxism gave a full critisism of the planning system and basically painted us as devils controlling the proles, feminism left a lot to be desired.

That said yes, most feminists are perfectly sane people who just want equal rights, But as ever its the loud, crazy minority are the ones that are heard the most.
 
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Exactly what sort of feminism are you talking about here? First Second or Third wave feminism? Because second wave feminism is the most represented and that was, for the most part, much more radical bra-burning type feminism. They never actually burned their bras but there was a lot of anger.

I've met feminists of all three waves, and I have to say that the second wave feminists really are the more militant types, even though a lot of them are heading towards their sixties, they haven't mellowed at all. So there is some basis for the 'myth' of angry feminism, because it did happen, and quite recently.

Overall, although there are of course extremist fringes of every movement etc, it is just as wrong to claim that feminism has never been militant as it is to claim that is is always militant. Also, according to a quick wikipedia and related articles search, there has never been an all-encompassing single feminist idea, not since the first suffragettes, only a general sense of 'equality of women to men.'

And that final idea is where I clash with feminism. I consider myself an equalist. I don't think women need to be raised to the point of men, or men need to be lowered to the point of women or vice versa. I think there just needs to be equality based on ideals external to gender. There are imbalances towards men, usually based around child-rearing but not entirely, including jobs which are seen as female centred just as much as there are jobs considered male-contred.

If we want true equality, we shouldn't have groups claiming that women need equality, we need groups saying we should just be equal, and there is a massive difference between the two.

I had to read Wollstonecraft for Romanticism last year and found it one of the most boring books ever. If you want a good feminist writer, Angela Carter is a much better start.
 

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OP doesn't have a understanding of feminism.
There are two types: Liberal feminism and Gender Feminism.

Liberal Feminism believe that women have the right to express themselves as sexual entities, among other things. They're for equality and so believe that people should have as much freedom as possible.

Gender Feminism, the manhaters, are quiet real. At the University we had to read an essay by one. They support repression in order to protect women. They believe that Women are superior to men. They believe that All Hetero sexual relations amount to rape, or otherwise take a very dim view of hetero sexual relations.

Its serious business. Really.
 

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wiredk said:
There are two types: Liberal feminism and Gender Feminism.
Actually, there are as many 'types' of feminism as there are feminists. How many have you met?

wiredk said:
They believe that All Hetero sexual relations amount to rape, or otherwise take a very dim view of hetero sexual relations.
You're quoting Andrea Dworkin, one of the most consistently misquoted women in history.

What she actually said was that rape was a cultural strand running through heterosexual relationships, and that pornography was the visual culture of rape. She did not say that all heterosexual relations are tantamount to rape, but that the imagery in which those are grounded draws on rape images all the time without realizing it.

The intended response was 'hmm.. how can I make my sexual relationships more interesting/fair/equal', not 'oh noes! they be stealin mah heterosexuality!'

Seriously, it fucking bugs me when people don't bother to read the things they're slagging off.

Hero in a half shell said:
My only beef with feminists is when they try to expand the idea of feminism to a literary philosophy, for example, "explore The Lion King using the Feminist perspective." or something dumb like that. At university we had a module looking at the planning system through different political ideals, eg. the Marxist perspective, etc. etc. One of the ideals was the feminist perspective. The only practical application feminism gave about the whole planning industry was that engineering buildings usually lack female toilets, and underground tunnels are scary for women at night. Considering Marxism gave a full critisism of the planning system and basically painted us as devils controlling the proles, feminism left a lot to be desired.
You really have no idea do you?

Go study an arts, humanities subject or a social science, and then come back when you've earned the right to genuinely assess the feminist contribution to scholarship in those areas.
 

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If feminists don't want to be stereotyped, they should stop stereotyping men. I've not yet met a feminist who doesn't regard all men as rapists. SOMEONE PLEASE PROVE ME WRONG.
 

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stinkychops said:
You're wrong by definition.

I don't care how much you've "studied" feminism.

Feminism:
"a doctrine that advocates equal rights for women "
Actually, according to Merriam-Webster, you'd be wrong by 'Definition'

Quote:
1: the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
2: organized activity on behalf of women's rights and interests

Also, wouldn't it stand to reason that, if you're fighting for equal rights for the females, this means equal to rights for which males currently have, thus leading to both genders being equal in rights?

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So no, as far as I can see, Women lead better lives than men. What with them not killing themselves, making better lifestyle choices, having less mental illness, better health, being paid less because they work in better conditions and the whole "not being labelled as sex offenders" thing.
um.. where are you getting your stats for this? (PS, the concept of equal rights for women extends to outside of North America, you do realize)
 

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arbane said:
stinkychops said:
So no, as far as I can see, Women lead better lives than men. What with them not killing themselves, making better lifestyle choices, having less mental illness, better health, being paid less because they work in better conditions and the whole "not being labelled as sex offenders" thing.
Getting paid less than men for the same work, having a vastly higher chance of getting raped, having to deal with pregnancy, dealing with religious bigots who think they're subhuman.... wow, women sure have it easy!
Did you notice how you listed things (2 and 3) that only apply because of gender and the previous post didn't mention gender at all?
 

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Whatever, just wash your hands.
really if you think that women deserve the same rights as men then your a feminist, the problem is that like everything else the right wing decided to make the word feminist a 4 letter word which is about the only thing they are good at, making words mean something they dont and demonizing the people the represent
 

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stinkychops said:
So no, as far as I can see, Women lead better lives than men. What with them not killing themselves, making better lifestyle choices, having less mental illness, better health, being paid less because they work in better conditions and the whole "not being labelled as sex offenders" thing.
Wrong in every single case, except perhaps better health. But statistically they visit the doctor a lot more and are more likely to report serious illness.

Seriously, I don't even know how to start arguing with someone whose understanding of the topic is based on such flawed principles.
 

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I as a woman will say this: The people who infulence and lead the modern feminist movement ARE sexist and are also usually lesbian. Here is a fun set of quotes from a well known feminist woman who wrote text books for schools: http://womenshistory.about.com/od/quotes/a/andrea_dworkin_2.htm

To me, if you beleive in equality then you should not support a mind set called *Fem*inism. Or any kind of ism, like racism or anti-semitism. The usual counter argument to this is that these are extreme feminists but if you only go to one KKK meeting a year that still makes you rascist regardless to how moderate you are.

Here is a good quote to really sum up my opinion of it all but unfortunatly there is no name on it :(

"If women had equality with men I could lift a manhole in the street and see her down there keeping the crap flowing alongside the men. I could look up and see women walking around atop half built skyscrapers. I would see them down mines. On fishing trawlers. I would see them emptying bins on those smelly wagons. I would see a 50-50 casualty rate between the genders on battlefields. I would see them on oil rigs. I would see firewomen carrying men over their shoulders down ladders. I would watch disasters like the 9-11 videos and instead of watching women screaming and running away from the towers I would see them beside the men running INTO the buildings. I would see females appearing in the deaths at work stats on an equal footing. I would see men getting custody close to 50% of the time in family courts. Women getting the same sentences as men in courts. Male rape victims being discussed on TV with equal regularity as female victims. I would see jails packed with females guilty of paternity fraud and women cheering to see them there. I would see male victims of abuse having shelters to go too with their children, and Ads on TV trying to help them. All of this, and much more though, is NOT what is meant by females when they say "equality." When they use the word "equality" it means "preferential treatment." It means, 'no matter how badly behaved I am; no matter how sexist I may be; no matter how brutal I can get; no matter how many lies I tell; no matter what crimes I commit; no matter what statistics I distort. I want to be treated like an infant, allowed to get away with it and NEVER have to face up to my responsibility for it. Unless, I want a boardroom job, then I want to be treated as an adult until I have got it. AND, if you (men) do not let me then you are not a man. ' THAT is the feminist meaning of equality."